6 Bridesmaid Gifts That Can Actually Be Used At Your Wedding

There’s a lot to think about when you’re getting married, and you don’t want to neglect your bridesmaids. Making sure you give bridesmaid gifts thanking them for participating in your wedding is important. By the time you get to the morning of said nuptials, there’s likely to already be some resentment, anger, exhaustion, and general pettiness amongst the group. Maybe you made the horrible decision to have two maids of honor, or for your mom to be a bridesmaid, or to have four hours of pictures sandwiched in the middle of the day. Whatever the case, it’s best practice to quell the potential mutiny of bridesmaids with bribes. Bonus points if said gifts can be used the day of your wedding, like these neat things:

Shawls

AayamCashmere Wrap Shawl – $48.85

Are you getting married in the dead of winter, or in a location that just experienced weather cold enough to freeze boiling water in mid-air? I’m not going to delve into your choices, but offering a shawl–be it faux fur or hand-made cashmere as a practical but sweet bridesmaid gift wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world. There are plenty of beautifully made Lenny Kravitz-sized scarves that your ladies can drape around their freezing bodies that won’t detract from your tasteful outdoor pictures.

Booze

Modern Gourmet Make Your Own Gin: Homebatch Edition – $14.99

Obviously, booze is a wonderful choice. Get a few bottles of local wine, small batch whiskey, or craft gin for your ladies, and watch the magic unfold the morning of the shindig. You can even customize booze offerings by which lady likes which spirit. That can work especially well if you have more than six bridesmaids and someone is feeling ignored. You’re the bride and star of the show, after all, so a bit of directed love at a specific friend can go a long way. #Psychology. You can even get weird with it and get everyone gin-brewing kits, so they can experience the magic of making alcohol right at home! It wouldn’t be a great day-of option, unless they just get bored and eat the spices and chug the gin.

Robes

LeRoseGifts Lace Bridesmaids Robes – $36.04

Robes to get ready in (and take nauseating group photos in) are a big thing these days, and, honestly, it makes a ton of sense. Why wouldn’t you want a cute, cozy bathrobe to hang out in while strangers slap makeup on your face or tease your hair so it looks amazing in a flower crown? It’s going to photograph a lot cuter than a stretched out t-shirt from that brewery down the road and Bugs Bunny sweatpants. Etsy has been leading the charge on these, offering everything from monogrammed waffle weave spa-quality robes to thinner material boasting giant flower patterns. There are also looks for every price range, so if you think Sarah deserves a robe for $50, but Natasha only earned a $16 robe, you can make it happen.

Nail Polish

Essie Nail Polish in Ladylike – $6.74

Are they all required to wear fire-engine red or soft peony pink on their nails for your big day? Cool. Buy it for them and stick it in their bags as a thank you. It’s a small touch, but it’s a nice way to ensure that they always remember you whenever they paint their nails that color. Ever.

Weekend Survival Bag

PaperArtScissors Survival Kit – $2.45+

If you’re wedding is bound to be a sh*tshow, at least try to save your bridesmaids a bit of pain. Etsy has tons of cute survival packs pre-loaded with Tylenol, Chapstick, Pepto, water, sunscreen, and hangover pills as inexpensive bridesmaid gifts that’ll come in very handy after the six-hour reception. Plus, it’s nice to have things like mints on hand if they’re trying to smash later with that hot groomsman. Just saying.

Jewelry

Tiffany & Co 1837 Cuff – $310

Let’s say you’re a v specific bride, with v specific taste. Maybe you want your bridesmaids to wear really pretty white gold hoops and gold necklaces and gold knot bracelets. That’s cool. Maybe you should have that be their gift. Seriously, some of the best gifts I’ve gotten while serving time as a bridesmaid have been the jewelry that the bride wanted us to wear. Sometimes it was knotted gold earrings, occasionally it was a not-tacky silver bracelet. They’ll appreciate the jewelry, and you’ll appreciate that no one is wearing a fake Heart of the Ocean necklace because she thought it looked so fetch with her bridesmaid’s dress.

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8 Things Nobody Tells You About Being A Bridesmaid

Yayyyyy your bestie is totally getting married. It’s time for you to suck it up, throw on a questionable dress, wake up at 4am to have someone jam bobby pins into your scalp, and take part in several different bridal things that will all blur together by the time the bride and groom run through that sparkler line. Supporting the bride as a bridesmaid is like, one of the rules of feminism. But there are several unknowns and, frankly, scary aspects to being a bridesmaid that you may not know about. Here are a few things nobody tells you about being a bridesmaid.

1. You’ll See The Bride Naked

I know my bridesmaids watched me pass out on a floor, get up, barf (while giving a thumbs up), then proceed to shed all my clothing. Get ready to shower the bride—like, literally give her a shower—after she spills a drink on herself or gets little too sloppy. Maybe she’ll try on her lingerie in front of you all. Who knows. Just remember: pics or it didn’t happen.

2. You’ll Never Wear That Dress Again

I don’t care what the bride tells you. “Oh you can totally cut this into a cute tea-length cocktail dress.” I could, but I won’t. Tell me when chiffon goes with anything. Tell me. Just buy it and accept that this will hang in your closet until you choose to donate or burn it.

3. Prepare To Fight

It could be a passive-aggressive tiff or a full-on drunk screaming match that gets you kicked out of the dueling piano bar. It’ll be entertaining if you aren’t involved. If you are involved, though, take it from me—hair pulling works really well when you’re trying to make a point. You heard it here first. Don’t @ me.

4. The Bride Will Go Crazy

Yep. She’ll either be crying because daddy won’t let her have an open bar or because Aunt Zelda isn’t coming or because she can’t lose those last three pounds. Or she’ll scream at you because you wore ivory to her shower. Maybe she’ll demand you pay $800 for the shoes she needs you to wear. It doesn’t matter. At some point, the wedding demons will overcome her, and she will lash out at you and everyone she loves. Don’t make her madder, fam.

5. You’ll Help The Bride Pee

Wedding dresses are a b*tch to potty in. You’ll need to hold it up for her while she yanks her Spanx down and hover-pees during the wedding. You’re there to be a supportive friend.

6. You’ll Never Talk To Half These Girls Again

Like, no, you aren’t REALLY besties with the groom-to-be’s cousin or the bride’s roommate from college. You just have to pretend to be for the year leading up to the wedding. You’ll see each other hammered; you may spoon while you’re drunk. You may even talk about how you’re sooooo glad you’re finally meeting and you’re totally gonna hang out this summer. You won’t. You’re forever bound by this f*cking wedding and the ugly dresses you’re all sporting, though, so that’s something.

7. It’s Your Duty To Party

I don’t care if you boofed all the drugs and got too f*cked up during the rehearsal dinner to party during the wedding. It’s your job as a bridesmaid to dance, make all the other guests dance, take shots, and assure the bride and groom that this is LITERALLY THE BEST WEDDING EVER. Leaving early is not an option. Suck it up, buttercup.

Ready To Party

8. Saying No Is OK

Like, if the bride is asking you to buy a $1,000 dress or demanding you come to her bachelorette party in Mexico or that you buy her a $200 massage a day before the wedding, don’t feel like you have to just cause you signed up to be a bridesmaid. I mean, try not to be the b*tch that’s saying no to everything (“I can’t wear these shoes cause they don’t match my complexion” is different than “I really don’t want to cut my hair into a pixie cut so that you’re the only one with long hair”), but if you feel like the bride is completely out of control, it’s okay to check her.

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