Marita: It’s a good question because, for this show, I knew there would be an outcome that would be really good for me in terms of my relationship and where I wanted to go in life. Just the fact that it’s a reality TV show, I think it brought all of us together, and there was a powerful impact and a story that came from that. I guess I was excited about it because I wanted to meet these beautiful queer people and be a part of something different that determined the pivotal next step in my life. Yeah, it was an experience that I decided to take head-on, and I’m glad I did because of where I’m at.

Britney: For me, no, I’ve never seen myself on reality TV ever. That never crossed my mind. This is actually very bizarre for me. Huge character growth. I’m actually quite an introvert who’s becoming extroverted as I gained this self-confidence and self-reassurance and just being unapologetic. But I think that’s also what pushed me to just be like, you know what? Let me just do it on the big screen. I was always extremely shy — if I was going to read in class, I would want to projectile vomit, and my stomach would be in knots. The only way you grow is to be uncomfortable. So here I am.

What was it like watching your exes flirt with other people right in front of you?

Marita: I think watching Ashley flirt with other people in real life was weird because it was very similar to the way that she would flirt with me in the beginning. And I guess just to me, it was like I didn’t really understand the motive behind it or what she was trying to get out of it, but I mean, we all had to date other people and figure out what was best for us. So, at the end of the day, I understand it, but it was hard for sure.

Britney: Yeah, I would agree. I felt the same way. I mean, I was doing some flirting too, but I think just watching my partner flirt… I think it wasn’t actually as weird watching it back. I think it was weirder at the moment, but when I watched it back, I mentally prepared myself for it. And I don’t know, I thought it was actually kind of funny, to be honest. I didn’t take it seriously at all, and I knew we were single, and I’d already mentally prepared for that. At the moment, yes, I was in my feelings, but now I’m good.

You guys were on different sides, giving and receiving the ultimatum. Which do you think is more stressful?

Marita: I feel like it would be more stressful to give it because you are risking losing your person. You are ready; you want to marry them at the end of the day, but then if they go find someone else, then that’s stressful. You would lose them. And I think it’s shown in that one scene where you and AJ were leaving each other that morning, and you were like, I hope this isn’t a mistake.

Britney: I would say so for sure because even though it’s a consensual thing for us to come to this experience, I am the one who is ready, and I’m sure of that. And I think that it’s like gambling. You’re risking all that you have to hopefully get more, but you can also lose it all. So, it’s absolutely risky. The reward is great, but you can lose it all. But of course, what gave me the reassurance to still pull through with this big gambling game was just the fact that if I lost it, then it was probably for a good reason. That was inevitably going to happen at some point or another.

What are your guys’ biggest dating icks?

Britney: Okay. I guess what comes to mind without thinking too hard about it would be… Maybe it’s someone who is too corny.

Marita: Honestly, somebody that you feel like you’re interviewing and they can’t carry a conversation. There’s no banter there, and it’s like you literally are asking questions, and they’re one-word answers. That I can’t do. And also, maybe someone that is just too much right in the beginning, and it’s like, whoa, we’re just getting to know each other. Or if they wear sandals.

Season 2 of The Ultimatum: Queer Love is now streaming on Netflix.