Can Things Get Any Worse? Your 2021 Horoscope Predictions

This year has been nothing short of Earth-shattering, and with good reason. The transits we experienced this year—most notably, Saturn (structure), Pluto (transformation) and Jupiter (expansion) consistently causing contention in Capricorn—were meant to shake us to our very core. Some might say this is uncomfortable. Others might say this is insane. And still, others might say, “give me a f*cking break already.” All of those people are me and my Gemini personalities.

But here’s some good news (cue John Krasinski direct-to-camera look). We’re moving into the Age of Aquarius! Saturn and Jupiter, huge ruling planets for us here on Earth, enter into Aquarius within days of each other this month—making way for their Great Conjunction on the winter solstice, Dec 21st. This massive energy will shift us into the concepts of innovation, connectivity, and welfare for the global community. 

TL;DR: 2021 will be nothing short of revolutionary. Read on to see which area of your life will be destined for growth. Make sure to check both your Sun and your Rising signs* for the utmost accuracy. 

*Your Sun sign is your fundamental identity. It points to your general personality, approach to life, interests, and how you shine. 

*Your Rising sign (or Ascendant) represents how you show up and the direction in which you move through the world. This sign was on the horizon at the time of your birth and therefore sets up your entire chart (which is why accurate birth time is important). It’s arguably a more predictive way to determine what you’ll encounter and how you’ll meet it. 

Aries

Your freedom will come from having absolutely zero limitations on how you’re connecting with the world. This could look like having a much larger purpose to influence great change. I sincerely doubt you’ve been waiting to get in the game, but this year will give you agency to take it global. This could look like getting involved through a non-profit or taking up more space on social media to advocate for something you’re passionate about. We’re all waiting to see what you’re going to start (no pressure). 

Taurus

rooting for you

If 2020 taught you anything, it’s that you can navigate insecurity. You’ve also learned that life is a two-way street, meaning you don’t have to do everything yourself. Recognize where you’ve gotten through de-stabilizing times with a little help from your friends. Next year gives you a great opportunity to take calculated risks to advance your career. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. We’re all rooting for you. 

Gemini

Exploration and communication of the themes that have come to light in the last year will be your goal in 2021. What ultimate truths have you learned? How can you integrate these into your life philosophy? How can you help others understand? The way you communicate these will be uniquely yours, Gemini. Our advice is to make these truths snackable and lighthearted, even if the subject matter is anything but. It’s show and tell time!

Cancer

You’ve certainly had time to be intimate with yourself in 2020. How many sex toys did you buy? Be honest. But in true Cancerian fashion, you likely were more concerned with finding intimacy in a partnership. This year will encourage you to focus on yourself in order to experience true breakthroughs. And no, I’m not just talking about orgasms, but I’m not not talking about orgasms. 

Leo

You’ll experience serious potential for love and partnership next year, Leo. If you’re single, make sure you’re intentionally manifesting your “perfect” partner. And simply saying “I’m manifesting a partner” will not cut it. Visualize the feeling of being with someone, take note, and then ask the universe for some help on the delivery. If you’re in a committed relationship, you’ll experience power-couple vibes. Hello, Bey and Jay.

Virgo

Personal revolution is happening for Virgos in the house of your rulership (6th house) which means you’re receiving double-down energy. This would be the year to feel completely supported in focusing on your health and routines, getting your edge through the use of technology. Oh, and domestic matters will be your bitch, too. So hey, if you’ve been thinking about buying a Peloton, this is your sign. (No, they didn’t pay me to say that.)

Libra

F*ck the establishment, Libra! 2021 has you feeling all sorts of brave, playful and yes, maybe a little rebellious. Will this shock the people around you, since you of all people like to color inside the lines? Sure. Does that really matter? Not in the least. Give yourself permission to take the spotlight, or at least the ring light, and do what makes you happy. 

Scorpio

Mastering family life and maternal instincts will be on your radar next year, Scorpio. This could look like establishing the house rules for everyone in your domain or simply establishing how you’d like your own chosen family to run. Remember that the very nature of family means it’s more of a democracy than a dictatorship, so try your best to be firm, yet accommodating on the issues you could care less about, like where you put the TV. You can’t make every hill the one you’re willing to die on.

Sagittarius

You normally travel the world for inspiration, but this year you’ll be called to learn from your immediate environment, your neighborhood, or simply your closest friends and family. Your new approach will have a well-spring of creative ideas percolating for you all year, and you’ll want to talk to your newfound teachers about them. Take that airplane out of your Instagram bio once and for all, and make an impact in your neighborhood instead, Sagittarius. 

Capricorn

Listen closely, because this one is def going to be music to your ears, Capricorn. Next year holds major earning potential for you. (I can literally hear a collective YES!) All the work you’ve put into your craft will certainly pay off next year, so enjoy watching the stacks rise. That said, try bringing something back into the fold that you scrapped this year for lack of time or expertise. You’ll have more resources to revive it this year. 

Aquarius

It’s your time, Aquarius. You’re THE most equipped for this new age we’re entering, so don’t be surprised if you feel the intrinsic need to step out and lead this revolution. Everyone is catching up to your line of thinking, but we do actually need you to be constantly innovating and moving the needle forward. Your gut will rarely be wrong—just go with it and don’t second-guess it. 

Pisces

Bless my Pisces, always ready to be everywhere and nowhere at the same time. Next year will have you fully embracing who you are, the magical mystery tour that is life. Walk into the unknown the same way most of us walk into Target: willfully blissful and leaving with so much more than we intended to. (Also, not sponsored.)

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As A Cancer Survivor, Here’s What I Wish I Knew About Cancer Treatment

It’s Breast Cancer Awareness month. You see all the little pink ribbons around and you probably think, “Hey, that’s nice, now I’m aware.” And then one day you’re minding your own business, and then out of no where it happens: you feel a lump. Or your doctor finds a lump. Or your mammogram does. And suddenly you’re thrust in this horrible, awful, scary cancer world and if you Google ANY of it, all you’ll find are terrifying statistics that tell you how likely you are to die and nothing about the experience or what actually happens. At least, this was my experience when I found out I had cancer exactly one year ago. It’s even worse to Google if you get super lucky like me and end up with the worst possible diagnosis (it’s stage 4 triple negative). Everything I Googled told me that based on my diagnosis, I should be dead within the year, which is super lovely and uplifting in the scariest time of your life. But my one year was last month, and I’m still cancer-free, so cancer can suck it.

Since I went through this with very limited information except the stats not being in my favor, I’ve written a few articles about what’s happened to me. But I wanted to do another one to just kind of sum it all up for you, so if you DO get The Diagnosis, you’ll know what to expect, how, when, and why. And let me tell you, the first rule is Cancer Club is we don’t look at statistics. Because you are not a statistic and your situation is not the same as anyone else’s. So here are the things I wish I knew about cancer treatment.

