Everybody says I’m young looking for my age. I’m 50. The trouble is, I’m seeing a lovely man who’s the same age as me. He doesn’t look young for his age. This doesn’t bother me. I know it will bother other people and they will judge me‚—badly! They will say I’m desperate and be disgusted. My daughter has met him a few times. She says he’s rugged because he’s a heavy smoker. This sounds petty, but it’s really worrying me. I’m giving a false name, Suzie.
Thanks, but I didn’t even need the fake name. First, I would like to commend you for reading such a hip young site at your age. Share it with your family. Share it with your friends. Share it with your daughter and her friends.
Anyway, I think you’re looking at this all wrong. Nobody’s going to judge you for dating a man who looks older than you—in fact, they would probably think he’s a stud for dating someone who appears younger (and therefore I assume hotter) than him. You say you “know” it will bother other people and they will judge you, and they “will” say you’re desperate and they “will” be disgusted, but how do you know that? Has that even happened? I’m half your age but it doesn’t even sound realistic to me. Unless you actually ARE 25 and dating a 50-year-old, then yeah, people will judge you and call you a gold digger FOR SURE. But if you’re the same age, who cares? Focus on yourself and your relationship.
By the way, as a fellow babyface myself, please respond back and let me know what life is like at 50. Is looking 30 when you’re 50 everything it’s cracked up to be? I need to know.
Asking For A Friend (And That Friend Is Me),