How To Mentally Prepare For Election Day

Hear ye, hear ye! Election Day is finally here. After months of candidate commercials, televised debates, lots of deranged tweets, and one global pandemic, the day has finally arrived for us to cast our votes and hope America gets renewed for another season. As if 2020 hasn’t been traumatizing enough, we now have the pleasure of dealing with election anxiety. Yes, voters are now experiencing heightened levels of stress and anxiety as a result of this sh*tshow we call an election. I mean, duh. But as we gear up to head to the polls, check our mail-in status, and anxiously await the results, it’s crucial that we also carve out time to take care of ourselves. A lot of things are out of our control right now, and that can feel overwhelming, but spiraling into a dark hole of doom and hopelessness isn’t going to do anyone any good. Perspective and mindfulness are key. It’s critical that we find ways to keep ourselves occupied and in check. To help reduce some of this election induced anxiety, I consulted with multiple experts on how to emotionally prepare yourself for election day.

What Is Election Anxiety?

First off, let me assure you that the glass case of emotions that you are in with respect to this election are completely valid. Election Stress Disorder, aka election anxiety, is a real thing that is taking a toll on a majority of voters leading up to the 2020 election, with 52% of Americans reporting in a survey done by the American Psychological Association that the election is “a very or somewhat significant” source of stress. So you’re not alone! I spoke with Natalie Ryan, LCAT, a psychotherapist in NYC, who says, “Nearly all of my patients have been speaking about election related stress and anxiety.” She adds, “A topic that’s come up a lot in sessions is processing people’s biggest fears of what might happen if their candidate does or doesn’t win.” This feeling of uncertainty and anticipation for Tuesday’s election results is only increasing our already heightened sense of anxiety from the dumpster fire that is 2020. I also spoke with the Regional Medical Director at One Medical, Natasha Bhuyan, MD, who has seen an influx of patients dealing with excess stress due to the upcoming election. Dr. Bhuyan says that, “Some patients are having trouble sleeping with racing thoughts about worst-case scenarios. Others are spending lots of time consuming the news and struggling to unplug.” I feel incredibly seen.

To elaborate more on how people, specifically younger generations, are feeling, I spoke with the Senior Director of Measurement & Insights at Fullscreen, Amelia Rance. Fullscreen’s insights division launched an election study that surveyed the political stances of 3,000 millenials and Gen Zers, ranging in ages from 18 to 37 years old. Rance says they found that, “We’ve always seen with a lot of the research that we do that this generation is thinking more about their future and are more aware of certain things, so they feel this stress and anxiety overall more than some of the other generations.” And they all said millennials were self-centered. 

Rance continues, “When we asked specifically about the election, uneasy was the number one emotion that they were feeling, tied with hopeful.” This awkward balance of feelings can be a lot to handle. The best way to manage this upset of emotions is to find ways to support yourself and your mental health, especially during times of political uncertainty. Yes, I’m talking about self-care!

Have A Voting Plan

First and foremost, establish a voting plan. Dr. Bhuyan says, “Start by having a plan for Election Day. If you haven’t voted, where will you go to vote? Be sure to research the polling location and logistics like parking.” She also advises, “Do a sample ballot ahead of time (including the initiatives) so you don’t feel stressed about making those decisions on Election Day.” The more organized you are, the better your brain is going to feel. If you’re voting by mail, then double check you sent it in on time and its status. If you’re voting in person, make sure you have the right address for your polling location. Preparation is essential in reducing unnecessary stress. 

Plan Your Day

Along with establishing a voting plan, it’s also wise to think about how you want to spend the day. Are you planning on watching the news all day, or are you blocking everything out and pretending like it’s not happening? Will you be with friends and family, or by yourself? There is no universal right answer. Ryan suggests, “Spend some time thinking about what will feel the most nourishing to you that day, and try your best to have things in place to help with self-soothing.” That could range from face masks, to ice cream, to a punching bag, or all the above, whatever will work best for you—no judgment. 

Set Boundaries

As you think about what mental practices will best suit you, don’t be afraid to set boundaries with friends, family, and even with the news. You are not obligated to discuss politics if it’s going to be detrimental to your sanity. The same goes with the news and social media. Dr. Bhuyan says, “Many news and social media platforms are designed to have no natural stopping point––there are always more posts to read, videos to watch, and links to click on. As a result, people need to set intentional parameters about how much they consume.” Setting boundaries is a healthy way to preserve your mental well-being and to help prevent yourself from falling victim to political fatigue. Additionally, Ryan suggests, “Maybe you want to have a set time for when you check in with the results, rather than watching constantly for hours at a time. Spend some time thinking about what will feel the most nourishing to you that day.” It’s all about doing whatever feels right for you. Keep the news on all day or go totally off the grid—no option is better than the other. 

