Go back
Love, Sex and Family U Up?

U Up?

U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between, they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram.

View Promo Codes

Subscribe to U Up? With Benefits now!

It’s the same U Up? podcast you know and love, with a ton of added perks. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes.

▼ What does my U Up? With Benefits subscription include?

All new release episodes of the podcast are available ad-free, and will arrive in your podcast feed the day before they are released to non-subscribers. Get in early to avoid that FOMO! Plus, you’ll get two exclusive bonus episodes each month.

▼ Are you taking anything away from the old U Up? podcast feed?

Nope! All the same old U Up? episodes are available for non-subscribers.

▼ How do I subscribe on Apple Podcasts?

Simply go to the usual U Up? channel on the Apple Podcast app and click the subscribe button. Simple as that!

▼ How do I subscribe on Spotify?

Go to this Spotify subscription page to find the U Up? With Benefits podcast feed on Spotify. One you’ve subscribed, you’ll be able to access all the subscriber benefits in your Spotify app.

▼ When are the usual U Up? episodes made available for subscribers?

Our usual Wednesday and Sunday episodes are available a day early. In some cases these episodes may arrive mid-day (due to publishing constraints within the Apple and Spotify platforms) but rest assured that you’ll be the first to hear Jared and Jordana as soon as they’re available.

▼ How often are the exclusive subscriber-only bonus episodes released?

The two bonus episodes arrive in your podcast feed on the first and third Monday of each month. This stuff is juicy, so be sure to keep an eye out for it.

▼ What should I do if the latest early-release episode doesn’t appear in my feed?

Episodes are scheduled for release a day early, but in some cases they may not land in your podcast feed a full 24 hours ahead of their scheduled release (due to publishing constraints within the Apple and Spotify platforms). We suggest refreshing your podcast feed on early release days, but most should be available by mid-day for early listening.

▼ What happens if I want to cancel my subscription?

We hate to see you go, but we know this doesn’t truly mean goodbye. If you want to cancel your subscription on Apple, simply go to this Apple landing page and follow the instructions on your device. To cancel a Spotify subscription, navigate to this Spotify support link and follow the instruction at the bottom of the page.

Latest Episodes

Our Hosts

Jordana Abraham

Jordana Abraham is a cofounder and Chief Innovation Officer of Betches who enjoys dispensing advice on all things relationships. In her free time she can be found roasting Christmas trees and watching very bad reality TV. She also co-hosts U Up?, @Betches, and Oversharing.

Jared Freid

Jared Freid is a New York City based comedian who sounds like he’s screaming but he’s just really excited to dive into your dating issues!

Where to Start

Are You Too Picky Or Not Picky Enough?

On this week’s episode of the podcast, Jared and Jordana start with a Thanksgiving recap and Jordana’s belated anniversary gift to Jared. The first emailer asks why a woman who didn’t want to go on a date with him is now responding to his stories on Instagram. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing tampon. Later, a listener asks if she’s setting her expectations too high when making her list of traits she wants in a partner (inspired by Jordana’s list). How specific do you need to be on your list? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about kids' toys, sharing beers, and roommate situations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Gender Norms Are Hurting Your Sex Life Ft. Emily Nagoski

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Emily Nagoski, sex researcher, educator, and author of Come As You Are. They start with a discussion about spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and Emily explains why she believes we need to center pleasure in your sex life instead of desire. Then, they answer an email from a listener who says she can’t have an orgasm and feels like she can’t ask for things in the bedroom because she won’t come anyway. Emily breaks down all the stories the emailer is telling herself and advises her on how to have a conversation with her boyfriend about it. Plus, they talk about how the cultural scripts we’re given based on gender are getting in the way of our sex lives. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do I Need To Live In A City To Date?

This week’s episode is coming to you virtually from Jordana’s apartment and Jared’s parent’s pool house. Jared gives a breakdown of his experience being the main character of his family’s Thanksgiving. Then, J&J dive into Bumble’s dating trend report for 2023. They compare Bumble’s statistics to the results from our Instagram polls and talk about why this whole survey feels a little bit like propaganda to keep people on the apps. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a marina makeout gone wrong. Later, an emailer asks how she’s supposed to date while living in the suburbs. Should she lie about her location on the app to get more matches? Is she better off trying to meet people IRL? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mixing up dates, changing the subject, and bathroom talk in a relationship. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our Reviews

Great Chemistry and Advice

I’ve been listening to J&J for a while and I love not only their relationship advice, but also their humor and chemistry with each other. I often find myself laughing out loud with them and enjoy their banter together and with guests.

Laugh till you cramp!

J and J—thank you for the words of wisdom. Please keep the advice coming! Your dynamic together is amazing!

Amazing Podcast

If you are dating in your 20s and 30s, you have to listen to this podcast. I’ve learned so much about the male species from Jared! It is super helpful!!

Recent Guests

Victoria Justice
Stephen Coletti
Jonathan Van Ness

All Podcasts

Podcasts that cut the sh*t

View Promo Codes
@Betches

Come for the hot takes, stay for the group chat vibe.

U Up?

From interpreting dating app messages and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between, we’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. 

Diet Starts Tomorrow

In a world where wellness can make you unwell and beauty standards feel anything but standard, Betches Media presents a podcast that digs into the emotional side of well-being.

Crown Jewels

Hear ye, hear ye! Welcome to Crown Jewels by Betches Media – the elite podcast for the royally obsessed! Every week, hosts Samantha Bush and Lex Niko break down the latest Royal updates around the world.

Oversharing

Think of Jordana and Dr. Naomi as your BFF and your therapist, sitting side-by-side at the brunch table trying to help you get through your problems. Because sometimes we really need advice from people with no skin in the game. And let’s face it, your friends can’t stand to hear that story one more time.

Betches Moms

Get ready to lock yourself in the bathroom (or wherever else you hide from your kids) and listen to this podcast. Because you’ll literally never be alone again.

The Betchelor

We’re here to say all the things you're screaming at your TV while watching The Bachelor—because that finale dress was disgusting!

Betches Sup

Be informed, not bored. Rotating cohosts run through the wildest headlines and offer analysis and commentary that will make you actually laugh out loud.

Not Another True Crime

Your two funniest friends talking about crime. Each week, we break down a crime, cult, scam, or scheme with a healthy dose of irreverent humor.

Mention It All

Bravo, Bravo, f*cking Bravo. Three times a week, we break down everything Real Housewives and more, from episode recaps to social media drama.

Morning Announcements

Every morning, Betches co-founder and host Sami Sage gives you quick daily updates with the most important info you need to know about politics and current events.

Betches Brides

With tips on how to secure the best vendors, deal with your suffocating future mother-in-law, and everything in between, we’re here for you from the moment they put a ring on it until after you walk down the aisle. 

Money Please

If your idea of saving is ordering the cheapest thing on the menu and your retirement plan at this point is to marry rich, we’re here with a podcast to help you get it together.