We all know that when you get engaged, you’re not just marrying your partner — you’re marrying your partner’s family, too. While most of us end up with in-laws who fall into the “eh” category, it’s better than what one bride-to-be faced when she took to Reddit to share, perhaps, the messiest AITA ever, starring (who else?) her fiancé’s overbearing sister.
When I say overbearing, I mean imagine planning your dream wedding, only to have your future sister-in-law show up at every. Single. Meeting. From flowers to caterers to even your dress choice — she’s there with her helpful suggestions. And if that wasn’t enough, her brother — aka your future husband — sides with her on ev.er.y.thing.
I’m all for wedding drama, but this emotional train wreck of a situation is one of the most unhinged things I’ve ever read. Let’s unpack it, shall we?
(Editor’s note: There is mention of abuse and physical violence in this story. Read at your own discretion.)
The Wedding Controversy
The whole story is long and twisted and drama-filled, so we’re going to have to give you the TL;DR here:
It all began when our bride-to-be began planning her dream wedding with the love of her life, Roy. All was going well until his sister, Kim, decided to make herself the unofficial co-planner for the big day. And when I say co-planner, I mean she was all up in this bride’s business — showing up to every meeting, offering “suggestions,” and basically taking over the entire process like it was her own wedding.
At first, Kim (who decided to move in near the couple after their engagement) started small, with suggestions like alternate flower arrangements and chair placements. Okay, fine. Annoying, but whatever. But then Kim ramped things up, vetoing the bride’s favorite dessert and dream color scheme and even stepping in on dress shopping. The real kicker? When the bride chose a beautiful green dress that she loved (their culture doesn’t stick to white), Kim swooped in and said, “Nah, green’s not your color, babe,” and then picked that exact same dress for herself.
And, of course, every single time there was a disagreement, Roy would brush it off with, “It’s not that big of a deal,” or “Kim’s just trying to help.” He even went as far as to tell the bride that Kim “looked better in green,” which, honestly, just…no.
Eventually, after enough sisterly meddling and Roy’s constant dismissal of her feelings, the bride lost it. She told Roy that if the wedding didn’t happen the way they both envisioned it — not the way Kim dictated it — then it wasn’t happening at all. A totally fair point, right? Except then Roy went full gaslight mode, accusing her of being immature, selfish, and jealous of Kim. Classic.
The Wedding Controversy… Continued
While yes, that seems shitty, it’s not The Most Dramatic Wedding Story Ever. That was until the poster sent an update, which will forever live in my mind rent-free. Here’s what happened:
While shopping for her wedding dress (remember when Kim stole the bride’s look?), a fight broke out between the bride’s family and the groom’s family, leading to a massive argument. The police were called, and everyone was escorted out of the shop. Casual, right?
Kim, the groom’s sister, went missing after the fight. Roy and his mom searched for her all night. Don’t worry — she was just hiding at a relative’s house. Meanwhile, the bride suffered a panic attack and was taken to the hospital, where she was knocked out for a whole day thanks to a sedative. She woke up at her parents’ house like, “What the actual fuck just happened?”
Roy then had the audacity to contact the bride to “resolve” things, but instead of apologizing, he literally blamed her for everything, including Kim’s disappearance. The bride was like, “WTF, man? You didn’t even know I was in the hospital, and yet you’re more worried about your sister?” Which led to, well, this:
- The bride confronted Roy, stating she felt like the “side chick” in her relationship with Roy and Kim.
- Roy *slapped* the bride during the confrontation, causing her nose and cheek to bleed.
- The bride’s dad jumped Roy, sparking a full-on brawl until neighbors and police had to intervene.
- Kim tried to attack the bride (obvi), but the bride’s sister (the hero we didn’t know we needed) stepped in and slapped Kim back.
- Both the bride and Roy were taken to the hospital. Roy, by the way, ended up with a knocked-out tooth and a broken rib. Oops.
- The wedding is officially canceled.
Riiight? Now let’s figure out who the asshole is!
In Defense of the Groom
Lol. Nah. There’s just no defending ol’ Roy in this. From siding with his sister over every little wedding detail to straight-up slapping his fiancée across the face, the groom is giving us all the red flags. Sure, maybe he’s got some unresolved sibling loyalty issues, but emotional incest is no excuse for being a total dick.
In Defense of the Bride
Let’s get one thing straight: our bride here was way more patient than most of us would’ve been in this absolute circus of a situation. She tried to be the chill fiancée, handling Kim’s constant meddling like a pro (or, you know, as best as anyone could). The woman literally just wanted to plan her wedding and instead had to fend off her future sister-in-law’s control-freak behavior at every turn.
It wasn’t even just Kim being a nightmare; her own fiancé kept siding with his sister! Like, what the hell, Roy? You’re supposed to be team bride, not team “let’s let Kim take over the whole event.” And despite all the drama, the bride still stuck it out, thinking she could salvage this relationship — which, let’s be real, shows just how much she cared about Roy. The fact that she finally put her foot down and said, “If this wedding isn’t happening my way, it’s not happening at all” is pure boss energy.
Oh, and don’t forget the emotional and physical trauma she went through with Roy’s slap and the ensuing chaos. She had every right to cancel this wedding and get the hell out of dodge.
The Verdict
Not only was our bride, not the asshole, but she deserves a fucking medal (and a whole bunch of SSRIs) for dealing with that shitshow. Defending herself against toxic family dynamics and taking care of her mental health? That’s a win in our book. We hope Roy and his sister live happily ever after, and our bride gets her dream wedding someday… maybe to someone who’s an only child?
