Hey girl, let’s talk about butt stuff! If you’re someone who has never tried anal play but it curious about what it has to offer, then this article is for you! It’s fun to spice things up and try out new things, but it’s also important to make sure you are prepared to embark on that journey. With most sex things, but especially this one, preparedness is key to enjoyment. I’m not a scientist, but if I were, I’d imagine the graph depicting the relationship between these factors would be a straight diagonal line trending upwards. Of course there is the mental preparedness aspect, which should go without saying—don’t do anything you’re not 100% comfortable with. But when you’re talking about anal play, there is a big physical preparedness component as well. So buckle up, because we’re going to talk about how to get yourself ready! It’s going to get a little graphic and weird, so leave now if you are squeamish. All right, we all good here? We ready? Great. Here are five things to consider before diving into butt stuff.
1. Take Things One Step At A Time
Sorry for the graphic imagery here, but your butt can open up a world of pleasure. There’s no need to rush it, though! In fact, you’re going to want to take things slow in order to avoid pain or injury and maximize pleasure. That cute tooshy of yours is sensitive and needs to be treated with care. You will likely want to start with fingers/rimming, then make your way to toys such as butt plugs (work your way up in sizes here too), and then you can graduate to a penis. Who doesn’t love a good penis graduation ceremony?! The point is, your butthole needs to be trained, and skipping ahead to anal immediately will make things go much less smoothly. Take it slow, and your experience will be much more pleasurable.
2. Remember That Lube Is Your Friend
I cannot stress this enough. Lube that baby up! Your butt doesn’t produce natural lube in the way a vagina does, so you just need to hit up Duane Reade or your local sex shop and get some lube. Be aware that there are many different types of lube, and paying attention to this can be important. For example, some sex toys require that you use water-based lube. Lube is also an opportunity to have fun. Shop around and see what you like. The world is your
oyster lube store.
3. You’re Going To Want To Prep And Primp
I don’t know if you knew this, but *checks over shoulders* poop comes out of your butt. Sorry, but that’s just the world we live in! You’re going to want to clean that area thoroughly before you start putting stuff in it. Unless you’re totes cool with things getting messy, in which case…hell yeah, good for you. Personally, I will be in the shower washing the crap out of myself (literally, I guess), but that’s just me!
4. Educate Yourself About Anal Play Toys
There are so many fun and flirty toys you can introduce to your butt, but it’s important to know what you’re working with. Off the top, please note that while anal play toys can be used for vaginal play (after washing!!!), not all vaginal toys can be used for anal play. Plugs are designed for your butt, so they usually have some sort of base, which dildos and vibrators do not. This is to stop your ass from, pardon my French, sucking the toy right up. Buttholes have the power to swallow things in a way that vaginas do not. You do not want to be that person who ends up in the ER because you “fell on your vibrator”. (I have friends in residency; this is apparently very common.) Also, some butt plugs are meant for wearing around outside to stretch out your hole, while others are solely for using in the bedroom. Make sure you know what you’re playing with!
5. Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Advice
Employees at sex shops are almost always friendly, knowledgable, and eager to help. These people know their sh*t. When shopping around a sex shop, I suggest going right up to an employee and explaining your situation and what you’re looking for. Don’t be embarrassed! I did this and chatted with an employee for a full 20 minutes. She went over what every toy had to offer, explained the safety measures needed when indulging, and made me feel comfortable about my purchase. Without assistance, walking into a sex shop can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re looking to try something new. In order to avoid standing in front of a shelf full of butt plugs while having a panic attack, simply ask for help. These people are the opposite of kink shamers and will make you feel more comfortable.
Anal play can actually be very fun and rewarding, so long as you don’t just go from 0 to 100. With these tips, I hope you can prepare yourself so that you can enjoy the experience to its full extent. No need to thank me!
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