It’s an issue as old as the concept of dating itself: wtf are you supposed to do on the first time you go out with someone? Every part of meeting someone new can be stressful, but this particular question is especially tricky. After your friends go through all the trouble of finding you a promising match on Ship, you don’t want to blow it by choosing the wrong vibe for a first date. If you’re in desperate need of some relationship inspo this summer, here’s what some of your favorite celebs did for their first dates.
Ellen Degeneres & Portia de Rossi
Ellen and Portia have come a long way in their relationship. Back when they first started seeing each other, Portia hadn’t yet come out, so they didn’t go out in public. Instead, they just drove around getting to know each other. Luckily, these days they can be out and proud together, and they’re one of our favorite Hollywood couples.
Gisele Bündchen & Tom Brady
Gisele and Tom actually met on a blind date back in 2006. At the time, Gisele’s friends all thought she needed a boyfriend, so they set her up on three blind dates in a row. Who are Gisele’s friends, and how can I get them in my Ship crew? Tom was the third one, but luckily the first two didn’t work out. Now they’ve been married over a decade, and are still going strong.
Emily Blunt & John Krasinski
John Krasinski never thought he had a chance with Emily Blunt. When he finally asked her out, he took her to a shooting range, because he thought she would be so weirded out that he could blame the rejection on the date spot, and not himself. I guess his plan backfired in the best way, because they’re still together.
Offset & Cardi B
Offset and Cardi B don’t really have a normal life, and their first date was definitely no exception. After watching Cardi’s meteoric rise in the music industry, Offset invited her to go the Super Bowl in 2017 with him. Casual. It’s usually a struggle getting a guy to pay for a couple drinks, but we can all dream.
Kylie Jenner & Travis Scott
Kylie and Travis didn’t have a traditional first date, but clearly things worked out okay regardless. They hung out for the first time at Coachella in 2017, where Travis was performing. Things went so well that Kylie packed her bags and left on Travis’ tour bus. Their daughter Stormi was born less than a year later.
Jennifer Lopez & Alex Rodriguez
J.Lo and A-Rod are now happily engaged, but A-Rod didn’t realize their first date was even happening. They reconnected in 2017 at the Hotel Bel-Air, after initially meeting more than a decade before. J.Lo says he talked that first night about his desire to get remarried, and she obviously was listening.
Okay, so maybe some of these first dates are more practical than others, but there are some good ideas to work with here. When in doubt, just meet your Ship match for coffee or drinks, and see where the night takes you. Who knows? Maybe you’ll be the next Gisele and Tom.
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This Sunday marks the return of Big Little Lies, and I haven’t been more excited for a TV show since…maybe ever? Sorry Game of Thrones fans, but I never got on that bandwagon. It’s been two years since we last got a glimpse into the lives of the ladies of Monterey, and I’m sure there will be plenty more drama on season two.
Until then, let’s have a little fun and imagine what the ladies of Big Little Lies might put in their Ship bios. If nothing else, we know they’d all have a ~killer~ crew to find matches for them.
Boss lady who doesn’t take no for an answer. I wear the pants in the relationship, but lately I’m in the mood to let my hair down a little bit. My daughter Amabella will always be my #1, but maybe you can be #2. If you’re not looking for something serious, step aside, because I take everything seriously.
Widow who’s ready to find the right guy for her and her twin boys. I’ve been hurt in the past, but now I’m taking my happiness into my own hands. Looking for someone for quiet moments on the deck, great dinner parties with friends, and most of all, genuine warmth and kindness. Just be prepared to deal with my mother-in-law.
One part showtunes, one part classic rock. Always up for coffee and gossip, so be careful with your secrets around me. That could be a strength or a weakness, up to you to figure it out. Oh, and if your last name doesn’t start with M, don’t bother. I’ve gotten too far in life to mess up my monogram now. I always know what I want, and I almost always get it.
Life is always unexpected, but there’s nothing good music and a long run on the beach can’t make better. I’ve lived here for a while now, but sometimes I still feel like the new girl in town. My little man and I are a package deal, so if that doesn’t work for you, don’t waste my time.
Life is too short to be stressed. Always in search of balance, purpose, and the best kombucha. I spend much of my time outside, because Mother Nature has blessed us with too many gifts to let them go to waste. If you don’t compost, we probably aren’t a good fit. If we match, message me with your favorite yoga pose, and maybe I’ll tell you mine.
