Okay, we’ve all heard of yes, no, maybe lists, right? You know, the long menus of sex stuff to try out with a partner to 1) make communication a little easier, 2) be a little less vulnerable, and 3) stop chickening out on your wild, weird fantasies and settling for 10 minutes of the same sex routine for the 86th time in a row. The idea is to alleviate the pressure that can come from a head-on, face-to-face conversation and eliminate any feelings of judgment — all while figuring out what ~sexy ideas~ both you and your partner are open to.
The problem? There are barely any wlw lists out there for the queer and lesbian couples and sapphics among us. We’re here to change that with the ultimate Yes, No, Maybe WLW List.
Here’s how it works: You can either fill out the below list on your own, with a partner (together or separately), or with your friends. If you like the idea of something, mark yes; if you’re a little unsure, mark maybe; if it’s off the table, label it a no. When you’re done, check your list against your partner’s or friend’s to see what you’re both down for. And if you’re filling this out solo, keep this in your back pocket for your next hookup — because if you’re gonna have a one-night stand, why not check wax play off your sex bucket list while you’re at it?
When comparing lists with a partner, respect the nos, but don’t get hung up on them. Instead, focus on the yeses and maybes you have in common, talk openly about what you really want (and absolutely do not want) in those scenarios, and then, when you and your partner are ready, do the fucking deed! (It’s OK, you can thank us after your fourth straight O.)
The Ultimate Yes, No, Maybe, WLW List:
Y = Yes
N = No
M = Maybe
___ Adopting a cat within the first two months
___ Anal
___ Anal fingering
___ BDSM
___ Biting
___ Blindfolds
___ Bondage
___ Boxer strap-on shorts
___ Chair sex
___ Choking
___ Deep throating
___ Dirty talk
___ Double-ended dildo
___ Dual-sensation play (i.e. clit stimulation and penetration)
___ Edging
___ Face sitting
___ FaceTime sex
___ Fingering
___ Fisting
___ Flavored dental dam
___ Flavored lube
___ Frottage/Dry humping
___ Giving up acrylics
___ Group sex
___ Hair pulling
___ Happy-ending massage
___ Homemade porn
___ Lap dance
___ Leather strap-on harness
___ Licking
___ Lingerie
___ Matching carabiners
___ Mutual masturbation
___ Naked wrestling
___ Nipple clamps
___ Nipple play
___ Oral
___ Period sex
___ Phone sex
___ Power play
___ Praise
___ Pussy massage
___ Roleplay
___ Saying “I love you” first
___ Scissoring
___ Sex parties
___ Sex toys
___ Sexting
___ Sharing closets
___ Sharing coming-out stories
___ Shower sex
___ Spanking
___ Spitting
___ Staring deep into each other’s eyes
___ Strip tease
___ Sucking
___ Tantric sex
___ Temperature play
___ The knee thing
___ Threesomes
___ Tribbing
___ Uhauling
___ Using a playful/colorful dildo
___ Using a realistic dildo
___ Vulva/penis worship
___ Watching Bound together
___ Watching But I’m a Cheerleader together
___ Watching Shane and Carmen sex scenes
___ Wax play
___ 69ing