Manage Expectations

It’s also important to try and level your expectations. Dr. Bhuyan says, “Managing expectations is a skill that requires being honest with yourself. While people use polls, predictors, and statisticians, know that there is still a wide realm of possibilities in terms of outcomes.” And keep in mind that just because voting ends on Tuesday does not mean that we will have answers on Tuesday. Rance adds, “There’s a strong chance that we won’t know what the outcome is, and then there’s still going to be that uneasiness until we actually know the results. Suspect that the uneasiness will continue after Election Day, unfortunately.” Try not to set yourself up for failure by expecting all of your anxieties to be resolved within one day. 

Do Your Part

Another way to reduce anxiety is to focus on what is in your control. Rance says, “It’s important that people feel that they have done all that they can do in terms of making change happen.” She continues, “If people really feel like they’ve done all they can do in terms of motivating their friends and family to vote, or reach out to states that are more undecided, and really can make an impact; I think that’s how they’ll most feel prepared for the outcome.” Do everything that you need to do, so you can feel at peace and like you’ve done your part—whether that’s phonebanking, talking to family members, posting on social media, volunteering, etc. Oh yeah, and VOTING.

Try Not To Spiral

In the same way that we should moderate our social intake, we should also be conscious of spiraling into a doomsday mentality. Ryan advises, “While it’s important to give ourselves space to process, it’s also incredibly important to recognize when we’re catastrophizing so we can rescale our fears.” She continues, “The first step to stop the catastrophizing and rumination cycle is to recognize when it’s happening. Once we have the awareness we have options to help us move away from it.” If you feel yourself start to spiral, just pause, take a breath, and then pivot to the Pinot, or whatever your self-soothing technique is—again, no judgment. Ryan says, “Distraction, clearing your mind with meditation or breathing exercises, talking to a friend, listening to music, or getting some exercise are some ways we can actively avoid dwelling on worst case scenarios” are all things you can try to calm the f*ck down.

Regardless of Tuesday’s results, it is important to remember that there will still be a Wednesday, a Thursday, a Friday, and an anticipated, hilarious Saturday Night Live. Time will go on, the Earth will keep rotating, and life will continue. I fully understand how pivotal this outcome is and how that can feel. It may seem like a do-or-die, make-or-break moment in time, but that is precisely what this is, a moment in time. As Rance says, “The privilege of voting is something that has been reborn, and people are going to continue to stay passionate, regardless of the outcome on election day.” Hope is not made or broken on November 3rd. The results are what they are. You may not be able to control the outcome, but you can control how you handle it. 

Lastly, Dr. Bhuyan recommends, “Try to challenge yourself to see the silver lining in even the most difficult conditions.” Give it a shot. I’ll go first, my silver lining is that election day falls on taco Tuesday, so win or lose, we can still have a margarita, and I will cheers to that.

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We Have To Talk About Trump’s Antisemitism

My Jewish identity has been a huge part of my life since I was born. I was lucky enough to grow up somewhere with a large Jewish community. I went to a Jewish summer camp, participated in youth groups, and now go to a college with a relatively large Jewish population. So, while I grew up aware of antisemitism, I’m privileged in that my own experiences of it have been pretty limited. 

Unfortunately, this is not super common for American Jews. As the Anti-Defamation Leauge (ADL) reported, antisemitic attacks are only becoming more frequent across the United States. In 2019, a recorded 2,107 anti-semitic incidents took place across the country. This was a 12 percent rise from the year before and the highest number since the ADL began recording.

Antisemitism is widespread across both major parties in the United States. Sometimes, it seems like attacks on Jewish people are coming from all sides. While we would expect a normal president to denounce all types of hate, including antisemitism, this isn’t the case with Trump. Instead, he covers up his antisemitic policies and behaviors with pro-Israel policy. 

For his entire presidency, Donald Trump has leaned on being “good for American Jews” because he is “good for Israel.” This week alone, during an annual pre-Rosh Hashanah (the Jewish New Year) call with Jewish leaders, Trump said, “We really appreciate you… we love your country also.” 

I'm American.

— Sam Vinograd (@sam_vinograd) September 16, 2020

This isn’t the first time he has said something like this. Over the last several years, Trump has repeatedly implied that Jewish Americans should be grateful for his actions in the Middle East and his strengthened ties with the current Israeli Prime Minister. And, peace is a great thing, no matter who the President is, part of their job is helping further peace plans whenever possible. My problem isn’t with that, and honestly, I’m not even here to write about conflicts in the Middle East. 

My problem is that when Trump views Jewish Americans’ electoral support as tied to Israel, he is perpetuating the idea of ‘dual loyalty.’ The concept of dual loyalty is an antisemitic dog whistle that implies that Jewish people are inherently disloyal and place the global Jewish community over the countries in which they live. In the United States, it is used to imply that American Jews can’t be 100% loyal to America because some of their loyalty is owed to Israel or the international Jewish community. 

