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Pillow Princesses, Unite! Sex Positions That Keep Your Back On The Bed The Whole Time

Can I be honest here? I absolutely hate getting on top. I know I get to control the speed and angle, and blah blah blah, but nothing is worth the exhaustion I feel after just five seconds of riding someone. I don’t get it! I go to the gym, and I could probably leg press two partners at a time, but when it comes to being on top, any sort of stamina I ever thought I had disappears in literal seconds. I am a pretty, pretty pillow princess through and through, and I don’t care what anyone has to say about it. 

Now, let’s get something straight. Us pillow princesses get a bad rep, like we’re lazy, but that’s not the case! Being a pillow princess doesn’t necessarily mean we’re just lying there and doing nothing. Having sex with a still plank probably wouldn’t be enjoyable for anyone involved. It just means that I prefer my head on a pillow and my partner doing the majority of the fucking. Is that too much to ask for? 

Having sex as a pillow princess doesn’t have to be boring, either. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with missionary, but that’s not all you’re limited to if you prefer your partner on top. Need some inspo? Here are some pleasurable sex positions for pillow princesses that aren’t just missionary. 

Sex Positions For Pillow Princesses

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Lay flat on the bed so that your butt is at the edge and one of your arms can grip the side of the bed. Bend your knees toward your chest so your partner can get between them. But instead of just standing straight up, your partner should be using their arms to prop themselves up and keep their body straight but at an angle — so it looks like they’re planking on your crotch. 


Pillow princesses don’t have to limit themselves to pillows! Find a couch or armchair in your home and lay sideways on it so that your back is rested, but your legs are dangling off. Then, raise your legs halfway to your chest. Your partner can then place their hands on either side of your shoulders and lower themselves into you. 

Deck Chair

Yes, you’re about to get folded like a chair. All you have to do is lay back and bring your knees all the way to your chest. Then, your partner should crouch in front of you (with their knees on the bed) and press onto you so that your legs are pushed further into your chest. I’m not going to lie — this may tire your legs after a while, but hey, at least you’re not on top. 

Low Doggy

You might not immediately think of any sort of doggy style as pillow-princess friendly, but I’m here to tell you otherwise. If it makes you feel any better, your face will probably be pressed into a pillow. Lay on your stomach with a pillow under your pelvis and your forearms flat in front of you. Bending your knees behind you will also help your partner get in deeper. Then, have your partner get on top from behind and do all the work.


If you want to move your pillow princess activities to a new surface, get on top of a table or anything high enough so that it lines up with your partner’s crotch. Lay back at the edge of the table so that your partner can stand genitals-to-genitals with you, and your legs can wrap around them. 


While laying flat on your back, bend one of your legs and twist your hip over to the other side, like you’re stretching it. Then, have your partner face you and straddle the thigh that’s straight out. So while they’re entering you, one of your butt cheeks should be resting on their pelvis. 

Syeda Khaula Saad
Syeda Khaula Saad
Syeda Khaula Saad is a sex & dating writer at Betches despite not remembering the last time she was in a relationship. Just take her word for it.