What Giving Birth Actually Feels Like, According to 100 Real Moms

There are plenty of things people love to glamorize about pregnancy and childbirth. The glowing skin. The baby kicks. The magical moment you meet your little one. But somehow, everyone gets real quiet when you ask the most obvious, valid, deeply important question: What does giving birth actually feel like?

Like, sorry, I’m about to push a fully formed human out of my body (or get sliced open like a watermelon), and you’re giving me vague metaphors about “waves” and “pressure”? Absolutely not.

Sure, every birth is different. Maybe yours will be peaceful and empowering. Maybe it’ll be fast and chaotic. Maybe it’ll involve a yoga ball, three epidural attempts, and your partner asking if there’s time to grab a snack when you’re 10 cm (yes, I’m projecting). Either way, the best prep usually comes from people who’ve been there, especially the ones willing to get real.

So, in the name of transparency, trauma-dumping, and giving future parents a heads-up that doesn’t sound like it came from a hospital brochure, we asked real moms from our Betches Moms community to describe what giving birth is actually like. We got thousands (literally) of answers and pulled together the best ones to give you a clear idea of what birth might — emphasis on the might — feel like. No euphemisms. No sugarcoating. Just the raw, unfiltered truth straight from the delivery room.

And honestly, we got every kind of response from “it feels like a drug trip” to “it wasn’t as bad as people make it seem” to “being sawed in half,” and even one person begging us not to share answers so we don’t scare anyone (knowledge is power or ignorance is bliss? You decide).

But IMO, if you’re going to eject a whole-ass person from your body, you deserve more than “you’ll just know what to do.” From fiery pain to total numbness to a full-body hallucination, here’s what 100 moms say childbirth actually feels like.

Physically (Vaginal With Epidural):

1. A bad period. Back labor feels like you’re lying on a boulder but can’t adjust yourself.
2. It honestly feels like being super constipated.
3. Like you’re trying to get out a massive poop, and it keeps sliding back in.
4. You quickly understand why the term “ring of fire” is named as such. When the head is there, it feels like legit burning. Think UTI pain, but turned up a bunch of notches.
5. More than just “pressure.” Like being hit by a bus full of cramps.
6. Much better with the epidural. The actual birth is less painful than pre-epidural cervical exams.
7. The most massive and uncomfortable — yet totally satisfying — shit you’ve ever taken times 10.
8. The shakes! You’ll shiver so hard, like you’re freezing. Doesn’t *hurt* but it’s bizarre.
9. Getting the epidural sort of feels like you’re being electrocuted. It’s worth it.
10. Contractions feel like waves. They start out barely there, then grow and grow in intensity (not necessarily pain), then they fall. Over and over again.
11. Being worn like a glove, puppeted by multiple strangers.
12. I got an epidural at 1cm, slept until 8cm, felt like I needed to poop, then had a baby five minutes later. 10/10 rec.
13. Think strong diarrhea cramping or pooping out a watermelon.
14. Nothing, because thank God for epidurals. It made birth fun, peaceful, and painless.
15. It feels like the baby is coming out of your butt, not your vagina, FYI.
16. 10,000 times better than being pregnant.
17. My epidural failed, and I felt like the left side of my body was on fire. If you think the epidural isn’t working, speak up! They can fix it.
18. Simply a tough workout. Barre is harder, tbh.
19. Like you’re about to have explosive diarrhea. I thought I projectile-shat on my doctor’s face.
20. I straight up felt like I was pooping the whole time.
21. Period cramps, an intense moment of pain, and then the best runner’s high ever.
22. The worst gassy stomach pain ever.
23. Easy! With an epidural, it just felt like mild cramps right before I had to push.
24. Relief. Something wet slips out of you, and then it’s just immediate relief.
25. Nbd, as long as you get the epidural before the Foley balloon. (IYKYK.)

Consensus: It feels like you’re super constipated and taking a very big, hard poop.

Physically (Vaginal, No Epidural):

1. Unmedicated vaginal was, surprisingly, not as bad as I thought.
2. Having the devil rip you open vagina first.
3. I honestly forget — your brain sort of just… lets that part go?
4. The most powerful thing I’ve ever done. I want to relive it again and again.
5. I imagine it’s like having an exorcism performed on you successfully.
6. Ejecting an entire horse.
7. Extreme cramping to where you hit another level of consciousness and survive it.
8. Your butthole is turning inside out.
9. With an epidural? Magic. Without? Fifth circle of hell.
10. Medieval torture.
11. Like your body went to war.
12. A pair of lumberjacks using a two-man saw to slowly saw your body in half.
13. Being ripped apart.
14. A bowling ball on fire launching itself out of you.
15. A ton of pressure you can’t stop. In my opinion, the contractions are worst at 6 cm. Get past that and you’re good.
16. You’re dying but in the best possible way for a good cause.
17. A truck going through your vagina.
18. Running a marathon with minute-long punches to the gut that make the world drown out.
19. Holding a wall sit after a full leg workout. But worse.
20. Like your butt is being ripped open with an audience of monkeys shrieking at you.
21. Feeling like you’re about to wet your pants really bad over and over again.
22. Imagine your most intense period cramp x 100 and involving your asshole.
23. Like a hideous backache.
24. Intense and instinctual. It was painful but great.
25. Like when my husband has a cold.

