As a fellow member of the Gay and Chronically Online Committee, my current pop culture obsession has been none other than the Midwest princess herself, Chappell Roan. A day does not go by where I don’t sing the TikTok viral, earworm-y hit, “Good Luck, Babe!” quietly to myself during any down period because I am nothing but an Encyclopedia book of catchy pop song one-liners. And while I believe the entirety of The Rise and Fall of a Midwest Princess merits the title of Album of the Summer, there’s one single that I am personally making my whole summer 2024 vibe and that’s “Casual.” Spending three glorious months in a Waspy port city with my just-for-the-season queer lover who likes to bang me in their car right before our sunset seafood dinner reservation at the pier? Sign me up!
There’s just something so H-O-T-T-O-G-O about having sex in a car. It’s the fogging up of the windows after a steamy makeout sesh, breaking out into uncontrollable laughter trying to contort yourself into impossible positions in the front seat, and the risk of getting caught mid-orgasm by an unsuspecting passerby. Plus, you know what’s even more satisfying than banging one out on their couch mid-afternoon? Having pussy on the go. I mean, who doesn’t love takeout?
The summer is essentially a free hall pass for being dumb in love and taking risks in your sex life that you normally wouldn’t, and taking the fun on the road is just one way you can spice things up this hot girl summer.
If you’re looking to get knee-deep in the passenger seat this season à la, everyone’s favorite queer pop princess, keep reading for the best tips for giving great road head as well as some positions to try.
Tips for Eating Pussy On-the-Go
1. Talk about it
Even if dirty talk doesn’t do it for you, all great sex begins with a conversation. Admittedly, some people are more open to car sex as a fantasy than a reality, so you can’t just start making out on the dashboard without asking, “What’s up?” first. Or, maybe they never considered getting freaky in the passenger seat and are worried about getting caught, so they need some reassurance.
Having a conversation will allow you to discuss any worries and plan for comfort, says queer sex educator Javay Frye-Nekrasova. It’s also a good opportunity to discuss boundaries and preferences and establish a safe word for when things start to feel a little too risky, and you need to take a pause, adds Lilith Foxx, a queer board-certified sexologist and sexuality educator.
2. Dress for success
There’s nothing more awkward than trying to get off a hundred layers of clothing or jeans with one too many buttons during impromptu sex. When it comes to having sex in a car, you’re going to want to choose an outfit that you can take off at the drop of a hat—wasting no time to get straight to business. Frye-Nekrasova recommends something like a sundress, which you can slide off with ease, or basketball shorts (underwear optional).
3. Make sure your car is well-equipped
Safe to say, you might not want to bang in Dad’s 1994 Land Rover Discovery — in other words, a really old car that should’ve been sent to the dump years ago. For stress-free car sex, you want to make sure your seats are adjustable and can be easily moved back and reclined to allow for more space, says Frye-Nekrasova. There’s nothing worse than trying to straddle your partner and hitting your head on the roof.
4. Park somewhere secluded
This should go without saying, but you should not be getting down and dirty in a moving vehicle. I might really love sex, but I love being alive way more. “The safest way to engage in sexual activities in a car is to park in a safe, private location,” says Foxx. Not only do you not have to worry about keeping your eyes on the road while your partner is going to town on you, but you can also fully relax and enjoy the euphoric experience without any interruptions.
5. Consider the night shift
Don’t get me wrong, the risk of being caught having public sex in broad daylight can be a huge turn-on, but I would much rather get busy in the driver’s seat without worrying about a cop tapping at my window. Frye-Nekrasova recommends engaging in car sex under the cover of the night as it’s less risky, so you can try more indiscreet positions like propping your leg up on the dash while your partner goes down on you. “Having tinted windows also provides a little more privacy,” Frye-Nekrasova notes, so you can bang without the anxiety of possible prying eyes.
6. Bring in props
Just because you’re not having sex on top of your memory foam bed doesn’t mean you have to be uncomfortable. If you’re planning for a romp in the car, consider bringing in pillows and blankets from home for added comfort and support. Even a small travel pillow can help against leg cramps when you’re getting knee-deep, says Foxx.
Best Road Head Sex Positions
The High Seat
The middle console isn’t only great for storing drinks and your keys; it serves a dual purpose as the perfect spot for receiving road head. Here’s a play-by-play, according to Frye-Nekrasova: The receiving partner sits on the middle console between the driver’s and passenger seat, their back to the windshield, while the giving partner sits in the middle back seat, directly facing the receiving partner. For added space and hip support, recline both front seats.
Passenger Princess
Really lean into your Passenger Princess title with this aptly named on-the-go oral sex position recommended by Frye-Nekrasova. For this one, have the receiving partner sit in the passenger seat with the seat reclined all the way back. Meanwhile, the giving partner is going to kneel on the floor in front of them, having an all-access pass to the receiving partner’s pussy.
Fast & Furious
Warning: This position should not, under any circumstances, be done while the car is in drive. “This is for the more adventurous car play enthusiasts,” says Frye-Nekrasova. For this move, the giving partner is going to be in the driver’s seat, with the seat pushed as far back as it can go. The receiving partner, meanwhile, is going to be sitting on top of the steering wheel, ass to the dash. Pro tip: If you have an adjustable steering wheel, lower it for more space and comfort.
Comfort Plus
If you’re not one for gymnastics or prefer more privacy — which is totally fair — take your romp sesh to the back seat. I like to call this classic car sex position Comfort Plus because, heck, it’s cozy AF, so you can just focus on each other’s pleasure rather than worry about a stranger knocking on your dashboard, per Foxx.
Here are the basics: The receiving partner lies across the back seat on their back, ideally supported by a pillow or blanket, while the giving partner kneels or sits between the receiver’s legs to feast. For easy access, the receiving partner can lift their hips up in a sort of bridge pose.
Back Seat 69
This one’s pretty self-explanatory. You’re essentially 69ing in the back seat of your car. It’s a fan favorite because of the privacy and comfort it offers, especially if your ride has tinted windows, says Foxx. To do it, have one partner lay on their back while the other partner straddles them, facing the bottom partner’s feet. For easy access, the bottom partner should spread their legs wide to allow the top partner to lean over.
To take any of these sex positions up a notch, add in a small, discreet vibrator for added clitoral stimulation, advises Foxx. Now, you’re ready for the hottest summer of your life. Everyone say, “Thank you, Chappell!”
