It’s been almost exactly two years since we watched Becca Kufrin and Garrett Yrigoyen get engaged on The Bachelorette, and much like ~the times~ we are in, things with their relationship are looking more uncertain now than ever. From the jump, Garrett and Becca had to work through some… differences of opinions on things (i.e. all those problematic social media posts he liked), but after a couple years together, it seemed like they had more or less reached some kind of understanding on their political differences. But earlier this summer, as systemic racism and police brutality received renewed attention, those divides between Becca and Garrett came to the surface once again.
Garrett’s lengthy Instagram post in support of police caused major controversy, and Becca’s friend and podcast cohost Rachel Lindsay made no secret of her feelings toward Garrett. On an episode of the Bachelor Happy Hour podcast last month, she said she doesn’t “f*ck with Garrett,” and those feelings clearly have not changed. In an appearance on Danny Pellegrino’s Everything Iconic podcast this week, Rachel didn’t hold back when asked about Garrett. “I think he’s a piece of sh*t,” she said. “I have said to , ‘I will not f*ck with him.’ He has doubled down on his beliefs. This isn’t the first time he’s had problematic behavior. When he was on the season, he had a history of ‘liking’ things that were racist, sexist, homophobic, calling the Parkland students child actors, it was a lot, so this is who this man is. And he’s a piece of sh*t to me.”
A PIECE OF SH*T. Let me tell you, the rush of serotonin I felt when I first read that quote was unlike anything I’ve felt in 2020. Thank you, Rachel, for making me feel alive. In the new interview, she provided more context for why she was so angered by Garrett’s post, and why she felt the need to address her feelings publicly. She said, “We had a podcast about diversity and what was going on in the country and her fiancé posted a Blue Lives Matter picture, and with his whole chest gave his long explanation as to why he felt that way. So I got on the podcast saying it was problematic,” and says she and Becca both “got emotional.”
Rachel says that her honesty with Becca “was great for us and our friendship,” which is a relief, since I imagine sh*tting on your friend’s man can be a touchy subject. Also, Becca being okay with Rachel’s criticism of Garrett would make even more sense if the rumors of a Becca/Garrett split are true. In her initial BLM conversation with Rachel, Becca seemed optimistic that Garrett would come around, but in the Bachelor Happy Hour episode from June 16, she gave what seemed like a grim update on her relationship status: “all I can say right now is that I don’t know.” Since then, neither Garrett nor Becca have posted or commented publicly about each other, and rumors of a split are running rampant at this point.
On this week’s podcast, Pellegrino asked Rachel about Becca’s relationship status, but she declined to answer “out of respect” for her friend. As much as I want to know the tea, there was zero chance Rachel was going to answer that question.
When If Becca does break up with Garrett, I’m sure she’ll announce it on her own terms, whether that’s an Instagram post, a podcast episode, or a People exclusive (get that money, girl!). I just hope it’s soon, so we can all just forget about Garrett, and she can find someone better.
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If you’ve been educating yourself on racism and having difficult conversations at home, you’re not the only one—Becca Kufrin revealed on a recent episode of the Bachelor Happy Hour podcast that she’s been having conversations with her fiancé, Garrett Yrigoyen. A couple weeks ago, Garrett made a post in support of police on Instagram and received backlash, including from Bachelor alum Bekah Martinez. After the controversy, Becca Kufrin discussed the post on last week’s episode of her Bachelor Happy Hour podcast, and seemed torn. Her cohost, Rachel Lindsay, expressed how disappointing and hurtful the post was, and the resulting conversation was tense and uncomfortable.
On this Tuesday’s new episode of Bachelor Happy Hour, Becca began with a lengthy apology to Rachel and the audience, acknowledging that she “fell short” in the previous week’s episode, and that she can “do much better.” She apologized for not being fully engaged in the previous week’s conversation, saying that these topics deserved “more care and thoughtfulness.” She said that she was “gutted” to listen back to herself, and pledged that going forward, she will join Rachel as both a colleague and a friend in fighting for these important issues. She also brought up the concept of intent vs. impact, realizing that though her intention “was never to cause a divide, that is exactly what happened.” She reiterated that her words in the last episode were “very lacking,” and said that she will work harder to be aware of her privilege, and be more proactive about being informed on topics like systemic racism. Rachel accepted her apology, and thanked her for her commitment to do better.
On top of apologizing for her own words, Becca also acknowledged that when trying to do better, she can no longer speak for others, Garrett included. She offered a vague update on the status of their relationship, saying, “For those who are curious about my relationship with Garrett at this point, I all I can say right now is that I don’t know.” She added, “It’s something that we are trying to work through, and discuss, and do work on at home at this time, and that’s where the work will remain.” It’s been common knowledge that Becca and Garrett disagree on certain political issues, but it seems like this could be indicative of a larger divide between them. As for Rachel, she flat-out said on the podcast “I don’t f*ck with Garrett, and I don’t need to,” so I think we know where she stands on that.
Whatever work is going on at home, both Becca and Garrett are keeping it off of social media. In the past week, Becca’s only feed post is a TikTok of her dog set to “U Can’t Touch This.” Garrett, on the other hand, has spent the last few days getting philosophical. Since his pro-police post, he’s posted three photos of himself, each with a lengthy caption quoting Robin Homer’s writings on Marcus Aurelius, a Roman emperor and philosopher from the second century. His most recent post focuses on the principle that “Your Opinion of Yourself Matters More Than the Opinion of a Stranger,” which seems pointed at the criticisms he received the other week.
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Meditations of Marcus Aurelius SUMMARIZED (22 Stoic Principles to Live by) – Robin Homer’s Vox Stoica Principle 6. Your Opinion of Yourself Matters More Than the Opinion of a Stranger ______________________________________________________ “It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.” This isn’t an exhortation to arrogance. It’s reminding you to do what you know is best regardless of people’s reactions. You know what you’re about and you know the reason why you’re doing what you’re doing. You don’t need to explain yourself to everyone…As a crutch to avoid being too concerned with praise, Marcus Aurelius suggests contemplating what difference it really makes and considering the insignificance of it in the grand scheme of things…”fame in a world like this is worthless.” His conclusion from all this is that we should be honest and straightforward. We shouldn’t prance about, keep airs or try to portray ourselves as something we’re not…
While Becca and Garrett are dealing with their relationship privately, Bekah Martinez (from Arie’s season) and Garrett have gotten into it pretty publicly in recent weeks. After Garrett’s thin blue line post, she called him out in the comments, calling his words “scary as f*ck” and calling the post “a great reminder that not much has changed” about Garrett’s views. In addition, Bekah made a $1,000 donation to the National Police Accountability Project in Garrett’s name, because a generous troll is the best kind.
In response, Garrett screenshotted Bekah’s comment and posted it on his story, declaring that “needless to say you never got to know me, still don’t know me, and you’re no longer invited over.” Becca and Bekah (yeah, I’m confused too) were on The Bachelor together, and have been good friends since, so the uninviting seemed like a big slap in the face, but it turns out Bekah didn’t really care too much.
Last week, she went on Ben Higgins and Ashley Iaconetti’s podcast, where she cleared things up: “I don’t particularly like Garrett and I’m not interested in having dinner with him.” She said that she loves and has “a lot of respect for Becca,” but “Garrett is Garrett.” She also added that she hasn’t been “super close” with Becca Kufrin for a while, so yeah, she’s probably not going over to their house any time soon regardless.
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