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U Up?

U Up?
U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, in which they discuss their takes on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters to defining the relationship and everything in between, they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram.

Subscribe to U Up? With Benefits now!

It’s the same U Up? podcast you know and love, with a ton of added perks. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes.

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What does my U Up? With Benefits subscription include?

All newly released episodes of the podcast are available ad-free and will arrive in your podcast feed the day before they are released to non-subscribers. Plus, you’ll get two exclusive bonus episodes each month.

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Are you taking anything away from the old U Up? podcast feed?

Nope! All the same old U Up? episodes are available for non-subscribers.

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How do I subscribe on Apple Podcasts?

Sign up directly on the Betches site to get access to bonus episodes and future perks! You can also subscribe on Apple by going to the same-old U Up? channel on the Apple Podcast app and clicking the subscribe button. Simple as that!

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I listen to my podcasts on Spotify. How do I subscribe?

You will need to subscribe directly through the Betches site, but, once you do, you will be able to listen to your premium episodes on Spotify. When you subscribe on the Betches site, you will be taken through a few quick steps allowing you to seamlessly integrate U Up? With Benefits into your Spotify app. We got you!

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What happens after I subscribe on the Betches site?

After subscribing, you will be guided through a few quick steps to seamlessly integrate your premium episodes into your preferred podcast platform. Yeah, it’s almost too easy. we know. Then, start listening and enjoy!

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When are the usual U Up? episodes made available for subscribers?

Our usual Wednesday and Sunday episodes are available a day early. In some cases, these episodes may arrive mid-day (due to publishing constraints within the Apple and Spotify platforms), but rest assured that you’ll be the first to hear Jared and Jordana as soon as they’re available.

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How often are the exclusive subscriber-only bonus episodes released?

The two bonus episodes arrive in your podcast feed on the first and third Monday of each month. This stuff is juicy, so be sure to keep an eye out for it.

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What should I do if the latest early-release episode doesn’t appear in my feed?

Episodes are scheduled for release a day early, but in some cases, they may not land in your podcast feed until a full 24 hours ahead of their scheduled release (due to publishing constraints within the Apple and Spotify platforms). We suggest refreshing your podcast feed on early release days, but most should be available by mid-day for early listening.

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What happens if I want to cancel my subscription?

We hate to see you go, but we know this doesn’t mean goodbye forever. If you want to cancel your subscription on Apple, simply go to this Apple landing page and follow the instructions on your device. To cancel on the Betches site, navigate to your subscription page here.

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What if I have an issue with my Supporting Cast subscription?

If you are receiving an error after registering, please double check your payment information and contact your bank for more information. If you need further assistance, email .

Latest Episodes

Where to Start

Why Won’t My Partner Initiate Sex?

It’s February, which means we can all complain about it officially being the coldest month of the year. To start things off, Jordana tells Jared about her sister’s recent stay at her place and the creative new ways her seven-year-old nephew stress tested her new furniture. Jared’s hot off of a star-studded show at the Comedy Cellar, where Madonna inexplicably performed a 40-minute comedy set. Later we dive into our mailbox, and hear from a listener who worries that all her longterm relationships will end up with a dead bedroom. Also, a recent divorcee finds herself stumbling through her reentry into the dating world and regrettably commissions a pet portrait for a man she was casually seeing whose dog died. In “Awkward Encounter,” Jared & Jordana advise a listener who just realized she went on dates with two guys who are close friends and debates whether or not she should tell them. In “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?“, we hear about a guy who pretends he went to an Ivy League school, an ex-boyfriend who might be a little too obsessed with his sister and a woman who won’t stop comparing the man she’s seeing to her ex. Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. 

Bachelor Blindside: Matt James & Rachael Kirkconnell Split

Another Bachelor breakup broke the internet this week. After four years of dating and no engagement in sight, Matt James called quits on his relationship with Rachael Kirkconnell. With all the confusion and discourse over this breakup, Jared and Jordana enter the chat with their own takeaways. On “Icky or Picky,” a listener ends up dating a meme king which is all fun and games until he sends her about 30 memes over the course of two days. When things don’t work out between them, he sends her a Venmo request for the cost a previous date. In a dramatic reading of these text exchanges, Jared channels his inner spaghetti Western villain. Later, we hear from a listener who’s experimenting in her love life by dating a “nice guy” for once, who just so happens to do everything with his ex girlfriend. And by everything, we mean couples massages, hanging out multiple times a week and going on romantic vacations. Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. 

How Do I Approach My Gym Crush?

We’re one month into 2025 and J&J are here to keep you motivated, even if you already quit your New Year’s Resolutions. Jordana is fresh off of hosting a housewarming party and Jared is struggling to find time to write a book about dating while actively still dating. Later, we hop into emails, including a listener who wonders if her friends actually need to know the guy she’s dating and we answer the mother of all dating questions: How do I approach the gym hottie without being creepy? Today’s “Awkward Encounter” takes us to church with a wild listener story about hooking up with their former worship leader. On “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” J&J debate if terrible reviews on RateMyProfessor are a good reason to not date someone, consider what proper texting etiquette looks like during a national emergency, and question whether it’s bad form to refuse to go to a certain dating spot because it isn’t romantic enough. Have a dating question for Jordana and Jared? Send an email or voice memo to [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at our dating hotline 212-589-8903. 

The Hosts

Jordana Abraham
Jordana Abraham is the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of Betches who enjoys dispensing advice on all things relationships. In her free time, she can be found roasting Christmas trees and watching very bad reality TV. She also co-hosts U Up?, @Betches, and Oversharing.
Jared Freid
Jared Freid is a New York City-based comedian who sounds like he’s screaming but he’s just really excited to dive into your dating issues!

Featured Guests

Jay Shetty
Rebel Wilson
Sebastian Stan

Reviews

Great Chemistry and Advice
“I’ve been listening to J&J for a while and I love not only their relationship advice, but also their humor and chemistry with each other. I often find myself laughing out loud with them and enjoy their banter together and with guests.”
Laugh till you cramp!
“J and J—thank you for the words of wisdom. Please keep the advice coming! Your dynamic together is amazing!”
Amazing Podcast
“If you are dating in your 20s and 30s, you have to listen to this podcast. I’ve learned so much about the male species from Jared! It is super helpful!!”