 

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Second to last chemo 💁🏻‍♀️ what like it’s hard? #fuckcancer #stage4cancer #breastcancer

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The First Steps

When you find a lump, the first few things that happen are ultrasounds (or mammograms), and if it looks suspicious or causes pain, biopsies. Not to freak you out, but as a cautionary tale, they actually were not initially going to biopsy mine because they thought it was clearly a cyst, soooooo maybe just play it safe and get any lump drained and checked out anyway. From there, they will try to stage the cancer based on the biopsy. This will determine further treatment. These appointments and biopsies take forever to schedule and get results, so this whole process can take weeks. Mine took about a month. In this diagnostic phase, they will also do scans: MRIs (sees one area, like the breast), CTs (sees the torso), or PET scans (sees the entire body) to better see the cancer and whether it spread. They’re also checking if the cancer is hormone-related. There are three hormones that can fuel your breast cancer—Estrogen, Progesterone, or HER2. If the cancer isn’t positive for any of these hormones, that’s when they call you triple negative (like me). If it is hormone positive, they can treat it with a hormone blocker—without access to the hormone, the cancer cells will die off. This is why triple negative is harder to treat.

When it comes to breast cancer stages, the stage actually means how far it’s spread throughout your body. You can’t actually die from breast cancer in the breast—it has to spread somewhere else, or metastasize. So, Stage 0 means there are cells that can turn into cancer but they’ve done nothing—it’s actually considered “precancer”. This is best-case scenario. Stages 1 and 2 are early breast cancer, meaning, yes, those cells are cancerous BUT they are just in this spot. Stage 3 means your lump is BIG (I believe it’s over 3cm), or your cancer is very aggressive, or it’s spread to your lymph nodes (so on its way out of the breast, which is bad). It is rare to die from stages 0-3—the survival rate for stages 0, 1, and 2 are 90-99%, while the rate for 3 is 66-98%. But when you get to stage 4, that means the cancer is now metastatic, and outside of the breast. Once you hit stage 4, the cancer has spread from its origin to other areas of the body. Even if you only have it in one other spot (mine went to my liver), it can show up now anywhere else in your body and at any time. This is why stage 4 is not considered curable, because you never know if it will come back. But the further away from the initial cancer you get, the safer you are from recurrence.

Chemo

With an early stage, slow-growing breast cancer, most patients will skip chemo and go straight to surgery. But for the rest of us, chemo can look very different depending on the cancer. They actually couldn’t stage my cancer from the biopsies, so I had a lumpectomy (which I’ll talk about below) before I started chemo. I then froze my eggs because certain chemos can make you infertile. I took about three weeks to freeze my eggs, and then I started AC-TC (Adriamycin, Cytoxan, Taxol, and Carboplatin) chemos. I did eight weeks of AC (four sessions total, one every two weeks), and then 12 weeks of TC (one every week). This whole process took like, five and a half months. Some people only do it for six weeks, it’s just depending on diagnosis.

I shaved my head before I started chemo, which I highly recommend doing because it actually makes your hair HURT before it falls out! All my hair fell out exactly three days after my second session of AC. My eyebrows and eyelashes lasted until about halfway through my TC treatments (damn you, Taxol!). Taxol also made my nails turn black and start lifting, but all that grew out and healed pretty quickly once I finished it. I was super sick, it sucked, but it was manageable and I mostly ate a lot of pho and watched Netflix.

Other side effects I got were: hand-foot syndrome, where your hands and feet swell, turn red, and then all the skin starts falling off (lovely!), bleeding from literally every orifice (and the nurses don’t even panic about this BTW), vision changes from extreme dry eye, blood/metal taste for weeks (that’s Adriamycin, aka the Red Devil), bone pain (that would be the Neulasta injections they gave me to up my white blood cell count), menopause (complete with hot flashes), and pretty much every other side effect possible. But it works! So it was worth it. I also started Keytruda (immune therapy) about halfway through my chemo. My hair started growing back while I was still on chemo, but it took until maybe three months after for all of my bald spots to go away and it to come back completely. Eyebrows and eyelashes only took maybe two months after finishing chemo.

 

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These photos were taken two days apart. Wigs and makeup make such a difference! I’m halfway through chemo now, with 10 weeks left. Only one out of four tumors still remains! And a lot of other treatment to follow. But I can’t wait until I no longer look like an egg. 😂 🥚🥚🥚 #eggscellent #fuckcancer #cancerous #stage4cancer

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Surgery

Chemo often happens before surgery, because if there is a risk the cancer got into your bloodstream, it could be growing anywhere in your body. Cancer spreads microscopically first, so a scan wouldn’t pick it up until a mass appears. So, they treat it systemically first to kill all of it at once. I had a lumpectomy first because they did not realize my cancer was bad enough to warrant the chemo. A lumpectomy is just where they cut out the tumor and maybe take some lymph nodes to biopsy. It’s a fast surgery, and I was only in pain for maybe the first week, and then I had to take it easy on that side for about a month. That arm/side felt a bit tight for a few months after, but it bounced back pretty quickly.

After chemo, I had a double mastectomy, which I wish I had done way before I got cancer when I found out I was BRCA2+, and then this would have never happened to me to begin with. A double mastectomy is where they remove both breasts completely (and sometimes lymph nodes), including the breast tissue in your upper chest and into your armpits. The double mastectomy hurts (I mean… duh) but I really only had nerve pain under my breasts for the first week. That was pretty painful, then just discomfort from the drains for the week I had them, then I was stuck with little useless T-rex arms for about three weeks. I still could wash my own hair, but I could not work out, drive, or lift anything for six weeks, and then I was good to go. It was way easier than I imagined it and not too different from the lumpectomy. Also, usually at stage 4, you can’t even GET surgery, because it’s never safe to go off of chemo (since the cancer could come back at any time). Being triple negative, I was able to get my double mastectomy only because of immune therapy, which kills cancer cells but doesn’t ruin your body’s ability to heal the way chemo does. This was life changing for me as a stage 4 patient!

Radiation

Here is the difference between radiation and chemo. As we talked about, chemo treats the entire body for cancer. Radiation is only to prevent recurrence and only where you’ve already had cancer, so it’s localized treatment. So I only had radiation on my right breast (not the left!), and the accompanying lymph nodes (up my neck, and into my armpit). I did 31 sessions, every day except weekends (so five days a week), totaling six weeks. Weeks 1-4 were a breeze. You go, you lie topless on a table with your arms pinned up, they zap you, the whole thing takes about 15 minutes. It doesn’t even hurt.

