Despite how funny SNL’s “Dick In a Box” skit was, let’s be real: People do not like getting sex as a gift. It’s often seen as lazy, unromantic, and just really dickish (pun intended). But that’s because it’s usually approached with the thinking of “I don’t care enough to put any real thought into a gift, so we’re just going to have sex,” which is not only totally unsexy but also just mean. And it sucks because it’s given the idea of giving sex as a gift a really bad rep. When in reality — if done right — sex can actually be a really great gift.
Now, I want to preface this by saying: Please, get your partner something nice for holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. It doesn’t have to be expensive or “perfect,” but little things are important. When I say that you can give sex as a good gift, I mean that you can curate an experience that really does feel special — compared to just getting in on the way you usually do. And no, I don’t just mean anal (please stop asking for anal as a gift).
Here’s how to give sex as a gift that your partner will actually want.
Make It A Whole Experience
Everyone loves to be romanced by their partner — and a quickie in the bed you fuck in every other week isn’t going to cut it. Book a romantic hotel or sexy weekend getaway, plan sensual massages, and seduce TF out of your partner. Sex somewhere that’s not your home always feels extra special, so compound it by turning it into a mini escape. You’re probably going to be the one that ends up getting gifted sex.
Make It About Them
Tis the season of giving — so give! Put “getting yourself off” on the bottom of your list and make it a night all about them. Give a massage, focus on foreplay, and show your partner how badly you want to touch (and taste!) them everywhere. Your partner will get to enjoy feeling like the center of attention, and you’ll get to enjoy seeing how much you turn them on. Win-win!
Get A Really Exciting New Toy
Sex toys are your friends, not enemies. If you’re looking for a way to amp up your sex life, now is the time. Get a few sex toys or a beginner’s bondage set (if that’s more your speed), and show your partner just how hot things can get. Sex toys truly are the gifts that keep on giving.
Get Dressed Up — And Dress Them Up Too
Being gifted lingerie that my partner wants me to wear for them is always such a turn-on — and it gets even sexier when I know my partner’s dressing up for me, too. Whether that’s with some Fenty boxers or even my favorite grey sweatpants, wearing something that you know will put your partner in the mood will make them feel really desired and cared for — which will only make the sex better.
Fulfill One Of Their Fantasies
Yes, if anal is on the list, go ahead. But think big. Has your partner been wanting to get into roleplaying? Have they been dying to try a threesome? Try to fulfill any fantasy you feel could be fun for both of you.