Trump’s attempts to win Jewish people’s electoral support are all based on the extremely reductive assumption that American Jews’ top policy concern is Israel. While it may be the case for some members of the Jewish community, it certainly isn’t true for everyone. By only attempting to appeal to Jewish voters through Middle Eastern policy, the Trump administration actively ignores dangerous forms of antisemitism in America. 

White supremacy and antisemitism are inextricable from each other. We all remember what Donald Trump said after the Unite The Right rally in 2017: “you also had people that were very fine people, on both sides.” Many of the “very fine people” that Trump was talking about were carrying Nazi flags and shouting, “Jews will not replace us.”

Throughout his presidency, Trump has clung to white supremacists’ support, endorsed their actions, and continuously given them platforms. The most recent example of this is Trump’s embracing of the QAnon conspiracy theory, which has blatantly anti-semitic roots. The theory pushes the narrative that the Rothschild family holds control of every bank in America and alleges that a secret ‘elite’ class dominates other important industries such as the media. 

A few weeks ago, when asked about the conspiracy group, Trump said, “I don’t know much about the movement other than I understand they like me very much, which I appreciate.” This is just another case of Trump not only dismissing dangerous antisemitism, but giving it a platform. 

American Jews are not a monolithic group, and we care about a lot of things. Like I said, the top priority for some Jewish people may be the state of Israel, and that’s ok. However, it is neither mine nor many of the Jewish voters I talk to. In fact, around 75% of Jewish voters supported Hillary Clinton in the last election, and Jewish voters consistently make up a large Democratic party base. 

This baffles Trump, who, despite his claims of being a great ally to the Jewish community, said that he thinks that if “any Jewish people that vote for a Democrat — it shows either a total lack of knowledge or great disloyalty.”

If the President actually cared about Jewish voters, he would stop perpetuating the incredibly dangerous narrative of dual loyalty and denounce white supremacy. But, I’m not really holding my breath. 

The 19th Amendment ‘Guaranteed’ Women’s Right To Vote. Some Never Stopped Fighting To Use It.

On August 18, 1920, Tennessee became the 36th and final state required to ratify a constitutional amendment guaranteeing women the right to vote.

In theory, the 19th amendment extended suffrage to all women with citizenship. In practice, it guaranteed this right primarily for white women, many of whom were already permitted to cast votes per state laws. Across the country, non-white women remained at the mercy of state laws that would continue to disenfranchise them for another century.

That is, if it stops tomorrow. 

It’s often repeated that voting is our most fundamental right — the result of wars fought and won throughout the 20th century. The uncomfortable truth is that voting remains a privilege for too many, as bad faith leaders wage constant battles against minority communities to suppress participation in the political process. These battles continue today.

It’s a mistake — one that ignores the boundless persistence of white male supremacy — to reduce the fight for women’s suffrage to a singular moment in U.S. history. Women were participating in the political process before this country was colonized, and had to protect their right to do so long after a few words in the Constitution vowed to do it for them.

To honor this anniversary, we took a look at the winding, thrilling, disappointing, and incomplete path towards full voting equality for women in the United States. Please note this is far from a comprehensive timeline.

Long before 1776

Historical records indicate that Native women participated in the tribal political process long before colonization, and matrilineal traditions gave many influence and power in their communities. But in some areas, colonization corrupted existing egalitarian social structures.

Throughout the early centuries of America, Native women were deprived of citizenship, were legally wards of the government, and were locked out of voting rights. Though some questioned the value of citizenship, they were nonetheless subject to forced assimilation.

1776: New Jersey Giveth, New Jersey Taketh Away

New Jersey passed its state constitution granting the right to vote to all inhabitants with property, including women. A 1790 state law affirmed that this was not a mistake, and women could indeed vote in New Jersey.

Single women voted for decades  (married women couldn’t because their property went to their husbands after marriage). Until 1807, when losing politicians began accusing women, people of color and immigrants of voter fraud. 

Philip Mead, chief historian at the Museum of the American Revolution in Philadelphia, described the moment in time to The Washington Post:

“This was a moment, in 1807, where Americans were having serious doubts about their democracy. I think were looking for a big action they could take to restore confidence in the voting system, and they crudely scapegoated women, people of color, immigrants.”

Sound familiar?

The law was changed to limit voting to white men. New Jersey was just one of many states that retroactively took away women’s voting rights. 

July 1848: The Seneca Falls Women’s Rights Convention

Frederick Douglass with his wife, Helen Pitts and her sister, Eva Pitts

The first women’s rights convention was held in Seneca Falls, NY. The convention passed 11 resolutions to pursue — its “Declaration of Sentiments” — which included a demand for the right to vote.

The voting resolution might not have passed without Frederick Douglass, who was the only Black American to attend the Seneca Falls convention.

His speech convinced other attendees to support women’s suffrage, which was still the only resolution not to pass unanimously. 