But then, the last two weeks, my skin finally became aware that we were doing something bad to it, and became very burnt and then started to, well, fall off. This part hurt, but the burn creams they can prescribe (shout-out to Silvadene) work extremely well. So, I suggest getting the burn creams immediately, and don’t wait until your skin starts splitting to say something. The radiation basically melted my temporary implant that I have until I can get reconstruction surgery, but it looks okay in clothes, and I’d rather NOT die of cancer, so I’ll take it. Also? They tattoo four little dots around your breast to line up to the machine. They look like freckles, but they are actual tattoos. Then they draw all over you with Sharpie anyway.

 

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Ummmm I knew about the permanent tattoos you get with radiation but no one told me about the beautiful artwork I get to come home with. 🤨 only 29 to go! #cancerbaby #cancerpatient #fuckcancer #metastaticbreastcancer #stillalivebitches #triplenegativebreastcancer #cancersurvivor #yesitsawig

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Afterwards

So… that whole thing was a year of treatment for me, and now here I am, just having finished radiation last Thursday, expected to now get on with my life. Being stage 4, treatment never technically ends, so I still get my immune therapy infusions of Keytruda every three weeks, and will do that for at least a couple years. I get my reconstruction surgery in six months.

Even though my active treatment is suddenly over, the mental toll that cancer takes and a lot of physical side effects are still with me. My eyes are kind of yellow, I’ve still got radiation burns, I’m absolutely exhausted all the time, my nails still have ridges from my chemo treatments, I gained like 25 lbs during chemo (FUN FACT: most breast cancer patients actually gain weight during chemo instead of lose weight! No one cares or tells you this!), and my hair is growing in kind of like a fluffy helmet. I have a PET scan, brain MRI, and liver MRI in a couple weeks to check for recurrence.

 

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Today is a little weird. It’s my one year Cancerversary of when I found my first lump and my entire life changed. This is a big deal for any cancer patient, but it’s a little different for me. Stage 4 metastatic triple negative breast cancer is one of the worst diagnoses you can get. It is terminal and so difficult to treat that most patients are given a year to live. I have stage 4 metastatic triple negative breast cancer. And today is my one year. I am still cancer-free. And only 29 years old. The only reason I can say that is because of my amazing doctors at @cedarssinai , particularly @drbreastcancer for getting me immune therapy (Keytruda) in addition to every possible treatment. My insurance wouldn’t even cover Keytruda because they assumed I’d just die anyway. (Lovely.) I literally sit there and get stabbed, poisoned, shanked, sliced, mutilated, zapped, with only an elementary understanding of what is happening because I majored in animation. This is why research is so important. 100% of stage 4 breast cancer patients die from it. 30% of earlier stage BC becomes stage 4. And yet, only 2% of BC research is for stage 4. Not everyone has access to this specialized treatment and so I hope you consider donating to breast cancer research because we need it. I am BRCA2+ with no history of breast cancer in my family because it was passed through the men. Get tested for BRCA. Get preventative mastectomies if you’re positive or it runs in your family. Check your boobs. Support research. Today, I am one year out. I am so grateful for my burns from my 22 radiation sessions (9 more to go!) and my scars because they mean it’s less likely to come back. Every year you get away from the initial disease, the safer you are from recurrence. I hope to make it to 2 yrs. My odds are much better at 5. I will be almost cured by 10. I won’t feel safe from it until I hit 100, but at least my robot boobs won’t sag. Thank you for your support always. Don’t give up on mets patients. Don’t give up on me. 💕 #Stage4NeedsMore #tnbc #stage4cancer #triplenegativebreastcancer @tnbc_thrivers @susangkomen @metavivor

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I mostly feel really lucky that I was one of the patients with this diagnosis that had a doctor say, “Here are all the things we’re going to do to fix it”, and not “Hi, you have one year to live,” like so many that came before me. But I do feel weird and like this last year has been a complete mind f*ck, or maybe it didn’t even really happen, and I’m in some weird play about cancer, but it didn’t actually happen to me. I’m not sure how long it’ll take for me to feel like a person again, or even like myself. So no matter what stage you are, or how much treatment you went through, cancer is a total bitch. Be kind to yourself and let yourself heal, mentally and physically. And ask for help if you need it. I’m always happy to talk to anyone about this or answer other questions, just let me know in the comments or hit me up on social media!

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5 Things They Don’t Tell You About Going Through Chemo

I wrote this while I was on day three of my chemo flu haze, so this is authentic info. (Keep in mind that I am now finished, so this doesn’t apply anymore.) But on day three, I was like, “Holy F*CK, do I feel like sh*t. My hair is falling out all over my keyboard. I look like death warmed up and somehow feel worse. This f*cking blows.” However, I am so grateful that chemo exists, and that I was able to get it, because it was the only thing strong enough to kill cancer at this level (stage four breast cancer with mets, what up). At the time of writing this, I was two sessions down, only 14 left to go. And I was only half-joking when I asked one of my best friends who brought me pho one night to kill me, so I think I handled it pretty well.

Since I’ve been dealt the most bullsh*t of hands, I figured the least I can do is give you some insight in case this happens to you or your best friend. One in eight women get breast cancer, just FYI, and October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. If you’re forced to undergo the incredible poison that is chemo, there are some ways that you can prepare.

Shave Your Head Beforehand

There are some chemos that don’t cause a ton of hair loss, but most of them do. Chemo works by killing off fast-producing cells in the body. The fastest producing cells are cancer. But so are the ones in the lining of your mouth, your stomach (which is why you get sick), and your hair follicles (which is why your hair falls out). The sickness and the hair loss just really show you, hey, it’s working! Your doctor will let you know the likeliness of hair loss based on your medication. I was on the AC-TC track (very common for aggressive breast cancer) and my doctor basically was like, “You’re going to be a baldie; go get your eyebrows microbladed.”

Since I knew there was no shot in hell of keeping my hair, I got my eyebrows tatted on, bought some false eyelashes, and had a head shaving party the night before I started chemo. I also bought a ton of fun wigs. My friends came with me to the hair salon and we all shaved my head together. It was actually really fun to do something so chaotic, and made me feel more in control of the situation. I did a buzz cut because you don’t want to risk cutting your head (your skin doesn’t heal well on chemo). I’m so glad I did it, because after my second session, my little buzzed hairs fell out all over the place—and it would have been totally traumatic with my long hair coming out like this. Also, my head felt sore since the first day I started chemo, due to the weight of the hair in the follicle (even with the little hair I had), so it’s more reason to just chop it off on your terms.