Sadly, we have to wait a few more days to find out what happens on the new season of Big Little Lies, but you can download Ship right now and start putting your crew together. You probably haven’t committed murder together, but you still know all their secrets. If the ladies of Monterey can find happiness, what are you waiting for? Brb, going to go rewatch all of season 1 to make sure I didn’t forget anything important.
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It’s true that dating apps have made dating easier — for the most part. Where we used to only have prospects in our extended social circles, now we have access to thousands of people at our fingertips (and our friends can even find matches for us now, thanks Ship). But one thing that dating apps have made harder? Starting a conversation. Anyone who has ever gotten writer’s block, or even tried to sign their classmate’s yearbook, knows the feeling of “WTF do I write???” Well, I can’t tell you exactly what to write — that’s highly dependent on your dating app goals, the other person’s profile, your personal style and tone, etc. Sorry! But I can tell you what not to write, which I think is just as valuable, if not more so.
In case you missed it, we created a dating app called Ship, where you can find matches like you would on any normal dating app. But there’s a twist: your friends, family, concerned mother, and anybody else with a vested interest in your dating life can also create a profile on Ship, and they can find matches for you. It doesn’t matter if they are single, in a relationship, married, in a throuple — they can all come together and help you by finding matches.
So whether you’re looking for yourself or someone else on Ship, here are a few dating app lines to avoid.
It might be obvious, but there are still people out there who are saying this, thinking a one-word greeting will suffice! Look, it’s 2019, we as a culture need to step it up beyond “hey”. Opening with “hey” or “hi” or an equivalent on a dating app is basically the conversational equivalent cooking your significant other a totally unseasoned chicken breast. That’s not going to cut it! Because really, what’s the best-case scenario with this conversation?
Other person: Hey what’s up
You: Chillin u
Other person: Not much
See?? You could have met the love of your life on Ship, but you’d never know because your conversation is now DOA. And look, I get the impulse to not launch immediately into a monologue or canned question about which dead person you would ask to dinner if given the chance, so if you’re going to open with a greeting, you need to follow up with a question. A question that can not be answered with “yes” or “no”.
2. “Drinks next week?”
Okay, LOOK. I am all about shooting your shot (I have been known to tell my friends that 2019 is hereby dubbed “Shoot Your Shot 2019), but even I think that opening with an invitation to get drinks is a little… how do I put this… INSANE. First of all, you don’t even know this person! What if they’re incredibly boring? You don’t want to open right off the bat with a meetup. You’d think this would be a given, but I see guys do this all the time. The only thing it communicates to me is that you are really out here putting your safety and good times on the line by asking literally anyone out to get drinks. Instead, try exchanging a few messages to make sure you can actually hold a conversation with the person first.
3. “If You Were Stuck On A Desert Island And Could Only Bring Three Things, What Would They Be?”
I know that this line is meant to be fun and playful, but I hate it. Here is why: I am a realist, and if I were really stuck on a desert island, I sure as sh*t would not bring Bananagrams or Nutella or whatever ~quirky~ answer you’re expecting me to bring. I would bring Vaseline (can’t live with cracked lips), water, and like, a journal to write in. Sorry, I’m boring! I also feel like this question doesn’t really reveal as much about a person as you think it does. Oh, so you like your phone, how riveting. For a similar question that will make you seem fun and irreverent, ask your Ship match who they think should play them in a movie made about their life.
4. “You’re cute.”
Objectification is not limited to men — gender equality and all. I’ve definitely been tempted to lead straight into “you’re hot” one or two times in my life (what can I say, my friends are good at finding guys who are my type). But then I thought about it, and I didn’t really like getting those types of messages myself, so why would I lead with that? Generalized statements of attractiveness feel impersonal and cheap, so a better way to go about this would be to compliment a specific feature. Think “cute smile” instead of “you’re cute”. I would even go more specific and compliment something like their makeup (if, like, they’re wearing an interesting lipstick shade) or an item of clothing they’re wearing — and as an extra bonus, if you find something interesting in a photo that is not their first one, go with that. This shows that you actually looked at their profile and are not just blindly swiping.
5. An emoji
Guys, come on. This is seriously just lazy. At least if you’re going to type out “hi” (please don’t, though), that requires you actually typing something out. An emoji just means you scrolled through all the emojis your phone has to offer and likely chose a random one. And again, what is the end game here? How do I respond to the dancing emoji? Another dancing emoji? And then what? We keep sending emojis back and forth? Let’s not and say we did(n’t). If you want to talk about emojis (which I do very often, so no judgment here), ask the person what their favorite emoji is, which one they use the most, or which one they’d get tattood on their body if they had to choose. (Eye roll emoji, flame emoji, 100 emoji, respectively.)