1851: Sojourner Truth Gives Famous Address To The Women’s Rights Convention

Sojourner Truth in around 1864. Courtesy of the Library of Congress

Sojourner Truth was among the most well-known abolitionists and women’s rights activists of her time. She was invited to speak at an 1851 gathering of suffragists, where she gave what has been referred to as the “Ain’t I A Woman?” speech.

The speech was a huge moment in the trajectory of women’s rights. But there’s a fair amount of controversy around it. Truth was born in New York, but the most popular version of the published speech contains Southern dialect that does not reflect the way she actually spoke. It’s likely that white abolitionist Frances Dana Barker Gage changed Truth’s accent and word choice to misrepresent her background.

In any event, most versions of the published speech include a version of this iconic line:

“Well, if woman upset the world, do give her a chance to set it right side up again.”

1868: Ratification of the 14th Amendment 

This extended citizenship to Black Americans, but not the right to vote. 

1869: Wyoming Becomes The First State Or Territory To Pass Women’s Suffrage

Mostly because they were thirsty. 

Sure, some men in Wyoming wanted women community members to have a voice in their democracy…

Others hoped the new law would draw more women to the state. At the time, the state had six times as many men as women. 

Clearly these gentlemen didn’t agree with their brothers in Wyoming. Courtesy of the Library of Congress. 

1870: Ratification Of The 15th Amendment 

The 15th Amendment prohibited state and federal governments from denying the right to vote based on race, theoretically giving Black men the right to vote. 

Racist Jim Crow laws, literacy tests, and poll taxes barred many from exercising that right. 

Though the suffrage movement found its origins in abolitionism and many suffragists assisted the anti-slavery war effort, movement leaders largely opposed the 15th amendment unless it also enfranchised women. Plenty were furious that Black men were granted the right to vote before white women. Many were openly hostile to the idea of incorporating racial equality into the women’s movement. 

Some white suffragists largely distanced themselves from universal suffrage that would include Black women, for fear of alienating Southern legislators (and their own racism).

At this point, prominent suffrage organizations had split to pursue separate approaches, while Black women were further excluded and marginalized within the movement they were instrumental in shaping. 

1872: Thousands Of Women Attempt To Vote In The Presidential Election 

They knew it was illegal, but planned to file lawsuits after they were blocked from voting.

Leading women’s rights activist Sojourner Truth was turned away and arrested, despite working for Grant’s re-election campaign. Susan B. Anthony was also arrested and charged. 

Virginia Louisa Minor’s case made it all the way to the Supreme Court, which in 1875 found the Constitution did not give women voting rights. 

The suffrage movement shifted its attention to a constitutional amendment.

1878: The 19th Amendment Is Introduced 

A casual 42 years before its ratification 

1896: Founding Of The National Association For Colored Women 

Members of the Arizona Federation of Colored Women’s Clubs in around 1909. Courtesy of the Library of Congress.

A number of Black women’s civil right’s groups merge to form the National Association For Colored Women, after which Black women’s suffrage clubs emerged across the country 

Mary Church Terrell, one of the first Black American women to earn a college degree, led the new organization, which was co-founded by Josephine St. Pierre Ruffin, Ida B. Wells-Barnett, Harriet Tubman and others. 

Their motto: “Lifting as we climb.”

1898: Mary Church Terrell’s “Progress Of Colored Women” Speech


Mary Church Terrell co-founded the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People and the National Association For Colored Women. 

Mary Church Terrell was one of few Black women permitted to attend meetings of the National American Woman Suffrage Association.

She was invited to speak at its gathering in Washington, D.C., where she emphasized the value of Black women’s political participation and the challenges they face in society.

“Not only are colored women with ambition and aspiration handicapped on account of their sex, but they are almost everywhere baffled and mocked because of their race. Not only because they are women, but because they are colored women, are discouragement and disappointment meeting them at every turn. But in spite of the obstacles encountered, the progress made by colored women along many lines appears like a veritable miracle of modern times,” she said.

March 1913: Suffrage March in Washington, D.C. 

German actress Hedwig Reicher wears the costume of “Columbia” in front of the Treasury Building in Washington, District of Columbia, on March 3, 1913. Courtesy of the Library of Congress.

The National American Woman Suffrage Association and Alice Paul organized a protest on Pennsylvania Avenue the day before Woodrow Wilson’s inauguration. At least 5,000 women — and as many as 10,000 — attended. Black women were discouraged from participating and asked to march in separate processions. 

The Delta Sigma Theta Sorority had formed at Howard University just months earlier. In spite of the racism they were sure to encounter, its founding members attended the march in D.C. as their first public act. Mary Church Terrell joined them.

Bertha Pitts Campbell and Osceola Macarthy Adams, co-founders of the Delta Sigma Theta sorority at Howard University. Courtesy of the Washington State Archives.

Ida B. Wells-Barnett also attended the march. Even though she founded and inspired suffrage clubs across Illinois, Wells-Barnett was instructed to walk with a segregated procession at the back of the march.