You can watch me shave my head here:

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#fuckcancer 😬

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You Actually Want A Chemo Port

I had never even heard of a chemo port until I met with my oncologist, and the idea of it was horrifying. Basically, they surgically insert a sort of button under your skin that is connected to the main vein of your heart. So when you get chemo, IVs, or blood drawn, they stick the needle right into the port instead of going after the veins in your arms. They do this because some chemos (like mine) will actually collapse all of your arm veins. But yeah, go ahead and pour it directly in my heart, sounds good, guys! This really freaked me out until I got it done. My port then became my favorite thing in the entire world.

After freezing my eggs, my veins were absolutely shot from the near-daily blood draws, to the point that I was in tears every time I got an IV. The port made this so easy: they couldn’t miss, so there was no more digging in my veins and no pain other than the small needle puncture. Best of all, I couldn’t feel any of the chemo/saline/whatever they were pumping into my body. A blood draw took, like, two seconds (and they took a lot of blood at the oncology office). If you aren’t getting the really strong chemo, but are bad with needles, have small veins, etc., I would highly recommend actually requesting a port. When you’re done with treatment, they’ll just take it out.

My surgeon was really good, so you can barely see my port in this picture. This was three days after I got it in, so the incision was fresh and looks way better now. You can see it sticking out through the skin, but barely, and it doesn’t hurt at all. The port is the round circle below the incision:

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Chemo but make it fashion. 🖤 Thanks for my beautiful haircut @hair_wine_mom And thank you to @bonestructurela for my perfect microbladed eyebrows so I don’t have to look extra cancer-y

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You’ll have tiny incisions near the neck where they connect the port to the veins (gross). I also discovered that I didn’t like wig caps (too tight!) and preferred wraparound headbands for my wigs. Your skin will become really sensitive on chemo, and I preferred not to have the indents from the caps.

You’re Going To Be Sick AF

I’m not going to lie, I was so F*CKING sick. Like, I was mostly lying on the floor in the fetal position. They will give you anti-nausea drugs, and while they do work, you’re still not going to feel okay. They told me the third day after chemo was the worst, but for me, it was the same day. Everyone is different, though. I would get my chemo every other Tuesday, so I knew that, Tuesday through Saturday, I would feel like I’d had the worst flu of my entire life and that I’d also been run over by a semi-truck… and then the truck backed up, just to make sure it really got me good.

But then, come Sunday, I’d be more like could-maybe-go-to-class-if-it-was-a-test-day sick. And by Monday/Tuesday of my off week, I almost felt human. Not amazing, like I still would have major body aches and was completely exhausted, but I could at least do laundry, watch Netflix, and go to dinner with a friend. Once you know how you react, it’s easier, so you can plan ahead, and let your friends/family know when you need their help.

Getting Chemo Is Easy

I thought the experience of getting chemo would be awful—I pictured tiny, dark, crowded hallways like in the movies, with all the sick and old people lined up in chairs with their IV bags. I’m sure some places are this depressing, but mine was not—it felt like a first-class cabin. There were these cute little pods with lots of light, comfortable chairs, big windows, and seating for friends. And there was WiFi! Plus, with my chemo port, I couldn’t feel anything while getting the chemo. (The sickness didn’t hit until a few hours later.) So chemo was like social hour for me, with my friends and family hanging out for a few hours. Like happy hour, but except instead of alcohol, it was just a bunch of poison. The only bad part was that while I couldn’t feel the meds, I could taste them. (They tasted like blood and pennies, and that taste reappeared for the next week after starting the meds.)

Food Is Not Your Friend

As mentioned above, chemo causes a very metallic, very revolting blood-and-pennies taste that keeps reappearing. This makes it hard to eat or drink because everything tastes like it—even water. It’s kind of like having food poisoning—you know exactly which food poisoned you and never want to have it again. Or like how you can’t drink screwdrivers after that one time in college. Your brain knows this taste made you sick, and you get nauseous every time it comes back. So it’s like having horrible food poisoning, and then being forced to eat the same thing that made you sick every meal. You just openly reject it.

So here’s my advice: take the nausea meds before you get sick (they work better that way), don’t eat anything with strong flavor or that you really like the first few days of chemo (it will be ruined), stock up on very bland meals ahead of time (grocery store chicken soup, saltines, bagels), and buy every water flavoring product you can find to mask the chemo taste. I also found that I really liked pho during chemo, and it gives you extra hydration since it’s so hard to drink water. But, basically, the chemo diet is whatever you can keep down, so do what you’ve got to do.

I hope this answered some of your questions about chemo, but if you have any questions about my cancer journey or if there are more articles you’d like to see, please let me know in the comments. I’m a very open person, and I wish I had had more resources for this process that weren’t just about statistics. Because let me tell you—at stage four, they’re really f*cking bad, so reading them is not helpful. Also, CHECK YOUR F*CKING BOOBS. Mine are consistently trying to off me.

But don’t worry, guys. I’m a pretty tough bitch.

Me to my boobs:

(Because after chemo ended, they got chopped the f*ck out of me via double mastectomy.)

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Let’s Spice Things Up: Weekly Horoscopes September 28-October 1

Who says steamy romance is just for the summer? This week, with Venus in fiery Leo and Mars linking up with its celestial partner in Aries, you can expect things to get hot. And don’t think it’s just limited to romance: this powerful trine has the ability to ignite just about every aspect of your life. Just so long as you don’t let all the attention go to your head.

Aries

You’ve never been afraid to speak your mind, Aries, so no need to start now. With Venus and Mars working together, now is the time for you to let someone special know how you really feel. That way you can finally get to the fun part of the relationship (aka them coming over and logging you in on all their parents’ fancy TV channels).

Taurus

Coupled-up bulls might feel the urge to change up the routine this week. Sure, you and your beloved have been spending every waking moment together, but how much of that is real quality time? Plan something nice to do together that’s not walking to the same little park you’ve been walking to every single day.

Gemini

Time to get your flirt on, Gemini! This week Venus and Mars are coming together to tell you to go for it. Send that risky text. Slide into that person’s DMs. And post your thirst traps with abandon. You can always delete the evidence at a later time.

Cancer

This week will bring some major clarity, in a good way, to one of your relationships. If things have seemed murky and you can’t quite remember what it is you like about this person, by the end of the week you should remember exactly what it is. (And yes, it’s okay if the answer is abs.)

Leo

With Venus in your sign and Mars in fellow fire sign Aries, you’re going to be what we in the biz call “a little extra” this week. You’re ordering Postmates with abandon. You’re wearing your most glam looks (even with nowhere to go), and you are absolutely going off in the group chat. Sorry to anyone who can’t handle it.

Virgo

The creative energy is flowing thanks to Venus and Mars this week, so what are you gonna do about it? If you’ve been feeling stuck in an aspect of your life, don’t be surprised if you find a burst of inspiration this week. You’ll be living your Carrie Bradshaw dreams in no time.