6. “*Dog emoji* Hey Charlie what are you doing in there? Come back boy!”
I am not going to lie, the first time I saw this dating app opener, I thought it was funny. However, like many jokes, this was ruined by the internet because everyone started using it. The first few people to drop a dog emoji and pretend like their dog ran away probably got a number, because it was original and cute. Now? Not so much — if I see this all I know is that you have an Instagram explore page. An iteration of this joke that I like better is to send a ball emoji, pretend your ball accidentally ended up in someone’s Ship DMs, and then say you were just trying to shoot your shot. I will make Shoot Your Shot 2019 happen, I don’t care what you say.
7. “Are you my appendix? Cause I don’t understand how you work, but this feeling in my stomach makes me wanna take you out.”
Anatomical incorrectness aside, I have seen this and iterations of it a few times. Variations include “You’re not the trash, but I’d like to take you out” and “Are you Chinese food? Cause I’d like to take you out.” I feel like, in the early days of dating apps, using cheesy pickup lines was the only way to get a response in a sea of “hey”s. But now I feel like we really are out here on Ship trying to make a genuine connection, and a prepackaged pun isn’t going to get the kind of response you think it will. I promise you, I have received many! The best response you can really hope for with this is “haha that’s a good one.” If you really need to lead with a dad joke, here is how I recommend doing it. First, alert the person that you intend to lead with a dad joke, and ask them to grade you on it. That makes it more interactive, and gives them a heads up that you are not using internet pickup lines earnestly, which lightens up the mood a lot.
Starting a conversation on Ship is the most difficult part, especially since you don’t even have to do the work of finding your own matches because your friends can do that for you. So don’t mess up their hard work by opening with a lame line! Hopefully with my suggestions you can get a good conversation going, and maybe even (*gasp*) meet up with someone in person. If you do, I would like an invite to your wedding — don’t worry, I don’t even need a plus-one!
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Last week, we launched our dating app, Ship, designed to make dating fun again. Ship allows you and your friends to combine forces, so instead of dreading dating apps, you can get the whole group finding matches for each other. If you haven’t already downloaded the app and started Shipping for yourself and your friends, now is the perfect time. There are more matches than ever out there waiting, so here’s exactly what you need to know to get the most out of the app.
One of the best things about Ship is that it’s not just for single people. If you’re in a relationship, you can still download and find matches for your single friends. When you open the app for the first time, you’re immediately asked if you’re single or in a relationship, and your experience is customized from there. If you’re single AF, your entire app interface is purple, but it turns teal if you’re in a relationship. No confusion here, so you don’t have to feel weird about your s/o seeing a dating app on your phone if you’re in a relationship. Also, if you’re not single, your profile is just a pic so the people in your crew know who are, so you don’t have to overthink which photos make your arm look skinny. Praise be.
If you’re single, this is your time to shine. You’ll be prompted to set up your profile, and then you can invite friends to join your crew. Your crew page is split into two tabs–chat and activity. The chat tab is like your group text, except you no longer have to worry about taking screenshots and sending them to the wrong person. You can send profiles to your group and discuss right in the app, making it easier than ever to get feedback from your friends.
The activity tab is where you can keep track of any new matches and see who your friends have been choosing for you. You can see who’s responsible for each yes or no, so you can really tell who’s putting in the work and who’s just here to talk sh*t.
When you’re matching for yourself, you’re the one calling the shots, but you can still get some help from your crew. If you want more input on a profile, you can easily send it to your crew, either before you make a decision, or after you match. Your friends probably know you better than you know yourself, so they’ll give you the feedback you really need.
Finding matches for yourself is great, but Ship also lets you do a good deed and help out your friends. At the top of the Discover page, there’s a box where you can easily switch between all of your single friends on the app. The profiles will automatically adjust to meet their preferences on location, age, and gender, so you can start finding great matches for them right away.
Going through the profiles works the exact same way when you’re matching for someone else, except you don’t have to worry about whether to message them first later. You can also send profiles to the crew of whoever you’re matching for, so you don’t make any questionable matches. You wouldn’t find a date without asking your friends if they looked good with you first, right? Right.
Whether you’re the single friend who loves to be a social butterfly, or the married friend with too much time on your hands, Ship makes it easy to find matches for all your friends.
Ship is available in the App Store, so download it now so you and your friends can finally start having fun with dating apps.