Let’s face it. We’ve basically been touch starved for over a year at this point and the skin hunger is real AF. Sex toys can only (literally) fill the void for so long since nothing can or will ever replace actual bodies sweating all over each other in bed. Well, good news! Are you vaxxed and DTF? Congrats. It’s finally your time to shine because Shot Girl Summer is right around the corner.
Say it with me: No more double masked bang seshes! No more avoiding kissing during sex! No more not having sex at all! It’s time to get realllll close after being apart for wayyy too long. In honor of this time when most folks are about to be vaccinated and ready to f*ck whoever accidentally brushes against their arm at the beach bar, you need to be prepared (read: know the best positions for heavy eye contact and makeout sesh potential). Don’t worry, we got you. Here are five super intimate sex positions once you’re ready to close that gap.
1. Yab Yum (AKA Lotus) Position
Good Vibrations staff sexologist Carol Queen, PhD believes this is the Greatest Intimate Position Ever. Why? “This is a position with tons of opportunity for kissing, talking, eye contact, upper body contact,” she says. “It’s a super-sweet one and all the touch-starved people must check it out as soon as they can.” Say no more–sign me tf up.
According to Queen, here’s how to get into it: The penetrating partner sits in lotus position (or with legs straight out for the Bad Knees Crew). The receiving partner sits on their lap, facing them, legs wrapped around the small of their back. The receiver will scootch onto the penetrator’s dick or dildo then both partners will put their arms around each other and ~gently rock~ together. To turn it up a notch or five, they note you’ll want good muscles for thrusting… or maybe just a solid headboard/something safe to grab onto to score more traction.
2. Missionary Position
Disclaimer: Queen prefers to calls this the “face-to-face, insertive person on top” position because they’re tired of the word “missionary” used to describe a sex position… and TBH, fair. Whatever you call it, a lot of people think this position is boring or vanilla, and I mean… it definitely can be. But it can also actually be really hot when done right.
Since you’re both facing each other, you can kiss, lock in that mid-penetration eye contact, and go harder than you would in the tantric Lotus position. Plus, it’s a seamless transition from hardcore makeout sesh to banging since you’re already (probably) both laying down. “All you have to do is lie on the bed and you can work it out. No yoga knowledge needed,” confirms Queen. We love putting in minimal effort for maximum pleasure.
3. “Cowgirl” Position
Next up: face-to-face, receiving person on top position — “sometimes called the ‘cowgirl,’ though honestly cows have nothing at all to do with it and you don’t have to ID as a girl to enjoy it,” explains Queen.
ICYMI: In this position, the receiving partner gets on top and straddles the insertive partner, who’s on their back. “This position can go from cuddly and cute to bucking on a bronc, and quite orgasmic for the ‘cowgirl’ thanks to the thrusting and freedom of movement involved,” she says. It’s also an awesome position if you’re trying to burn some calories. Hop on top and ride that D into the sunset like you’re in a really intense Peloton class? IDK. I haven’t worked out in over a year.
4. Lap Dance Plus F*cking
Got access to a chair, a person to bang, and some confidence? Sit their ass down then give them the happy ending of their dreams. “Do a lil’ striptease and lap dance (or don’t), and straddle the insertive partner, using the chair for leverage, and thrust and wriggle as desired,” says Queen. Be warned: don’t use that fancy chair or the flimsy seat you thrifted, if they might break. If you don’t trust any chairs in your apartment, swap in the couch or bed instead.
5. Spoon Position
Spooning doesn’t really allow for eye contact or kissing unless you want to contort your necks and bodies in potentially painful ways to make it happen. However! Lying back to front like this allows for whoever’s behind to get up close and personal in ~other~ ways (like kissing their partner’s neck or whispering sexy shit in their ear). “If you like other positions better than the face-to-face ones, or if you’re still not 100% on the safety of live-in-person-sex and you figure it’s a little safer if you face away, you can make the whole scene more personal and intimate with erotic talk, whether it’s all eye contact-y or not,” says Queen.
No matter how you do the deed this Shot Girl Summer, focus on enjoying the (literal) ride. After all, you’ve waited basically forever for this moment. Now go put that vax to good use and quench that thirst with the super hot, intimate sex I’ve you’ve been dreaming of for the last year and a half.
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