“I shall not march at all unless I can march under the Illinois banner,” she reportedly said. 

Wells waited to enter the parade until the Illinois delegation passed, when she jumped in to join them. 

Image courtesy Wikipedia Commons/ Chicago Daily Tribune

The march was met with violence. Rowdy spectators attacked and harassed women on the route. At least 100 women were hospitalized with injuries.

1917: New York State Passes Referendum On Women’s Right To Vote

The landmark vote in the nation’s most populous state gave the suffrage movement a shot of momentum. Black women’s clubs and the NAACP were critical to the referendum’s success 

August 18, 1920: Ratification Of The 19th Amendment  

Tennessee became the 36th state needed to ratify an amendment guaranteeing women the right to vote, just over a year after it passed the Senate.

Many states already allowed women to vote by this point. For some women, the 19th Amendment now guaranteed this right. 

It did not hold the same promise for Black women, who were excluded by state laws, discriminatory Jim Crow practices, violence and harassment. 

Native women, many of whom were not yet considered citizens, were also excluded.

1924: Congress Passes The Snyder Act 

The Snyder Act of 1924, also called the Indian Citizenship Act, extended full U.S. citizenship to all Native people.

But states continued to impose restrictions and refused to recognize Native American citizenship; some states conditioned voting rights on federal assimilation and the abandonment of tribal governments or lands. 

Utah became the final state to fully guarantee voting rights for Native Americans in 1962.

March 1965: Bloody Sunday 

A young John Lewis leads 600 marchers across the Edmund Pettus Bridge in Selma, Alabama to demand respect for the constitutionally protected voting rights African Americans of all genders were still denied. 

August 1965: The Voting Rights Act 

President Lyndon B. Johnson signs the Voting Rights Act into law, which prohibited racial federal discrimination in voting and included provisions to safeguard against it. A key provision required states with a history of racial discrimination in voting to clear new election laws with the federal government to ensure they don’t suppress minority voting or political representation. 

The VRA also strengthened voting rights for women, immigrants, and Native peoples. But even this did not end the disenfranchisement of BIPOC in America. 

The March on Washington on August 28, 1963. Courtesy of the Library of Congress

June 2013: The Supreme Court Guts The Voting Rights Act 

In Shelby County v. Holder, SCOTUS found that the formula used to determine which states need special permission before changing their election laws was unconstitutional. 

This made the provision itself nearly useless, allowing states to move forward with election changes without regard for how they might disenfranchise BIPOC. 

Now What? 

The ruling elite hasn’t given up on voter suppression. They’ve just gotten more creative.

In past decades, states have gerrymandered districts to dilute the impact of Black voters. Others have implemented onerous ID requirements that disproportionately impact minority voters and Native people who live on reservations. Yet others have eliminated same-day registration, early voting, and Sunday voting.

And most recently, the president and his loyalists have spread false information about mail-in voting while sabotaging the ability of the United States Postal Service to process ballots for the November election he is widely expected to lose.

These restrictions disproportionately impact women and minorities, who are more likely to rely on flexible voting options. 

Though President Trump himself has requested a mail ballot this year, he continues to raise the specter of voter fraud to sow fear and suspicion of November’s election result.

As you prepare to cast your ballot this year, remember this is not the first time that women and people of color have been accused of voter fraud by politicians who didn’t like to lose.

Remember the New Jersey women whose right to vote was revoked through vague allegations of “voter fraud” after decades of voting freely. Remember the Black women who never stopped fighting to exercise the rights they helped win for white women. 

Remember that when politicians no longer impress us, we get to eliminate them. They don’t get to eliminate us.

The Betches Sup’s 2018 Midterm Voter Guide

It is mid-October and I know that the only thing on your mind is if it’s appropriate to be a slutty for Halloween. But we’re here to tell you something else should be on your mind that’s happening like, a week after Halloween and that is Election Day. Yes, you know, the thing Taylor Swift wrote that suuuppper long Insta post about. Just kidding. We know you’re all smart, capable women who are stoked to vote, and not just because you’re going to get a sticker.  (Though it is awesome to get a sticker.) Since we know you’re already going to the polls, this voter guide is here to help you figure out wtf to do when you get there. Do you have a voting plan? Are you registered? Do you think being a slutty feather duster is too on the nose?

Here is everything you need to know about voting, it’s like the cheat sheet you used to pass AP Bio. Aww, #tbt.

Wait, Can I Register Right Now?

We get it, you don’t want to read this whole entire thing. Register to vote right tf now,  by clicking here. But then also do read the rest of the article because we like, worked hard on it and sh*t.

Is It Too Late To Register?

Voter registration laws can be vary a lot from state to state, so making sure you know wtf is up where you live is important. Check here to see if you are registered and click here to see your state’s deadline for registration. Many states have same day voter registration, which is amazing for the procrastinators among us. You can also click here to find out your state’s specific registration requirements.

