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Sex Positions To Try When You're Feeling Self-Conscious But Still Wanna Fuck

In an ideal reality, we exude the same sexiness and confidence Beyoncé does in her “Dance for You” music video every time we’re about to get it on. Actually, in an ideal reality, we feel like Beyoncé when she does anything at all. But unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world, and some days we feel hella bloated, our skin looks like shit, and/or we can’t figure out why — despite a second shower — we still don’t smell that great down there

There are going to be times when you don’t feel sexy (regardless of how horny you are), which can ultimately get in the way of having sex. Of course, not having sex is always an option, but we deserve to fuck even if we’re not feeling our best. Waiting to feel 100% confident before you have sex will drastically decrease how many times you have sex — and who wants that? Orgasms aren’t reserved for perfect days! So, if you’re having a low-confidence day but don’t want that to stop you from having sex, here are some bad-day-friendly sex positions for when you’re feeling self-conscious

Sex Positions To Try When You’re Feeling Self-Conscious

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Sometimes the best solution to feeling self-conscious is to let your partner bend you over a chair and fuck you from behind. I don’t know about you, but that’s sure to make me feel better. Take a chair without arms and lay over it so that your hands touch the floor in front of you and your stomach rests on the chair seat. Then, have your partner grip the front and back of the chair and penetrate you. While this seems complicated, it’s not! You can rest there in a position stretching you out while enjoying a fun new position. 


You know what it is. Everyone looks good in doggy. 

“Collapsed Doggy” 

Collapsed doggy is a great sex position and a pretty good description of how you feel right now. If you’re on the receiving end of doggy, getting in the collapsed doggy position can be ideal for anyone who wants to lay there with their face in the pillows. You don’t have to do much; just lay down face first and let your partner enter you from the top. It feels fantastic, and not much is on display. 

Spooning Under The Covers 

Even if you’re not in the mood to be on full display or kiss your partner too much, you can still have incredible sex that feels intimate as well. Having sex in a spooning position takes away a lot of the factors that may contribute to you feeling self-conscious in bed. And if you throw a blanket on top, it’s the ultimate low-maintenance position. 

Sit On Their Face

If you’re not feeling the best about your appearance, why not remove the view altogether? That’s right, just sit on their face. You get to enjoy some head while avoiding worrying about how you look. 

On Your Knees

If sitting on someone’s face feels like too much when you’re not at 100, just return the favor. Getting on your knees to give head gets rid of most of the visual factors and any chances of your partner coming face-to-face with your genitals if you don’t feel super fresh (we’ve all been there). Plus, I can guarantee you are going to look pretty hot to anyone you’re giving head to. 


Letting your partner get on top while you lay on your back is the perfect solution to a low-confidence sex day. And if you’re worried about the way your stomach might look, have your partner be parallel to you during sex. You’ll feel good, kiss a lot, and not need to worry about what you look like. Plus, when we’re not feeling our best, it can help to have your partner do all the work — a pillow princess dream! 

Syeda Khaula Saad
Syeda Khaula Saad
Syeda Khaula Saad is a sex & dating writer at Betches despite not remembering the last time she was in a relationship. Just take her word for it.