Libra

An old flame might try to pop back into your life this week, Libra. Mars in retrograde means that someone from your past could decide to attempt a repeat appearance, should you let them. Will you give in to temptation? Maybe. Will you text every detail to the group chat as it happens? Absolutely.

Scorpio

Cut your partner some slack this week, Scorpio, as Mars may have you itching for a fight. Yes, the way they texted “k” instead of “k!” was objectively rude, but as a wise woman once said, “Kim, there are people who are dying.” Spare yourself the drama.

Sagittarius

Time to put your money where your mouth is when it comes to your relationships, Sagittarius. Have you been being the best partner/friend/child/sibling/coworker you can be? Chances are, there’s someone in your life you’ve been slacking on. Pay them a little extra attention this week before you end up the next entry in their burn book.

Capricorn

This week you may be feeling the urge to get closer to someone in your life, with Venus and Mars pushing you toward close-knit domestic feelings. Just make sure you don’t try to manufacture the closeness with someone who doesn’t deserve to see you at your wifey-est. That’s for VIPs only.

Aquarius

This week has you looking on the bright side of life, Aquarius, no matter what the news and/or your sh*tty ex throws your way. You’re feeling good, and nobody can bring you down. In fact, you’re actually feeling *good* about the future of things. And they said in 2020 it couldn’t be done…

Pisces

A truth you’ve been trying to outrun will finally catch up with you this week, Pisces. Don’t let yourself compromise your core values just to avoid an awkward situation. Momentary awkwardness is better than actually agreeing to do another virtual escape room with your college dorm mates.

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12 Common Sunscreen Myths Debunked

You’ve heard it from your mother, your dermatologist, your first-grade teacher, and even Baz Luhrmann: Wear sunscreen. With the wealth of knowledge we now have on sunscreen’s ability to reduce our risk of skin cancer and to protect against sun damage like wrinkles, dark spots, and sagginess, it seems wild to think that some still skip this crucial step in their daily skin care routines. But in reality, the increasingly oversaturated sunscreen market and the onslaught of information, studies, and data surrounding it can often have a detrimental effect on consumers, leaving them unsure of what to believe and whom to trust. Over the years, certain myths about sunscreen have permeated our culture, and even the wisest of skin experts have fallen victim to them. With a scorching summer already upon us, it’s more important than ever to not only debunk these misconceptions but also to understand why they’re inaccurate.

Myth #1: Sunscreen Is Not Necessary Indoors, On Cloudy Days, Or Inside A Car

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“False, false, false!” says Dr. Shereene Idriss, a board-certified dermatologist in New York City. “Yes, clouds do reduce some of the harmful UV rays, but they don’t block them all, particularly in areas where the ozone layer is dramatically reduced.” It’s also important to realize that UV light is not alone in its ability to cause harm. Outdoors, UV light, in the forms of UVA and UVB, can impact skin aging and increase the risk of skin cancer. Some of that light can travel indoors through windows, but we’re also exposed to other types of light indoors, including visible light and blue light, which can also impact the skin. For that reason, it’s crucial that sunscreen be worn daily, and it should not be skipped just because you’re inside.

Myth #2: One Application Of Sunscreen Will Last All Day

“If you have discovered the sunscreen that lasts up to 24 hours, please let us all in on that secret!” Dr. Idriss jokes. In fact, not only will one application of sunscreen not last all day, but it will last just a couple of hours. “Most sunscreens are tested for a specific amount of time, and that’s on average two hours,” explains Dr. Caroline Robinson, a Chicago-based board-certified dermatologist and founder of TONE Dermatology. “After two hours, the SPF protection goes down significantly, so you do need to reapply to maintain that initial level of protection.” If you are in the sun, reapplication every two hours is imperative, but if you’re mostly indoors, you can be slightly more lenient in reapplying so long as you apply before stepping outside again. “I tell people to bring a sunscreen brush, like ISDIN’s, with them wherever they go and quickly apply that to their arms and face and any exposed skin before going back outside,” Dr. Robinson notes.

Myth #3: The Higher The SPF, The Better The Protection

While this is not totally true, there is some logic behind the belief. “The SPF number does not reflect the duration of efficacy of the sunscreen; it indicates how long it would take for your skin to redden when using the product,” Dr. Idriss says. “So, for example, if you are using an SPF of 30, it would take 30 times longer for you to burn while using the sunscreen versus if you didn’t use it all.” There is also proof that the higher the SPF, the more protected you will be—but only to a certain point. “SPF 15 blocks 93% of UVB, whereas SPF 30 blocks 97%, and SPF 50 blocks 98%,” the New York dermatologist explains. “This may seem like a negligible gain in protection, but if you are prone to sunburns or skin cancers, that little gain can make a world of a difference.”

Once you go above SPF 50, though, the difference in protection is quite small. Dr. Robinson says a nickel-sized amount of sunscreen is required to cover the whole face and about a shot-glass full is necessary to cover the whole body. “But if you know that you’re not going to follow those recommended amounts—and most don’t—then you can actually benefit from a higher SPF,” she advises. “In doing so, you can get a similar protection to an SPF 30, which is what those measurements are based on, but you can get it with less than the nickel- and shot-glass-sized amounts.” Essentially, it will be more thinly spread than the recommended amounts would, but because it’s a higher SPF, it will be roughly as powerful.

Myth #4: People With Darker Skin Tones Don’t Need To Wear Sunscreen

“This is a misconception I’ve been fighting for a very long time,” says Dr. Robinson. “While people with darker skin tones are indeed less likely to burn, they aren’t immune from sun damage, and oftentimes, it will develop in the form of hyperpigmentation—potentially even more dramatically than sun damage would manifest on lighter skin tones.” Additionally, certain conditions, including post-inflammatory hyperpigmentation (dark spots that result from acne or irritation to the skin) and melasma, can be worsened by sun exposure, especially in people of color. So, even if your sun damage doesn’t come in the form of the traditional sunburn or freckles, it’s still important to wear sunscreen in order to protect your skin from other damage.

Myth #5: If You’re Not Prone To Burning, You Don’t Need To Wear Sunscreen

Much like the belief that those with darker skin tones don’t need sunscreen, there’s a misconception that if you don’t burn, you similarly don’t need SPF. “There’s this idea that just because you tan, you’re fine, but tanning can actually be a system of sun damage,” Dr. Robinson explains. “You can have enough exposure to the point where you no longer burn; your skin just goes straight to tan, and that’s not a good thing.” Immediate tanning can be an indication that your skin has skipped the warning response of burning entirely, and that’s actually a sign that your skin is damaged.

Myth #6: If You Wear Sunscreen, You Won’t Get A Tan

Many refrain from wearing sunscreen because they claim it will keep them from achieving that oh-so-coveted sun-kissed glow. But, as Dr. Idriss says, this is once again false. “Sunscreen makes your skin slower to react to UV rays,” she notes, “but it doesn’t prevent it from reacting altogether.” You can definitely still get a tan while safely protecting your skin with sunscreen.

