U Up?

U Up?
U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, in which they discuss their takes on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters to defining the relationship and everything in between, they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram.

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It’s the same U Up? podcast you know and love, with a ton of added perks. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes.

What does my U Up? With Benefits subscription include?-+

All newly released episodes of the podcast are available ad-free and will arrive in your podcast feed the day before they are released to non-subscribers. Plus, you’ll get two exclusive bonus episodes each month.

Are you taking anything away from the old U Up? podcast feed?-+

Nope! All the same old U Up? episodes are available for non-subscribers.

How do I subscribe on Apple Podcasts?-+

Sign up directly on the Betches site to get access to bonus episodes and future perks! You can also subscribe on Apple by going to the same-old U Up? channel on the Apple Podcast app and clicking the subscribe button. Simple as that!

I listen to my podcasts on Spotify. How do I subscribe?-+

You will need to subscribe directly through the Betches site, but, once you do, you will be able to listen to your premium episodes on Spotify. When you subscribe on the Betches site, you will be taken through a few quick steps allowing you to seamlessly integrate U Up? With Benefits into your Spotify app. We got you!

What happens after I subscribe on the Betches site?-+

After subscribing, you will be guided through a few quick steps to seamlessly integrate your premium episodes into your preferred podcast platform. Yeah, it’s almost too easy. we know. Then, start listening and enjoy!

When are the usual U Up? episodes made available for subscribers?-+

Our usual Wednesday and Sunday episodes are available a day early. In some cases, these episodes may arrive mid-day (due to publishing constraints within the Apple and Spotify platforms), but rest assured that you’ll be the first to hear Jared and Jordana as soon as they’re available.

How often are the exclusive subscriber-only bonus episodes released?-+

The two bonus episodes arrive in your podcast feed on the first and third Monday of each month. This stuff is juicy, so be sure to keep an eye out for it.

What should I do if the latest early-release episode doesn’t appear in my feed?-+

Episodes are scheduled for release a day early, but in some cases, they may not land in your podcast feed until a full 24 hours ahead of their scheduled release (due to publishing constraints within the Apple and Spotify platforms). We suggest refreshing your podcast feed on early release days, but most should be available by mid-day for early listening.

What happens if I want to cancel my subscription?-+

We hate to see you go, but we know this doesn’t mean goodbye forever. If you want to cancel your subscription on Apple, simply go to this Apple landing page and follow the instructions on your device. To cancel on the Betches site, navigate to your subscription page here.

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Latest Episodes

Where to Start

Can I Force A Closure Conversation After A Breakup?

Mercury is in retrograde, J&J are out of studio, and existential thoughts are filling the distance between them today. Still reeling from the earthquake and solar eclipse, Jared and Jordana are getting deep into fears, oblivion, and mental health. Then, they dive into an email that doubles as a "Petty or Prudent?" submission. Our listener was dumped by her fiancé after footing most of the bills in preparation of their wedding, but she still has his grandmother's engagement ring. Should she give it back, or is it only fair that she sells it to pay off the debt incurred? She gets into the details of what's transpired since he called the wedding off to let J&J decide where to go from here.

I Took My Ex Back and He Dumped Me—Again!

Lovers of long intros, buckle up! J&J are jumping in virtually today, so they do a little catch-up from Aspen and Long Island before diving into the episode. Then, our first email is questioning a man's alleged heartbreak. Our listener's friend broke up with a guy, but she's not sure how to take his reaction. Was he really just romantic, or was his reaction the subtle sign of a player? The Awkward Encounter is the accidental sext situation without the ick. The next email comes from a confused listener after her ex reached out wanting to be "all in" only to change his mind 3 days later. J&J discuss WTF happened and how you can avoid situations like this, then they end the episode with a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" about an odd joke, a last-minute change of plans, and privacy screens. 

Should It Matter That My BF’s Mom Dislikes Me?

Weddings are on our minds today! After a few listeners sent invitations to their upcoming “I do’s,” J&J thought about the ideal wedding experience if they could attend one. Then, Jordana needs context on “the chair” text exchange from Jared’s Instagram Story coverage of his brother’s wedding. The “Icky or Picky?” is about having sex with someone who shares the same name as a family member. Then, we hear from a listener whose boyfriend’s mom disapproves so much that she emailed a list of her deal breakers. Should his mom’s behavior be a reason to see herself out of this relationship, or can they work through it? J&J discuss the balancing act between a parent and a partner when everyone isn’t aligned.

The Hosts

Jordana Abraham
Jordana Abraham is the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of Betches who enjoys dispensing advice on all things relationships. In her free time, she can be found roasting Christmas trees and watching very bad reality TV. She also co-hosts U Up?, @Betches, and Oversharing.
Jared Freid
Jared Freid is a New York City-based comedian who sounds like he’s screaming but he’s just really excited to dive into your dating issues!

Featured Guests

Jay Shetty
Rebel Wilson
Sebastian Stan


Great Chemistry and Advice
“I’ve been listening to J&J for a while and I love not only their relationship advice, but also their humor and chemistry with each other. I often find myself laughing out loud with them and enjoy their banter together and with guests.”
Laugh till you cramp!
“J and J—thank you for the words of wisdom. Please keep the advice coming! Your dynamic together is amazing!”
Amazing Podcast
“If you are dating in your 20s and 30s, you have to listen to this podcast. I’ve learned so much about the male species from Jared! It is super helpful!!”