I’m not sure why, but for some reason, the thought of having sex after having a baby feels almost as scary as labor itself. I mean, you just birthed a watermelon-sized human. So, yeah, getting it on might not be high on your list.
But eventually, whether it’s when le bébé starts actually sleeping, your horniness returns or your partner’s birthday comes around, you’ll be faced with the notion of having sex again. While sure, you could jump right into the (balls) deep end, it’s a muuuch better idea to ease into the act with postpartum sex products.
So, when can you have sex after birth? *Most* people get the go-ahead from their doctors to resume intimacy at around six weeks postpartum, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be ready. In fact, I laughed in my OBGYN’s face when she gave me the green light. But masturbating? That didn’t sound so bad after eight-ish weeks (and a few erotic novels). And once my vagina remembered it could make me feel good, it warmed up to the idea of inviting my partner back for a visit.
The trick, however, was stocking up on sex toys that made the transition easier (and the orgasms better, FWIW). From stimulating lubes to clitoral vibes, here are the best postpartum products that’ll have you climaxing again…even after having a kid.
Bullet Vibe
Ten modes, whisper-quiet, and rechargeable, the Mantric Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator is a classic that does everything your clit could dream of (and more, tbh). It’s small enough to travel with and easy to whip out mid-sex if penetration just isn’t cutting it.
Wand Vibrator
If I had to pick one sex toy to use for the rest of my life, it would be the Magic Wand; it’s a classic for a reason. Rumbly, rechargeable, and beyond effective, it was my postpartum saving grace. Tbh, just talking about this thing makes me horny AF, so, uh, brb.
Sex Wedge
Ab strength is kind of non-existent postpartum, but that doesn’t mean your lazy missionary sex has to be uninspired. A sex wedge helps elevate your hips — getting you in the perfect position for friction — without any extra work on your part (or the part of your equally exhausted partner).
Oral Sex Vibe
If you’re not yet ready for your S.O. to get up close and personal, the LELO Sona 2 Cruise is actually better than real oral sex — so take that as you will. The genius design uses sonic pulses(?!) to mimic a mouth, but it also has 12 settings, a wide surface area, and doesn’t complain about its jaw getting tired. Win-win-win.
Arousal Serum
The hard part about postpartum sex is that sometimes, your brain likes the idea, but your body is like, “ehh, nah.” But, guys, this water-based, pre-play pleasure serum — infused with CBD — actually boosts your arousal, facilitates easier orgasms, and intensifies sex, even with an infant sleeping mere feet away from you! It’s like magic!
Wearable Couple’s Vibrator
Penetration alone doesn’t do it for many vagina-clad folks, but B.C. (before children), we’d go along with it because why not? Now, though, your time is limited, and you gotta get yours the few chances you get. Hence: A flexible, wearable vibrator (with remote control!) that’ll get you over the finish line when every naptime second counts.
Kegel Trainer
Granted: This isn’t so much a sex toy as it is a solution to accidentally peeing yourself every time you sneeze postpartum. But, this Kegel trainer is honestly tops for getting your vag back in tiptop shape, making intimacy feel good and leaking no longer a thing. ISN’T MOTHERHOOD MAGICAL?!
Wetness-Inducing Toy
Crafted with a gentle, non-invasive design that hugs the curves of your labia and vulva, this is the perfect sidekick for sliding back into ~the pleasure zone.~ The wearable Legato delivers precise vibrations that boost blood flow and lubrication, making it ideal for anyone navigating hormonal changes or arousal challenges (so… all of us). Use it solo or with a partner to remember what it’s like to have sex for pleasure and not just procreation.