Myth #7: Wearing Makeup That Has SPF In It Is Enough

Absolutely not! “Most makeups that include an SPF are not tested to the extent that sunscreens are, especially compared to the sunscreens that carry extra credentials, like an endorsement from the Skin Cancer Foundation, or anything like that,” Dr. Robinson explains. In order to reap the full benefits of the SPF listed on your makeup, you would need to use a hefty amount, up to the size of a nickel, and unless you’re a Kardashian, you’re probably not equipped to wear that much makeup. You also likely won’t be putting makeup on your ears, neck, chest, or any of the many regions of the body that are not the face but are equally susceptible to sun damage, and you won’t be reapplying makeup every two hours as you would sunscreen.

Myth #8: Spray Or Powder Sunscreen Is Just As Effective As Lotion

As new agents of delivery have come to the sunscreen market over the years, they’ve often appeared to be solutions to the stickiness and getting-it-in-your-eye tendency of traditional lotion, and while that can be true, spray and powder sunscreens can also have their shortcomings. “They can definitely be as effective, but a lot more needs to be applied in order to reach the same level of effectiveness,” says Dr. Idriss. Unlike lotion sunscreens, applying a spray or powder means that some of its contents will not land on the actual skin, so you’ll need to as much as double the amount you’re using.

Myth #9: Sunscreen Can Lead To Cancer Or Other Health Problems

While an alarmingly common belief, the idea that sunscreen can cause cancer or any other health issue is founded in no truth. “I wish this myth would go away because it’s been disproven time and again,” Dr. Robinson says. “Sunscreen does not cause cancer, and there have been so many studies to show that, but they sadly don’t make the headlines as much.” And if you’re really worried, do as Dr. Idriss suggests and simply opt for a physical sunscreen instead of a chemical one.

Myth #10: There’s No Real Difference Between Chemical And Mineral/Physical Sunscreens

Although both types of sunscreen achieve the same goal, scientifically, they work very differently. “Mineral and physical are interchangeable terms, and the most common ingredient in those sunscreens is either zinc oxide or titanium dioxide,” explains Dr. Robinson. “Those are metals, and if you think about a sheet of metal, you know that it literally just reflects light; so, physical sunscreens sit on top of skin and reflect the UV rays and scatter light.” Chemical sunscreens, on the other hand, absorb the UV light and put it through a chemical reaction (their namesake comes from this) that converts the light to heat. “Because the chemical sunscreens have to first absorb the light, they take a little longer to become active, so you can’t apply them while you’re outside or even right before,” the Chicago dermatologist notes. “You have to allow at least a few minutes, which the bottle will tell you.”

Some people can be more sensitive to the ingredients in chemical sunscreens, so for babies, children, and anyone with sensitive skin, a physical sunscreen is the way to go. Historically, some consumers have shied away from physical options because they can leave more of a white film, but some recent additions to the sunscreen market have gotten around that with advanced technologies. Dr. Robinson recommends SkinBetter’s SunBetter Stick, a physical SPF 56 sunscreen which uses a new technology to uniquely shape the zinc particles so that they sit atop the skin without leaving the familiar white cast. She also loves Eryfotona Actinica from ISDIN, another physical option that uses DNA Repairsomes to repair DNA damage that can come from sun exposure, and Revision Skincare’s IntelliShade TruPhysical, which has Vitamin C in it and effectively serves as two necessary products in one.

Myth #11: If You Didn’t Wear Sunscreen When You Were Younger And Already Have Sun Damange, There’s No Point In Wearing It Now

“Although most of the damage is actually accumulated while you’re younger (typically before the age of 18), it doesn’t make you immune to worsening damage,” Dr. Idriss says. Indeed, sunscreen protects from the visible signs of aging caused by sun exposure, but it also reduces your risk of skin cancer, and that alone is reason to start or continue wearing it even if you’ve already suffered some sun damage. “I recommend you adopt a ‘never give up’ attitude,” suggests Dr. Idriss. “You only have the skin you’re in, and hopefully your life will be long, so you might as well protect and enjoy it every step of the way.”

Myth #12: Sunscreen Never Expires

Of all the myths that exist about sunscreen, the notion that it doesn’t expire might be the most outlandish. “Sunscreen is doing a lot of work, so when you’re applying it, you want to be confident that you’re getting the coverage you think you are,” Dr. Robinson explains. Like everything in life, sunscreen has an expiration date, and you can find it by looking at the back or bottom of the bottle. As for any wiggle room when it comes to that expiration, like the “five-day rule” for milk, Dr. Robinson says, “we don’t take chances with sunscreen.”

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To Stay In Or Go Out? Weekend Horoscopes January 3-5

Because I have no faith in committing to bettering myself for an entire year, New Year’s resolutions aren’t really my thing, but for those of you who vowed to improve your lives by like, going to the gym and ~traveling,~ you’re probably excited for the first official weekend of 2020. This horoscope is for you guys. If you need some guidance on how to start the new decade, look no further. According to yearly-horoscope.com, “2020 will be a year when all the zodiac signs will be able to take advantage of a new beginning, both in their personal life and financially.” Lol, could this be a little less specific? Can’t wait for what’s to come!

Aries

Aries likes to be number one at everything they do, so you guys are def fans of making New Year’s resolutions, because doing so just gives you an opportunity to meet a goal. Overachievers like you may be annoying as hell to those around you, but you don’t give a f*ck because you’re here to win. This weekend, you’ll spend your days making spreadsheets of your five-year plan and spend your nights telling people about them. You’ll want to get your life on track this weekend so you know what to expect for the year ahead, but don’t spend too much time on this because, if our government has taught us anything, it’s that all plans fall apart rather quickly. Use this opportunity to be a little more adventurous, ya know? Explore a new neighborhood at the very least.

Taurus

From both the internet and my Taurus friends, I’ve learned that Tauruses “enjoy relaxing in serene, bucolic environments surrounded by soft sounds, soothing aromas, and succulent flavors.” Wow, deep. Anyway, even though Tauruses are described like literal babies, they’re nothing if not down for whatever, so take a seat and let your friends do the planning this weekend. Expensive dinner? Sure. Stay in with a bottle of Pinot? Sounds delicious. Go out until 5am? Fine, whatever. Take this time to mute your group chat until someone puts forth a time and place, then just meet everyone there. You do you, Taurus.

