I have always been big on nipple play. As someone with ultra-sensitive, pierced nipples, almost nothing feels better during sex than having someone lick, kiss, and caress my chest. (But I do not fuck with biting, keep your teeth away from my nipples, please, and thanks.) So, when I’m having solo sex, I usually incorporate some sort of nipple play into the act. And recently, being the sexy scientist that I am, I decided to use my vibrator on my areolas. After massaging the vibrator around my breasts and nipples, it started to feel — and I mean really — good. I kept at it until I felt the sensation build in my nipples and then my stomach, and finally in my vagina. And then, everything in my body rose and crashed. I just had a nipple orgasm.
I’m a firm believer in self-exploration when it comes to sex. Emphasis on the “self.” I’ve found time and time again that the more I slow things down with myself when it comes to learning my own body, the better it translates to partnered sex. And more importantly, the more satisfied I feel. When you masturbate often, you learn which touches feel good, which ones are not so good, and which ones drive you absolutely crazy (in the best way). And, being the horny connoisseur that I am, I’m always trying to discover new ways to engage my whole body and make masturbation (as well as sex) as earth-shatteringly good as I can. Enter the nipples.
While I had heard of a nipple orgasm before, I thought it was one of those things that either happened to you or didn’t. And while after having one, I did feel a surge of “wow, I’m better than everyone else” come over me, the sex writer in me knew that there was more to it. And so, because I am a person of the people, I decided to share my knowledge, bring in the experts, and break down how to have a nipple orgasm. You’re so very welcome.
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Who Can Have A Nipple Orgasm?
Although nipple orgasms may sound super elusive, they’re not limited to a select few people the universe has deemed its favorites. To put it simply, “Anyone can have nipple orgasms, as long as they have nipples,” Marla Renee Stewart, sexologist and sexpert for Lovers tells Betches. Yeah, so you with the nipples, she’s talking to you.
In fact, she says that depending on the anatomy of a person’s body and how their nerve endings connect to their genitals, some people may even need nipple stimulation to orgasm. “We typically think that orgasms come from the stimulation of the genitals,” Stewart says. “And although this can be true, there are plenty of ways of being stimulated.”
WTF Does A Nipple Orgasm Even Feel Like?
Having a nipple orgasm was one of the most intense and shocking feelings I’ve ever experienced. The more pressure I applied to my areolas and nipples with my vibrator, the deeper I felt the sensation in my vagina. And the more I followed that feeling, the stronger the pleasure felt. Once it built to a peak, I felt myself orgasm deep inside my vagina, the same way I’ve felt with a vaginal orgasm. Not only that, but my breasts felt incredibly tender in the best way possible. My initial reaction (immediately after “WTF just happened,” of course) was confusion. I was aware enough to realize I had just experienced a nipple orgasm, but I couldn’t figure out why I felt it in my genitals.
“The basic physiological understanding of orgasms for women though tells us that when a woman experiences sexual arousal and climax — regardless of how that climax is achieved — the vaginal muscles contract,” Angie Rowntree, founder and director of the sex-positive, woman-geared, ethical porn site Sssh.com, tells Betches. “So if you had a nipple orgasm and felt yourself responding down there, that’s all normal.”
So… How Do I Have A Nipple Orgasm?
While I achieved my nipple orgasm with a powerful vibrator massaging my breasts, the only “magical” trick here is to experiment with which types of strokes and sensations work for you. “Sex is not ‘one size fits all’ ergo it follows that the experience of sexual arousal is the same way,” Rowntree says. “Your nipple play threshold might vary drastically as well – and that’s okay!”
Whether you’re trying to achieve a nipple orgasm on your own or during partnered sex, you can explore the sensations in your nipples in so many different ways. Rowntree explains that nipple clamps can increase sensitivity in your nipples and also incorporate a “kinky pain” to the equation that might work for you. At the same time, other people might enjoy using ice cubes, feather ticklers, or even heated massage oils on their nipples.
Stewart suggests not only focusing on physical sensations but also mental ones. “To help yourself move faster in arousal, it’s helpful to think about what turns you on, previous amazing sexual experiences you’ve had, or stimulation of other erogenous zones on your body,” she said. As with any type of orgasm, allowing yourself to clear your mind and focus on what feels good can be key. But if you need a little help, she also suggests the aid of nipple arousal creams and some nipple balms.
How Do I Make My Nipple Orgasm Even Better?
If you’re already having nipple orgasms left and right, first of all, congrats, betch! Second, welcome. We should definitely get a group chat going. And third, there’s no reason to stop there. As with any type of orgasm, once you learn how to achieve it, the next step is to learn how to make it feel a million times better. And because I’m a diligent Capricorn, I subscribe to a “relentless practice makes perfect” ideology.
Again, Rowntree says that there’s no exact formula because everyone’s bodies (and nipples) are so different. The “best” way to improve your nipple orgasms is to just keep exploring your own body, taking note of what works for you, and using that to build your own customized fool-proof routine. And if you’re trying to get there with a partner, the best thing you can do for yourself is yap it up. The more you communicate with your partner about what you’ve discovered about your body, the better they can satisfy you.
Can I Have An Orgasm Anywhere Else?
In short — of course, you can orgasm almost anywhere else! There are anal orgasms, coregasms, and even skin orgasms. Learning that you can have a nipple orgasm is like opening the most wonderful Pandora’s box you could ever imagine. Except, instead of releasing all of the evils of the world, you’re releasing all the orgasms. You get an orgasm, you get an orgasm!
The overarching advice here is to just touch yourself. Touch yourself wherever it feels good, and do it over and over. Often, when people masturbate, they do it with the goal of reaching orgasm. But there is no need to “wham, bam, thank you ma’am” yourself. Take your time, listen to your body, and revel in the sensations it gives you. “Generally, people who masturbate will be able to more effectively communicate their sexual needs – and empathize with their partner’s as well,” Rowntree said. So do us all a favor and go fuck yourself.