If you missed your deadline and can’t register the day of the election, you should low-key be a little embarrassed, but don’t worry this is a safe space. Consider atoning for your sins by phone banking for a candidate of your choice. Recruit one new person to vote and it’s kind of like you never missed the deadline at all! Kind of…

Can I Vote Early?

Nothing is more fun than being a trendsetter. Many states have early voting, which is basically like the Disney Fast Pass of democracy. No waiting in lines. No bullsh*t. You just cruise right into Indiana Jones exercising your civic duty with zero hassle. Click here to see if your state has early voting so you can get voting out of the way before Election Day. Then go out and get yourself a sticker because you deserve it.

What About Voting Absentee?

Voting absentee – like the jager bomb – is something many people experience exclusively in college. Whatever the reason, if you can’t show up to the polls on election day you can always vote absentee. Click here to get your absentee ballot in less than 2 minutes.

Okay, I’m At The Polls And They Aren’t Letting Me Vote. Do They Know Who My Dad Is?

Some districts have a shady past of turning away voters who are indeed registered to vote, or just have overworked and/or inexperienced poll workers who can’t find your name for whatever reason. Don’t freak out. If this happens, repeat after me: “Give me a provisional ballot with a receipt as required by law when requested.”

Write that on your hand if you need to. Practice saying it in the mirror Elle Woods style. If for any reason you are not able to cast your ballot, do not leave the polling place until you’ve filled out a provisional ballot, then be sure to follow up with your state to verify your identity and make sure your vote is counted. And then go buy yourself two stickers for all the extra work you had to do.

What if something Shady Is Going Down At My Polling Place?

You’ve watched enough true crime documentaries to know when something shady is going down. Have a hunch or doubt that there’s an issue at your polling place? Call 866-OUR-VOTE or text election protection” to 97779 and let them know what problems you’re encountering. Maybe Mariska Hargitay will show up!

Wtf Is On My Ballot?

Don’t get caught in the voting booth staring at a bunch of names you’ve never heard before running for positions you know nothing about, or propositions written in language your brain can’t comprehend. The good bros over at Crooked Media created a way for you to preview your ballot so you won’t be caught off guard by anything on Election Day. Filling in random bubbles based off what answer sounds the best may have worked for your AP Bio exam, but it def won’t fly on Election Day.

Wait Why Am I Voting Again?

Look, we put a lot of jokes in this article because we’re Betches and that’s what we do, but voting is really f*cking important. Chances are there is an issue you care about, and Election Day is your opportunity to make your voice heard. A recent poll showed only 26% of 18 – 29 year olds were likely to vote in the upcoming election, whereas 82% of those 65 and older are likely to turn out. That’s like, sad and embarrassing. It’s sadbarrassing.

That’s why The Betches Sup has partnered with Crush The Midterms to make identifying causes you care about and finding out how to support them come November as easy.

Click Here To Come Up With Your Own Personalized Midterm Plan 

See you on November 6th! 

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This New Poll Should Absolutely Terrify You

We’ve all heard that young people don’t vote, but the election of an orange reality TV racist to the highest office in the land made a lot of people think that was about to change. Apparently not. A new Gallup poll says that the amount of people aged 18-29 who are “certain to vote” is just 26%, compare that to 82% of people 65 and over and you’ll see why we have a major problem on our hands.

Certain to vote in ’18, based on late-Sept. Gallup poll:
65+ 82%
50-64 69%
30-49 55%
18-29 26% <—– ????

— Justin Levitt (@_justinlevitt_) October 3, 2018

While enthusiasm for voting this November is higher than the past six midterm years, turnout among young people is still incredibly low. (Note to young people: if you’ve tweeted about Trump in the past two years but aren’t planning to vote in November, you’re tacky and I hate you.) Additionally, the poll found that Republican enthusiasm has finally caught up to Democrats, in large part due to the Kavanaugh hearings, putting the whole “blue wave” thing into major jeopardy. If the blue wave was something you were low-key counting on to finally put a stop to the never ending hellscape of 2018 politics, this sh*t should terrify you. If that’s not a problem for you and you’re totally on board with what our government has been up to the past 2 years, this article is probs not for you. Maybe try Sears Breitbart?

So WTF Do We Do?

Not down for another two years of whatever the f*ck has been going on in our politics lately? Same. Here’s what you can do to make voting like, v chic in 2018.