Gemini

Geminis are impulsive, nosy, and intelligent creatures who like to know everything about what everyone’s doing. You check everyone’s Instagram stories not because you love them, but rather, because you want to know where everyone is so you can make an educated decision on where you’ll be posted up. Geminis can’t be tied down, so maybe don’t meet up with the guy who spent your whole first date telling you how much you’d love his parents. Stick with Mr. Right Now this weekend, because starting a new decade in a will-we-won’t-we war just doesn’t sound like your cup of tea.

Cancer

Anyone under this sign may claim to be psychic, because Cancers are famous for being able to pick up on various energies. OMG, it’s like they have a fifth sense! I mean, picking up on energies is a fancy way of saying you can read a room, so congratulations on not completely lacking empathy. You’ve been going hard all damn year, so take this weekend to chill with friends. Nothing crazy or expensive. Maybe invite your friends over for a potluck dinner where all you have to provide is the table and your friends bring everything else. 

Leo

Leos are known for being theatrical, and they think of themselves as kings and queens. Honestly, I was born into the wrong sign, I think. Anyway, Leos are happy to be the loudest in the room and love to have all eyes on them. If you’re a Leo, this weekend take your quieter, more subdued friends out on the town where you can drink and dance until you can’t no more. This is your time to start the new year with a f*cking bang, so throw on a blue wig and go to an underground salsa club, or slip into your finest and end up at a 5-star hotel bar, the night is yours to own. 

Virgo

I am a Virgo and I proudly fit into the little box presented to me: Virgos have a deep-rooted presence in the material world. Yeah, sounds about right. Obviously, there are a lot of more down-to-earth qualities Virgos possess, but none that relate to this weekend specifically. Go shopping this weekend. You just got paid, so spend that hard-earned cheddar on that pair of boots you’ve wanted since last summer, then take them for a little walk around your favorite bar. If you’re really feeling yourself then be bold and invite the guy you’ve been seeing for a little while. It’s time for him to finally meet your friends already. 

Libra

It is my personal belief that all Libras change their names to something like Juliana and become yoga instructors, because Libras are obsessed with balance and harmony. Right on, I guess? So start the year on a good note and find your center. Whether that means hot yoga, vegan pizza, and an early night, or a romantic dinner date with your SO, do you. You won’t be persuaded to join your friends for an all-night banger, so maybe just put your phone on do not disturb until the weekend is up. That seems like something Libras would do anyway. 

Scorpio

Scorpios are as passionate as they are emotional, so maybe do yourself a favor and take it easy this weekend. By going out, you’re just setting yourself up to get in a fight with your boyfriend and regret the whole thing the next day. Instead of going out, keep it casual and invite everyone over for wine and cheese. I mean, everyone likes wine and cheese, right? What could go wrong?

Sagittarius

You guys don’t do anything unless you’ll learn something from it. You’d make my dad so proud! You’re pretty much up for anything, so if the crew wants to go out, join them! When you drunkenly text your ex 87 times, you’ll learn a valuable lesson that will keep you on an upward trajectory. You generally don’t regret anything (like, anything) because you’re always on an educational path that is leading you in the right direction. So if you want to crush the last of the bottle, do it!

Capricorn

Capricorn is represented by the sea goat, a mythological creature with the body of a goat and tail of a fish. Wow, swipe right! The significance of the sexy dual-creature situation is that Capricorns are good at navigating physical and emotional realms, which makes you an ideal friend in situations like “What should we do tonight?” You’re the decision-maker and your friends are grateful for you. This weekend, see how you feel before setting the plan in motion. If you want to go out, do it. If you’d rather stay in, your peeps are down. The weekend is your oyster. 

Aquarius

You guys are assertive and independent, so if your friends are all tired from their NYE parties, but you want to go out, you’ll do it. Grab a small group of your friends and head to your favorite bar to see where the night takes you. It may even take you to uncharted territory, but since you’re such an explorer, you’re okay with that. Maybe you’ll even meet someone who strikes your fancy along the way. Sold!

Pisces

Generally, Pisces have a little trouble distinguishing between reality and fantasy, but you don’t really care. Managing expectations is not something at which you’re particularly skilled, but if fantasizing that the sh*tty college bar your friends dragged you to will end with your long-time boyfriend finally proposing, more power to you. You see the best in everything, so you tend to be happy to do whatever the crew wants to do. Just go with the flow and wear something cute, because you never know what’s going to happen! 

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Is It 2020 Yet? Weekend Horoscopes December 27-29

It may be hard to believe given the fact that you’re probably just now surfacing from a food- and alcohol-induced coma, but there’s magic in the air this weekend. The Sun and Jupiter both enter Capricorn today, a union that only takes place once every 12 years, which means that for the next two days, anything could happen. Yes, maybe even getting off your parent’s couch and eating a vegetable, but let’s not get too crazy.

Aries

celebrate

This weekend is brining good news, Aries. Let’s just say that some long-awaited things will finally be coming to fruition, and it’s all down to your hard work and borderline obsessive dedication. Whatever, the ends justify the means, right? This could be a small-scale achievement or something that’s been a long time in the making, so make sure you celebrate accordingly!

Taurus

sound of music

This weekend is the perfect time to pursue any passions or adventures that you’ve been holding yourself back from, Taurus. You’ll find yourself not only acutely motivated to get after them, but suddenly with the means of doing so as well. Don’t waste this opportunity! It’s time to, dare I say, take the bull by the horns (I know, I’m sorry).

Gemini

that's my opinion

This is a weekend for bold moves, Gemini. You’ve had something to say for a while now and have been uncharacteristically quiet about it. Well guess what? NOT ANYMORE. Arm yourself with your favorite form of liquid courage and then make your voice heard. It’s the holidays, so you don’t need to worry about the ramifications until next week.

Cancer

go big or go home

The union of Jupiter and the Sun is going to give you that extra boost of courage to start making moves, Cancer. If there are things being left unsaid, or relationships that could use a little definition, this is the weekend for getting after it. Your typical aversion to change will be nowhere in sight for the next two days, so don’t be afraid to go big.

Leo

i love changes

If there’s anything about your life that you’ve been unsatisfied with, Leo, this is the weekend for tackling it. For the next few days you’re going to find yourself dedicated to making changes, be they personal, environmental, or physical, and there’s a good chance they’ll actually stick. Don’t be afraid to take a good look at your life (almost impossible to do this time of year, I know) and figure out which parts of it you’re unhappy with. Does this almost sound like a New Year’s resolution? Well, yeah. But just less cliche.

Virgo

queen

It’s time to start repping yourself, Virgo. You’ve been working hard—on your career, on your relationships, on yourself—and it’s time that people started recognizing it. You don’t need some big occasion to showcase how great you are, just get out there and let the people know what you’ve been up to. Recognition is an important step in the process, and well-deserved at this point.

