You know how sometimes you go on a cruise with your family, and all you want is a nice dinner without your kids pulling spaghetti off the table? Well, Matt and Abby Howard tried to do just that, and TikTok lost its collective mind. These TikTok-famous parents shared that they monitored their two kids — Griffin, 2, and August, 13 months — from their stateroom via FaceTime while grabbing dinner. Sounds harmless, right? Not according to the internet, which promptly exploded.
When Abby casually mentioned their setup in an Instagram story, the backlash came quicker than you can say “deckside buffet.” People immediately assumed the worst, accusing them of basically abandoning their kids, and questioning the safety of leaving their boys alone, even with monitors. There were tons of comments like, “What happens if you come back and something horrible has happened?” I mean, sure, we all love a good detective doc, but this was… a bit much.
So, of course, Matt and Abby had to pull out the big guns and address the rumors. In their new TikTok, Matt explained how much they love their kids and that, no, the boys were not alone. In fact, Abby’s extended fam was on the trip, and someone was with the kiddos at all times. The FaceTime setup was just an extra layer of surveillance. Like, these two were going above and beyond with parental monitoring — face and screen time.
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Abby then clarified that she deleted the original story because, yeah, she saw how people misunderstood. She added that they “would never, ever” leave their kids alone. You could almost hear the collective sigh of relief from their followers — and Abby’s relief that she didn’t accidentally get canceled over a family vacation.
The weirdest part of all this? The insane amount of unsolicited opinions about their parenting. It’s like people were lining up to call Child Protective Services because they heard “FaceTime” and “dinner.” One TikToker went full dramatics, saying, “Obviously, not enough people take true crime seriously.” Girl, relax. The FaceTime thing was just a high-tech version of what everyone with kids does — checking on kids while trying to enjoy five minutes of adult time.
In their follow-up video, Matt and Abby stayed cool, calm, and collected (better than I would’ve been, TBH). They explained the whole “blackout tent” situation — yes, the boys sleep in these adorable little tents with built-in monitor spots. Even when someone is physically with the kids, they use these to make sure they’re always being watched. It’s like Baby Big Brother, but in a cute way. Anyway, this setup is their norm, and now the internet knows.
Look, I get that people love a good drama-filled social media scandal, but this whole thing was a major overreaction. Matt and Abby were just trying to have a quiet dinner with a side of peace and quiet, not serve up some Dateline mystery. Let’s all take a collective deep breath and remember that sometimes, parents deserve to eat a meal in peace without the internet judging their every move.