So I'm kind of dating this guy I work with and all was going really well until I met someone better… Now I'm really not sure what to do. The guy I'm dating from work is one of the sweetest guys I've ever met but I'm losing interest, fast. Meanwhile, he's planning vacations for the two of us and I'm really not sure what to do. I want to get out of the relationship but he can be dick if he doesn't like someone and so can his friends.
I'm worried that if I break it off they're going to make work unbearable. I've never had a problem dumping a guy in the past for being clingy or annoying but dumping someone because they're too nice is new to me. How do I let this guy down easy? Is it terrible if I do it after the vacations?… I want to stay friends with him but he's a little more dramatic than I am and I have a feeling that's not an option. With that said, any ideas how I can just make a clean break and not make him hate me in the process? All my friends think I'm a bitch for even considering dumping such a sweetheart, which is why I need your help.
Make me a single betch
Dear Make Me a Single Betch,
Ah, if only Santa could deliver clean cut break ups in his sack of useless toys that he delivers to annoying kids. Unfortunately, the only one who can do your breaking up for you is you and it's best to do it ASAP. First of all, this guy is not the sweetest guy you'll ever meet. If he was, he and his friends wouldn't be dicks to people they didn't like. It's easy to be sweet to someone you want to have sex with. It's way harder to be sweet when you're not getting exactly what you want. It sounds like this guy actually has latent anger problems if you're scared of a backlash once you get on his bad side.
That being said, you need to break up with this guy ASAP and really nicely. If you wait until after vaca, he'll feel like you used him for a getaway and also probably become way more attached to you. Just tell him that you don't see this turning into something serious but you think he's great and you don't want to lead him on or have him spend his money on you under the premise that you're feeling the same way. If he's not a huge pussy he'll appreciate your honesty and move on. If he gets very angry, you can be sure you made the right decision. No one wants to spend their holiday season walking on egg shells with Chris Brown and posse.
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