Libra

family

This weekend you’ll find yourself wanting to connect with family and friends. Don’t fight it! That’s literally what the holidays are for! Don’t feel guilty shirking social responsibilities in lieu of kicking back with the people you care about, and likely don’t get to see as often. There’s nothing quite so soothing as looking like a total bum on your parents’ couch, watching movies and eating food that your normal self wouldn’t be caught dead even looking at. Soak it all in! This doesn’t happen all that often.

Scorpio

communication

Your weekend forecast shows 100% chance of functional communication, Scorpio. Maybe not the outlook you were hoping for, but one that is very much needed. Spend the next couple days getting things off your chest, that way you can go into the new year with a clear conscious and substantially less baggage. It may not always be the easiest route, but it’s the one that will have you feeling better in the long run.

Sagittarius

shopping

You hear that, Sagittarius? It’s the sweet dulcet tones of you spending a bunch of money this weekend. Those post-Christmas sales won’t know what hit them. You’ve done a great job of being financially responsible this year (for the most part), so what better way to celebrate than getting out there and spending all that holiday cash? Don’t feel guilty—you deserve a treat now and then, too.

Capricorn

no risk no reward

Get ready, Capricorn, because this weekend you’re going to go against all your instincts and do the one thing you truly hate doing: take a risk. We promise, it’s going to be okay. The Sun and Jupiter moving into Capricorn is going to have you feeling like luck is on your side, and it’s time to finally make those bold moves you’ve been secretly plotting for months. You’ve thought about it, dreamt about it, spent an outrageous amount of time strategizing around it, which just leaves one thing left: doing it.

Aquarius

massage

This weekend is about you, Aquarius. That’s it. The only things you need to concern yourself with the next 72 hours is what you want, what you need, and what position you’re most comfortable in pursuing those two things. The new year and all the stress that comes with it is right around the corner, so hold onto this last bit of 2019 and use it to rest before real life kicks back in.

Pisces

cheers

The Sun and Jupiter entering Capricorn has fostered the perfect environment to get the gang back together. You’re feeling social, you’re feeling nostalgic, and you’re feeling like maybe getting day drunk—so call up your friends and make it happen! Being an adult means that these kind of reunions don’t get to happen as often as we’d like, so take advantage of the downtime and relive your college years—you know, when you just hung out on a couch with your friends all day and worried about literally nothing. Ah, youth.

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Let’s Get This Party Started: Weekend Horoscopes December 20-22

Venus enters Aquarius today, which means the weekend just got a lot more exciting. From social butterflies to sleepy homebodies, everyone is about to kick things up a couple notches. Prepare yourself for the madness by checking out our weekend horoscopes.

Aries

Venus entering Aquarius this weekend means one thing, Aries: your social calendar is about to pop off. For the next few days you’ll find that you suddenly have limitless energy for entertaining and given the time of year, it didn’t come a minute too soon. Take advantage of this boon and be sure to light up the room at every event you attend. Going home for the holidays inevitably means running into people from your past (both good and bad), so you might as well make it worth their while.

Taurus

There’s good news on the horizon, Taurus. All your hard work is about to pay off in a big way, but under one condition: that you keep at it. It can be tempting to abandon work for a seemingly limitless supply of Christmas cookies and mulled wine, but you’ve got to stay strong. Months of patience will finally lead to what you’ve been waiting for, so avoid the peppermint schnapps until you’ve achieved what you set out to do. After that, though? All bets are off.

Gemini

Spontaneity is in the air this weekend, Gemini. Venus entering Aquarius is going to inspire you to drop everything in the pursuit of a grand adventure. And you know what? Maybe it’s worth pursuing. You’ve had a hard year and have more than earned the right to blow off a little steam. This weekend, consider shirking responsibility and doing whatever your heart desires. What are the holidays for if not a little indulgence?

Cancer

Love is in the air, Cancer! Or at least, the newfound patience and desire to work for it is. Venus entering Aquarius means that you’re going to suddenly find yourself ready to settle down, or take an existing relationship to the next level. Don’t fight it! Let yourself be swept up in the madness and see where it takes you. After all, ‘tis the season to be merry—and if that means hooking up with your high school crush, so be it.

Leo

You may find yourself feeling extra needy this weekend, Leo. Don’t worry, that’s just Venus settling into Aquarius and stirring up some formerly stifled emotions. Let yourself lean on those close to you, and don’t be ashamed to admit that you might be in need of some extra TLC. Even you are allowed to let your guard down every once in a while.

Virgo

You’re getting your groove back this weekend, Virgo. You may have found yourself feeling entirely unmotivated lately and chalked it up to pre-holiday procrastination. Well now that Venus has entered Aquarius, you’re back in business. Take advantage of this sudden onslaught of productivity by finishing all those projects you’d been putting off. Two weeks off will be all the sweeter knowing you’re coming back to a clean to-do list.

Libra

Time to put away the groutfit and break out the party dress, Libra. This weekend marks the beginning of your return to society, something you’ve been desperately avoiding these past few weeks. There’s no better time to make an entrance than during peak holiday season. Treat yourself to a little extra glam and then hit the town. It’s time to close out 2019 in style.

Scorpio

There’s nothing wrong with taking a break, Scorpio. The holiday season has already worn you out, so this weekend is the perfect time to recharge before diving back into the swing of things. Invite your friends over for a chill night on the couch or, better yet, turn off your phone and get in some quality you time. The world will survive without you for two days, but you may not last through one more Christmas party without a break.

Sagittarius

If you’re looking for a sign to let loose this weekend, consider this it, Sagittarius. Just because your birthday season is coming to a close, it doesn’t mean that it’s time to dive back into bed. You’ve still got energy to expend! So dust off those party shoes for one last hurrah, and make sure to leave a bottle of water by your bed. You can sleep when you’re dead, right?

Capricorn

It’s going to feel like life is pulling you in two direction this weekend, Capricorn. While it may feel easy to succumb to one or the other, we highly recommend you opt for a little balance. Your all-or-nothing personality may reject this notion, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try it. What is the holiday season about, if not compromise?

Aquarius

You’re no stranger to being the center of attention, Aquarius. In fact, it’s a position you inhabit with glee. This weekend will be no different—if anything, it’ll be even more over-the-top than usual. We urge you to be sure to take care of yourself while you’re out entertaining the entire town, because you of all people know how exhausting the limelight can be. You don’t have to dim your light, but do be sure to recharge it.

Pisces

You know what you’ve earned, Pisces? Some peace and quiet. After what feels like a lifetime of entertaining, organizing, and just general socializing, it’s time to take a break. Use this weekend to kick off your self-imposed exile. Your Netflix queue is overflowing, your bed is calling, and that takeout isn’t going to order itself. Feel free to go fully off the grid without any guilt, and then consider returning to the real world come Monday. Or, you know, don’t.

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