Consensus: It feels like you’re being ripped in half, but you forget about it quickly as adrenaline and euphoria take over. 

C-Section:

1. Tingling, numbness, and lots of pulling/tugging on your insides.
2. Frogs doing dishes in your belly.
3. I could feel the baby being pulled out of my body like a big, slithering fish.
4. Like someone is pushing and pulling on your stomach, and then BOOM! Out pops a baby.
5. Scary but kinda peaceful and magical.
6. Like you’re a human junk drawer.
7. Your insides just… fall out.
8. A c-section + three hours of pushing = hell. Just listen to your doctor and get the c-section when they suggest it.
9. It truly felt like I was abducted by aliens, but they gave me the best gift ever.
10. Coughing after a c-section and you’ll feel like you’re being torn from the inside out.
11. Like having a D1 lineman run drills on your ribs.
12. Suddenly you feel like you’re on an episode of Grey’s Anatomy.
13. Pressure and tugging. The IV and setup are the worst part!
14. So cold. They don’t warn you how cold it is.
15. Like you’re in a Saw movie, but you don’t feel pain. But seriously… why are you awake right now?!
16. It’s like making sourdough bread. Lots of pulling and pushing and kneading and tugging.
17. You don’t “feel” anything, but the pressure and movement are really intense and made me sick.
18. It felt confining. It didn’t hurt physically, but emotionally, it was hard to be strapped down. I wish someone had told me that I might feel cheated or guilty (even if I “shouldn’t”).
19. You’re a piece of luggage that someone is rifling through.
20. The last five minutes of your teeth cleaning when you can’t stand it any longer and just want to get TF up, but it lasts 45 minutes.
21. Digging around the bottom of your tiny purse and yanking out a watermelon.
22. Not as scary as you think. Not easy by any means, but I found it easier than pregnancy.
23. Absolutely nothing, and then a 25lb weight is lifted, and you hear a baby cry.
24. Badass. I just had major surgery while awake and was handed a baby? I’m a fucking superhero.
25. Honestly? It wasn’t bad at all.

Consensus: Mentally, it’s challenging to be confined and awake, but physically, it’s more of a tugging versus pain sitch. 

Birth In General (Emotionally):

1. Terrifying and VERY scary until you hold them for the first time.
2. Very feral, but in a good way.
3. Empowering. It was literally like touching heaven and catapulting back to Earth.
4. The most powerful I’ve ever felt.
5. The hardest workout of your life with the absolute best reward at the end.
6. Your body isn’t your own.
7. A true out-of-body experience. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and in shock.
8. The part where Dumbledore begs Harry to kill him, and Harry keeps feeding him the drink.
9. Your body being co-opted as a portal for the underground.
10. Meeting a stranger you’ve known your entire life.
11. A vacation compared to a colicky newborn.
12. The end of your life, somehow. You lose a piece of yourself you didn’t know you had, and then you gain another.
13. Being a deer in headlights.
14. Wonderful doesn’t even describe it. I felt so calm and happy. I never thought it would be like that.
15. Scratching an itch you can’t reach.
16. The most disorienting and surreal experience of your life.
17. A parallel universe — you understand so much stuff you didn’t before.
18. Told your plane is delayed 8 hours, only to get a stomach bug, and oh, never mind! Now it’s over.
19. You’re a Thanksgiving turkey with everyone just looking at you on full display.
20. Like getting on a ride you have never been on before. Is there a big fall? A splash? Who knows?!
21. Running an uphill marathon while starving, thirsty, and in pain, and you don’t know how far away the finish line is.
22. I’ve never both loved and hated my husband more in my life.
23. Having zero control over something you want complete control over.
24. Going to bed on Earth and waking up on Mars.
25. Straight-up barbaric.

Consensus: It’s a fever dream that leaves you feeling powerful AF and lowkey in shock. 

Whether your birth feels like a chaotic spiritual awakening, a full-body exorcism, or just an oddly satisfying poop, one thing’s clear: no two stories are the same. But the more we talk about it, the less alone (and blindsided) we all feel. So here’s your permission to overshare — it might just help the next person survive the ring of fire.