Everybody farts! Still, I’ve been in a six-year relationship before, and aside from what I unfortunately couldn’t control during my sleep, I never let myself fart in front of my partner. I didn’t even like peeing with the door open, so letting him know I passed gas was a huge “no” for me. 

While that relationship was particularly awful, I’m still convinced that no amount of healthy love or trust with a romantic partner will ever make me comfortable enough to fart in front of someone I’m dating — or even married to. Hairy legs? No problem. Drooling in my sleep? Whatever. But farting?? I’d rather eat glass. 

Some people feel the same as I do, while others can’t seem to imagine being with someone longterm without ever letting it rip. For them, it’s less about if they’re going to fart in front of their partner and more about when. 

So is there a correct answer to whether you should fart in front of your significant other or not? Jacqui Rubinoff, certified love coach, relationship expert, and co-owner of Eye of Love, says it all depends on your personal preferences.  

While some couples like to keep things private, Rubinoff says others may find farting in front of each other an inevitable part of cozying up to one another. 

“Ultimately, it’s all about finding that balance between being open and respectful of each other’s boundaries,” she tells Betches. “Whether you’re giggling about it together or politely pretending it didn’t happen, what matters most is that you’re both happy and comfortable in your relationship.”

Basically, it’s about the level of intimacy and comfort you’ve established in your relationship. But you can still have both of those things even if you’re not tooting it up together. “Couples who prefer to maintain some boundaries in this area might still have a loving and fulfilling relationship — it just means they prioritize different expressions of intimacy,” Rubinoff says.

If you need some inspo to let it rip in front of your partner, here are farting stories from real couples to help you break wind.

Couple Farting Stories To Inspire You To ~Let It Rip~

The Fart That Sealed The Deal

For me, it didn’t happen until we lived together (5 months in). We were laughing really hard at something… probably a TikTok. And I laughed so hard I farted, which made both of us laugh even more, which is probably why I’m marrying him. 

-Maria R., 34

Poop Girl Forever And Always

So my husbae (longterm boyfriend) and I have been together for 10 years. He was my college crush, literally the cutest guy I came into contact with on campus. We always hung around each other after his basketball practice. I started to get comfortable around him after some time. We used to stay at each other’s places for long periods of time. Around year three of dating, we were laughing at something on IG, and a fart slipped out. I looked at him, and he looked at me, and we busted out laughing together. It was history from there. He gave me the name “Poop Girl,” and still to this day, that’s my nickname… not babe, but “poop girl.”

-Keisha T., 30

Holiday Toots

It was definitely after we said I love you —Thank god, lol. Maybe five months into our relationship? We had been dating since June, and I spent the holidays with him and have a visceral memory of farting in my sleep and waking us both up. I was mortified, and he just cracked up, which made me crack up.

-Abbey W., 30

The Morning Queef

It was less than a month into dating, and I slept over his frat house for the first time. I woke up in the morning and attempted to get out of bed quietly. I bent over off the bed to put my pants on and legit queefed in his face and turned around screaming, “THAT WASN’T WHAT YOU THOUGHT IT WAS.”

– Anonymous