  1. Make sure you’re registered: Deadlines to be registered in many states are coming up faster than Trump can tweet, so the first thing you have to do is check your voter registration ASAP. Nobody wants to get up early to go to the polls on Election Day only to find out they’re not registered and don’t get a sticker.
  2. Make sure your friends are registered: Once you find out whether or not you’re registered, make sure all your friends are also voting. Be that annoying person who texts everyone about voting now so you don’t have to be that annoying person who won’t shut the f*ck up during Handmaid training later.
  3. Make a voting plan: Why not use voting as an excuse to hang with your friends? Figure out where your polling place is and make a plan to meet up with other friends in your neighborhood to vote on election day (which is November 6th, btw). Voting takes an average of 11 minutes, which is noting compared to the fact that you take double that amount of time figuring out the lighting on your “I voted” selfie. As an added bonus, voting with a friend means that you can have someone there to actually take a photo of you so you don’t have to awkwardly wave your arm around trying to figure out how to get the sticker in the shot.
  4. Get excited: Voting is fun! It’s even more fun if you do your research and walk into the voting booth knowing exactly who the f*ck you’re voting for, instead of being blindsided by the city counsel candidates and just picking the ones who seem chill based off their names. Also did we mention you get a free sticker? Because you do.

So like, wtf are you waiting for? Just vote already. This sh*t is getting ridiculous.

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This Video Of Michelle Obama Will Make You Feel Better

Former First Lady Queen of America Michelle Obama is out spreading the word about election day. This time she isn’t talking about a candidate or her BAE, she’s talking about voting in general. Last week Michelle spoke in Las Vegas at an event for her organization When We All Vote. She started off her speech stating that the first reason you should vote is because it’s your right to vote. Mic drop. She could’ve walked off the stage and been done but Michelle knows we all need a push, so here are all of the reasons you should vote.

  1. It’s your right as an American.
  2. It directly affects you and your future children’s lives (like suuuper far in the future children).
  3. Midterms have super low turnout, but it’s still important to vote for local and state leaders.
    • Sheriffs affect how your streets are patrolled.
    • Local officials take (or don’t) take care of your roads, schools, etc.
    • Members of Congress are the ones passing laws, the ones that affect us all – so you should def care about who they are.
  4. “You wouldn’t let your grandma pick out your clothes.” (Um what Michelle?) She explained that when you don’t vote you are letting someone else with very different taste from yours make all of your decisions. Love you grandma, but I don’t need you picking out my clubbing clothes.
  5. There’s a huge chance you won’t be happy with the consequences of not voting for someone who represents you.

  6. “Other people suck.” (OK, so Michelle did not say that.) She did say that there are people who hope you don’t vote so they get more influence and others that want to make it harder for you to vote. Rude! What’s better than showing those people they can’t stop you?
  7. In a lot of states once you’re registered to vote you can do so by mail. This is for all of you couch potatoes or like really busy people or worker bees that can’t get away from work during the day to vote. It’s so easy.
  8. It takes no time! Voting lines are shorter than the ones you wait in on Friday night to get into the bars. In fact, voting takes an average of 11 minutes. Michelle called us all out saying we spend plenty of time on our phones watching vids, so we can stand in line instead of watching old Vines on YouTube.
  9. Citizenship and opinions are the only two qualifications you need to vote. We all know you have opinions on everything so just vote about them!
  10. Pick just one candidate, one issue, one initiative on the ballot that matters to you and vote for that.

There is no arguing with the logic and wisdom of Michelle Obama. Your voice matters and you should use your vote to make the U.S. the place you want it to be. If you aren’t registered go to and sign yourself up ASAP! If you are registered, you can still use that link to sign up for updates and reminders about elections in your area. And if all of these reasons aren’t enough, do it just because Michelle Obama would want you to, k?

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Casual Reminder Of All The Stuff You Should Still Be Angry About

President Donald J. Trump has many talents — declaring bankruptcy, paying off mistresses, becoming BFF with dictators — but chief among them is his ability to throw some new distraction at us every damn day. It’s easy to forget some of the worst things Trump has done in office because it feels like they happened an eternity ago. But actually, they’re still going on, and we’re just too exhausted/focused on Trump’s latest ALL CAPS STUPID TWEET to remember.

So here’s a reminder of all the sh*t you should still be angry about. And keep in mind that, much like going out for a night of heavy drinking, being angry about Trump is a marathon, not a sprint. You want to maintain a steady rage-buzz without either vomiting because it’s all too much, or falling asleep cause you’re over it. So I’m going to sprinkle in some cute animal gifs to keep your head from exploding. We need your heads intact so that you can vote in the midterms.

The Muslim Ban

Hey, remember back at the beginning of his administration, when we still kind of believed in goodness and hope, when Trump first tried to ban travelers from seven predominantly Muslim countries, and everyone took to the fucking streets in protest? Yeah, Trump’s team has been working and reworking that executive order, and in June, the Supreme Court upheld it with the help of retiring swing vote Justice Anthony Kennedy. Cool cool cool, thanks for the memories, Anthony!! Anyways, here’s a hedgehog in a bathtub.

The Courts

And speaking of the Supreme Court, here’s a reminder that Trump has nominated a dude named BRETT to replace Kennedy, and it’s highly likely that he’ll help overturn Roe v. Wade. It will officially be the worst thing a dude named Brett has ever done, and that’s saying a lot. And Trump hasn’t just been appointing shitty judges to the Supreme Court. He’s been filling the lower courts with the pace of a freaking Energizer Bunny. Hey, speaking of bunnies!

