If there’s one thing that truly deserves an upgrade, it’s your orgasm. You’d think by 2024, we’d have all collectively unlocked the secrets to maximizing pleasure — but spoiler alert: we’re still figuring it out. More than half of women are not satisfied with their orgasm frequency, and a whopping 60% don’t think their orgasms are hitting that top-tier quality, according to the women’s health app Flo Health. The app launched a new “Unlock Your Orgasm” program this year because a lot of us could use some help in the big O department.
I tried Flo’s program, developed by top sex therapist Casey Tanner, and it isn’t just another dry sex-ed course. It’s a five-week course that covers everything from understanding your own body to communicating with a partner — because if you don’t know what you want, how can you tell someone else? So, if you’re ready to take matters into your own hands (literally and figuratively), here are some ways to make your orgasms better.
Figure Out WTF You Want
Let’s get one thing straight: good orgasms don’t come from hoping and praying. Flo Health’s research found that a large chunk of women don’t even know what turns them on, yet expect fireworks in the bedroom. So, start by tuning into your own desires. Experiment a little! Figure out what feels good for you, and don’t let shame hold you back. There’s no “wrong” way to explore. Just dive in with curiosity.
Embrace Solo Sex Time
It might be shocking, but almost 20% of women never make time for self-pleasure. Skipping solo play is like skipping leg day — crucial for progress. Whether you’re stressed, busy, or just not in the mood, solo sessions can help you learn what you love and give you the confidence to show up for partnered sex. And no, it’s not selfish — it’s self-care. Schedule that “me time” like you would any other must-do.
Time To Yap It Up
If your partner has no idea what gets you there, it’s time to speak up. Only 37% of women say their partner knows what turns them on. Awkward? Maybe. Worth it? Absolutely. Think of it like a blueprint: clear communication can make everything from setting the mood to actually achieving orgasm a lot easier (and faster).
You Should Go And Love Yourself
Body shame has kept way too many women from reaching peak pleasure. Flo’s research found that 42% of women want to feel more comfortable in their skin before they can truly let go in bed. Make peace with your body, whether that means standing in front of the mirror hyping yourself up or just mentally reminding yourself that everybody has a good body.
Pay Attention To Your Horny Cues
Our libidos aren’t as straightforward as we might like. They can shift based on hormones, mood, and life stress. Flo’s program helps users tune into these rhythms so they can work with their body’s natural cycles rather than against them. If your desire feels inconsistent, it’s not just you — it’s biology. Embrace it, work with it, and stop judging yourself.
So, if you’re ready to up your orgasm game, it’s time to take charge, explore what excites you, and leave the shame at the door. After all, life’s too short for mediocre orgasms.
