Before you accuse me of over-analyzing men in Spirit Halloween capes, let me just say this: I am getting paid to do it. And honestly, Halloween is the one night men are socially allowed — even encouraged — to express themselves in ways they normally never would. So yes, I will be decoding their emotional baggage, attachment style, and maybe even their sex game based on whether they dressed as Gomez Addams or grabbed a last-minute cowboy hat from CVS. Because I’m delusional and choose to believe that the man who ignores two out of three of my texts is subconsciously revealing the deepest layers of his psyche through his costume choice.
And according to a survey conducted by Hily, this isn’t just me being dramatic. Costumes make 43% of women and 39% of men feel bolder about approaching someone IRL, and nearly 40% of daters say dressing up actually helps them show their realest self. So regardless of how half-assed his costume is, statistically speaking, it might be helping his love life. But beyond a confidence boost, sexologist Dr. Mindy DeSeta says costumes can offer real insight into how someone loves, flirts, and gets freaky. So let’s unpack what his costume says — about him whether he’s emotionally available or just really good at pretending.
What His Halloween Costume Says About Him
Gomez Addams
According to Dr. DeSeta, Gomez is the patron saint of secure attachment. His character “embodies passion, unapologetic devotion, and emotional intimacy.” Men who choose Gomez are usually comfortable expressing love publicly and privately, rejecting the whole emotionally constipated, stoic-male stereotype. These are the men who prioritize connection, partner satisfaction, and aren’t afraid to worship the ground their lover walks on. Dr. DeSeta explains emotional availability and expressiveness are strong predictors of sexual communication and relationship satisfaction — and this man is checking those boxes like it’s foreplay. But be weary, if you see a man as Gomes Addams at a Halloween party, odds are his Morticia is somewhere close behind.
Travis Kelce
This man didn’t just dress as Travis Kelce — he is channeling the energy of a confident golden retriever with biceps. “He thrives on excitement and brings that same vitality into his sex life,” says Dr. DeSeta. Expect enthusiasm, playful teasing, and someone who’s not afraid to get a little loud. He’s competitive, meaning he’s determined to win both on the field and in the bedroom — especially when it comes to your pleasure. Athletic stamina + a sense of humor = you’re in for a performance… but like, the good kind. But, he also might not be the brightest? Don’t believe me? Just see a few of Travis’ tweets from a few years ago
Superman
Dr. DeSeta says this costume represents the fantasy of a “dual identity” — the idea that there’s more beneath the surface. He’s taking off the mild-mannered button-up and revealing his “shadow self,” those hidden parts of his personality he doesn’t always show. According to DeSeta, his costume signals he wants to be seen as a protector but also someone capable of emotional depth and intimacy. He might not always show it, but Superman Guy wants to save you and emotionally connect while doing it. Or, he’s just a narcissist and thinks he’s cool enough to be Superman. It’s really a toss-up.
Louvre Robber
There’s something dangerously charming about this guy. Dr. DeSeta describes this man as calm, calculated, and a believer that “great sex, like a great heist, starts with mental foreplay.” He likes anticipation — builds tension, makes you wait, and knows exactly when to strike. He thrives on mystery, forbidden fruit energy, and probably has a playlist titled something like “French Jazz but Make It Filthy.” He’s mastered the art of slow burn seduction. Also, who doesn’t love a man with good taste in jewelry?
Steve from Minecraft
If he’s dressed as Steve, Dr. DeSeta says he’s an “endearing man — patient, kind, and not subscribing to toxic masculinity.” He’s not here for performative, porno-level sex. He believes intimacy is built “block by block” — with comfort, trust, and mutual pleasure. He will absolutely ask if you’re okay, give forehead kisses, and probably bring you water afterwards. Wholesome king behavior. He’s also probably a huge nerd. But we love that!
Kendrick Lamar (think Superbowl Halftime Show)
According to Dr. DeSeta, this is a bold political and artistic choice. He’s making a statement before he even opens his mouth. This man understands vulnerability, confidence, and pushing boundaries — not just in music, but in intimacy too. He knows connection can be both tender and revolutionary. He’s not afraid of feelings, discourse, or eye contact during missionary. But also, he’s petty AF — so be aware. Sorry, Drake fans.