The Family Separations

It’s hard to believe that we’ve been able to talk about anything besides the fact that the Trump administration put CHILDREN. IN. CAGES. but here we are a few weeks later, debating exactly what Trump said on those Michael Cohen tapes. Meanwhile, although the courts have ordered family reunifications, the government’s having a hard time getting its sh*t together and actually doing it. Lots of kids are still separated from their parents. There’s no animal gif that’ll make that okay but I guess here’s a puppy grocery shopping anyway.

Wanna Do Something About It?

All of this is still just the tip of the iceberg. There’s also the transgender military ban, all the ways in which he’s been destroying the environment, the damage he’s done to the Affordable Care Act, and more. Trump is so prolific, he’s basically the Joyce Carol Oates of sh*tty news. He’s covering up his bad-deed pimples with layers of concealer, but the angry pustules are still there, and unfortunately we can’t just pop them and make them go away.

But we can vote! That’s why Betches is partnering with Rock The Vote to register as many people as humanly possible. So check your registration status and harangue everyone you know to do the same. See you at the polls, betch.

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These Are The Elections You Need To Pay Attention To In 2018

As Americans, exercising our right to vote is literally the least we can do to make sure that the people who represent us are at least somewhat supported by a majority of citizens. Whether you’re voting on “who wore it best,” picking the winning bracket in the Betchelor Challenge, or choosing actual political representatives, this is the one time you are fully allowed to  blatantly choose favorites based on personal (preferably educated) opinion. America: Land of the Free, Home of the Petty.

If the 2016 presidential election had you pounding tequila shots until you forgot how to spell “democracy,” then you’re probably itching for another chance to flex those Scantron-bubble-filling muscles. Well, you’re in luck, my woke friends – no need to wait until 2020 for the next presidential election when there are tons of primaries, special elections, and midterms to vote in this year. Here are just a few of the ones that might stand a real chance at stopping the big orange wrecking ball from destroying everything causing some major shifts in the Senate and the House.

May 8 – Indiana, Ohio, & West Virginia Primaries

The Democratic Senator in each of these three states is running for re-election on a pretty unstable footing. In Indiana, Republicans have raised over $1 million to challenge current Dem. Senator Joe Donnelly. Meanwhile, West Virginia’s Dem. Senator faces a Republican opponent who spent a year in federal prison for a workplace safety violation that killed 29 people in a mining accident. You know, totally equal opponents.

June 5 – California & New Jersey Primaries

5 out of 12 races in New Jersey have the potential to shake things up, while two Republicans in California have already announced they are not seeking re-election, which opens the door for a possible blue flip for those districts. TBH, I feel them – if I was already part of the House or Senate when the past year and a half of insanity tornadoed through, you couldn’t have paid me to peace outta that mess fast enough.

August 2 – Tennessee Primary

With Bob Corker also calling it quits, the Tennessee Primary is totally up in the air and Democrats are hoping to pull an upset and snatch that wig from the winner of the Republican primary.


August 14 – Minnesota Primaries

Tina Smith is looking to serve out the rest of the term that she took over for Al Franken after he joined the ranks of creepy men in power who like to grope women as a joke. Cute. Republicans are looking for the steal but like, ya girl had to come in at a tough time and pick up a lot of pieces when Franken let everyone down so why don’t we just let her have this one, yeah?

Other Elections To Watch This Summer:

June 26 – New York, Maryland, & Utah Primaries

August 7 – Michigan & Missouri Primaries, Ohio Special House General Election

August 28 – Arizona & Florida Primaries

Save these dates to your iCal because each of these races could be the key to flipping the House or the Senate. Also, watching election results is fun. Especially if you turn it into a drinking game.


November 6 – The G-D Midterm Elections

This is it. The big one. The primaries are just pregames getting you nice and sauced up for the main event. While the White House will remain under Republican control for the next 2 years, midterms could flip enough seats in the House and/or the Senate to edge Democrats closer to closing the gap or even taking the majority.

This is a massively BFD, considering the point of the other branches is to check and balance the president and each other. They’re basically there to ensure that one party doesn’t run wild passing legislation that only serves to benefit their point of view. I’d like to take a moment to thank Schoolhouse Rock! for my unofficial degree in political science and the ability to sound like I have even the slightest fucking clue what I’m talking about.

For a complete list of elections in 2018, check out this handy guide by The New York Times, and make sure to register to vote in your state. For real, if you can tweet a vote for The Voice because you think Adam Levine is a wet dream on two legs, then you definitely have enough time to do your civic duty and get your ass to your local polling place because this shit matters. Be the change you wish to see in the world, or whatever. I’m pretty sure a bumper sticker taught me that.

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