TRIGGER WARNING: The following article contains references and details surrounding rape, sexual violence, cannibalism, and more. In case you haven’t heard by now—or simply saw a tweet vaguely referencing “cannibalism” and scrolled past—actor Armie Hammer has been accused of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse by multiple ex-girlfriends and anonymous women he allegedly met on Instagram. (I’m somewhat surprised by how many people apparently haven’t heard of Armie Hammer, so to be clear, his most—and only—notable films include The Social Network and Call Me By Your Name, if that helps ring a bell.) The allegations are extremely dark, disturbing, and ugly, and should be treated with the utmost seriousness. Here’s the part where I remind you that this is not “kink-shaming,” unlike what some recent headlines may suggest.