Nothing is worse than being down to have sex but feeling uncomfortable taking off your clothes. Being confident in bed is a major turn-on, but the fact of life is unless you’re Lizzo, you probably aren’t feeling yourself at all times. Maybe you’re getting your period and feel super bloated. Or you have a pimple the size of Mount Everest on your forehead and the thought of getting down in missionary while your partner makes eye contact with it is a major mood killer. I get it. I’m all for that self-love crap, but it just doesn’t always cut it. Sex can be uncomfortable and embarrassing (as we know from these uber awkward celebrity sex stories), but there are tons of ways to help boost your confidence and make you more comfortable in bed. Besides, the more comfortable you are, the more relaxed you’ll be and the more fun you’ll both have (and likely, the better it will feel). But other than wearing sexy lingerie or dimming the lights, there are certain sex positions that make you feel confident. Because confidence is sexy.
Who says “Sex positions” can’t include solo ones? Hear me out. Being comfortable and confident in bed stems from being comfortable with yourself. Knowing what you like and how you like it is extremely sexy. So how else will you know what to tell your BF to do if you don’t explore yourself first?
Like I’ve said before and I’ll say again (sorry for being preachy), if you’re confident with yourself, you’ll exert more confidence. Duh. But to do this, focus on your favorite body part and put it on full display. So if you’re super confident in your rack, climb on top and let your partner get an unobstructed view. Personally, I’m not a huge fan of my boobs. They are large and heavy and bounce around. But hey, I guess that’s what my boyfriend likes about them. So cowgirl might not do it for me, but for you it could be one of those sex positions that make you feel confident. An added plus is that you’ll be in full control and guys find that super sexy.
Similar to the above, focus on your fav asset. If that’s your ass, then turn around and do it from behind. If 2016 on has taught me anything, it’s that people love butts—even just looking at them. But it’s 2019, we’re eating ass now, so you might want to kick it up a notch. If your hair is long enough to put it in a ponytail, do it. Your bae can pull on your hair as you arch your back. Not only will he see your whole behind, but the arched back creates a super sexy position that you’ll both love.
Sometimes doggy isn’t my thing. The penetration can be so deep that it genuinely hurts, but if I’m bloated it’s my favorite position since my stomach cannot be seen. This is why I love reverse cowgirl. My ass is on full display, my stomach is hidden, and I’m in full control. Win-win-win, am I right? It’s also not a super frequent position in our repertoire (although it should be) so when I suggest it, my boyfriend gets super excited. The reassurance that I’m doing something he loves is a major confidence booster.
Contrary to Coach Carr, do it in missionary. It may seem v boring, but trust me. Lying on your back and letting him have full control may sound lazy, but if you throw in some instructions and boss him around a little, it’ll quickly turn from a super passive to a super active position. He’ll have the reversal of the typical dominant and submissive roles that are associated with missionary. Knowing what you want and communicating that to your partner is super sexy. Being a boss makes anyone super confident in bed; that’s just a fact. If you haven’t tried it, I highly suggest.
Another spin on doggy is this baby. It’s essentially the same, but you brace yourself up against a sofa. What’s so sexy about this position? Getting down and dirty outside the bedroom can feel super deviant and hot, which are both major confidence boosters. Sometimes the bed can feel repetitive, so why not change things up? Just make sure your roommates aren’t home (if you have them) or the couch doesn’t shift too much. Who knows, maybe this will open up the door to having sex around your entire apartment.
If all else fails, ask your bae what they like. Not only is open communication key to good sex, but it also allows them to vocalize what they like and don’t like. So you know next time when you kiss their neck or whatever, you’ll get a good reaction from them and a little confidence boost for yourself.
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I’m sure we all have our fair share of awkward sex stories. Maybe it was when you lost your virginity and he poked around for 10 minutes trying to find the hole with no luck. Or maybe it was last week when your period came early all over his white sheets. I’m honestly cringing just thinking about it all of my embarrassing sex stories (and trust me, there are a lot). But once you get past the embarrassment of accidentally letting one rip while you’re doing it, it makes for a great story down the line. And what’s better than your own embarrassing sex stories? Embarrassing celebrity sex stories. Whether it makes them seem more human or makes me feel better about myself, awkward celeb sex stories are sooooo amazing. Hearing of the most awkward times our fav celebrities were having sex and it went from romantic to embarrassing v fast is extremely enjoyable. Here is a list of some of the best embarrassing celebrity sex stories, for your viewing pleasure.
Kris And Caitlyn Jenner
Back when Kris and Caitlyn were still married, they had a rather rambunctious sex life. I don’t think I need to remind you of when Kris accidentally slipped Rob a Viagra, or how they used to have a stripper pole in their bedroom. But one time, the couple was flying a commercial airline *gasp* (don’t worry, they were in first class). They decided to join the prestigious Mile High Club. How people actually do it, I don’t know. But they did their thing and “felt they got away with it.” Until the flight attendant got onto the speaker at the end of the flight to congratulate the Jenners on joining the club! They were given a bottle of champagne to celebrate! Honestly, that flight attendant should get a raise.
Honestly, this embarrassing celebrity sex stories list would not be complete without another Kardashian/Jenner family member. In 2016, Khloé wrote on her app and website about the time she had sex in a moving vehicle. She rated it a “two out of five” because it was v uncomfortable and “hurts her f*cking knees” since she is tall. She clarified that this all went down in the backseat, though, so neither she nor this mystery man were driving. So my only question is, who TF was driving?!
Hilton lost her virginity at 15 to Randy Spelling (Tori Spelling’s brother). And while most people’s first times are not their finest moments, this one takes the cake among these embarrassing celebrity sex stories. He said that after they snuck off to have sex, “I hear this knock knock knock on the door, and I look out and her grandma’s there. And then I look out the window and I see Paris in a full-on dress with a suitcase running down the golf course.” First of all, what was in the suitcase? Why did Paris take it with her? And also, I wonder what he said to her grandma …
Nick Cannon And Mariah Carey
In an interview back in 2012, Cannon admitted that he and then-wife, Carey, would get down and dirty to her music. And when Carey isn’t there? He masturbated to her songs. Um, wow. That is a new level of narcissism. Their favorite song to have sex to was “Hero” and honestly, I’ll never be able to listen to that song in the same way again. It may not be embarrassing for them, but I definitely have some secondhand embarrassment hearing about this. It seems a little weird, but whatever gets you off, dude.
Cara admits that she is a frequent member of the mile high club, but there is one story that stands out. She was once having sex on a plane in the chair (yes, not the bathroom) and some guy kept watching them. I mean, wouldn’t you at least take a peek if people were getting it on in the row next to you?? Instead of stopping, as any logical person would, they asked the stewardess to ask the man to stop watching them so they could continue. Sure, that’s a normal reaction. She recalls the situation as “disgusting” and called him a “pervert” but like, do you blame him for staring?
Ariana Grande And Pete Davidson
Keep in mind that Davidson has a tendency to overshare. He told Howard Stern in 2018 that he always thanks Ariana for having sex with him and always apologized afterward. If that isn’t awkward enough, he told Stern that he has a trick to help him last longer in bed. He said that he thinks of his father, who was a firefighter who died in 9/11, “being burned alive.” I’m not a guy and don’t experience boners. But that seems like an automatic boner-killer, rather than just a technique to help you last longer. I’m truly uncomfortable. Then again, Pete is known for openly talking about his dad’s death and joking about it, so it is very possible he’s not being serious. At least, I hope he’s not.
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