If you’ve been thinking about eating the booty like groceries (or being the groceries in question), I totally get if you’re feeling a little intimidated. Any sort of oral sex can be anxiety-inducing — no matter what equipment you’re working with. So to be putting your tongue near somewhere literal shit comes out… I understand the hesitation and worry. But just like any type of oral sex, rim jobs, or “eating ass,” if you will, can feel incredible, both for the giver and the receiver.
“Rimming is a form of oral play – it just involves the anus,” Angie Rowntree, founder and director of ethical porn site Sssh.com tells Betches. “The external nerves around the anus are indeed very sensitive, but obviously the anus is a different kind of experience than you would have with the tongue on the clitoris or penis.” So basically you can’t just go into a rimjob thinking you’ll do just fine because you’re great at giving head. You got something entirely different going on back there and need to learn the ins and outs before diving in tongue first.
Here’s a guide on how to eat ass — because your butt needs love too.
Is It Safe To Eat Ass?
The first thing you may be wondering is if you should be putting your mouth back there at all.
“Let’s be real: rimming involves putting your tongue on an orifice where excrement leaves the body, and many people thus might feel squeamish in principle, or have health reasons for not wanting to do that,” Rowntree says. “Both of those fears are valid too: you can get STI’s from rimming, and also potentially bacterial or parasitic infections through contact with fecal matter.”
So while it is safe to eat ass, you want to make sure you’re taking extra precautions to make it safer. But it’s kind of the same with making sure any type of sex is safe. Aside from practicing basic hygiene, it comes down to getting tested.
But I wouldn’t blame you for wiping extra right before letting someone toss your salad.
How To Prepare For A Rimjob
“This should be obvious: you need to be clean back there — we suggest a shower and some wipes at least to minimize your partner’s risk of contact with harmful bacteria,” Rowntree says. But you don’t really have to worry about douching or doing anything intensive. A rimjob typically involves licking around the anus so as long as you’re clean there you should be fine.Rowntree says that additionally you might want to avoid gassy foods. If you thought queefs were embarrassing, imagine farting into your partner’s mouth. Yikes.
How To Talk To Your Partner About A Rimjob
If you and your partner have never indulged in a rimjob it can be nerve wracking to try and make it part of your sex routine. But at the end of the day, sex is best when you’re being open and communicative with whoever you’re fucking.
“You don’t need to come up with a complicated ruse,” Rowntree says. You can try being sexy and saying things like “I’d love for you to eat my ass.” But you can try a more straightforward approach too. “If you prefer to have your ass eating discussion at the breakfast table, that’s fine too,” she says.
Sex Positions For Rimjobs
If you’re ready to start some butt munching but don’t know what positions to use, try some of these to start:
- Doggy Style: Instead of penetration, just use your tongue.
- Reverse Oral: You know how you receive oral when you’re laying down? Just turn over and boom — perfect rimjob position.
- Against The Wall: Against the wall and spread them.
