The 7 Types Of Bad Texters & How To Deal With Awkward Texting Dynamic

For betches, the dating world can be a scary place. Between creepy guys who seem normal at first to funny guys who are secretly poor, it’s sometimes hard to spot the keepers from the unfaithful Wall Street pros on our journey to find love and not do work. But even scarier than the prospect of contracting chlamydia from your date in an age without Planned Parenthood is the silent relationship killer’s dreaded arrival: Awkward Texting Dynamic (ATD).

Given that literally every app now offers a messaging service, ATD can strike anywhere: Tinder, iMessage, Snapchat, that weird encrypted messaging app you use to buy weed. The bro with ATD might even be normal IRL but you’ll never know that if, after less than week of talking to him via the written word, you realize he’s a pretty shitty texter—and by virtue of that, a shitty person. This will inevitably become a dealbreaker as he’s fucked up your chief form of communication. Honestly, in many cases I’d prefer a guy send me an unsolicited dick pic than slide into my DMs with the wrong form of “your.” Let’s break down the ways that a guy can fuck up his prospects with you via his ATD.

1. You’re both too sarcastic to make a real conversation work

Making first impressions on dating apps can create a lot of problems. One major issue is when, in an attempt by both of you to show off how clever and insightful you are, you both are trying to one-up each other with sarcastic comments ranging from the weather to the reasons why Taylor Swift is the reason Trump won. Eventually the need to consistently outdo each other leads to such an intense breakdown of communication that you eventually have no idea what the fuck this guy is talking about.

Him: Well I’d meet you at that bar but I’m pretty sure they won’t let in people with as amazing a haircut as mine
You: Haha well you can try giving the bouncer one of your famous hugs
Him: But really, should we put all our eggs in one basket?

Wait What

At this point, no one knows what the fuck is going on. Is this bro coming to meet you or not? Should you answer this weird message or hope he follows up clarifying what his actual plan is? Too much sarcasm spoils the broth. Best to just move on to your next match and say something straightforward like, “Let’s hook up and never talk again.”

2. You can’t tell if he hates you or he’s trying to be funny

This happens when a guy responds so awkwardly to a seemingly easy enough message that you’re not sure if he doesn’t give a shit or if he’s just making a bad joke.

You: Kk have a good night
Him: Haha ‘good’

At this point you’re thinking like what the fuck does THAT mean?? Fucking asshole. This weirdness almost forces you to ask him to clarify, which under normal circumstances you’d never actually do. Or you can obvi play the higher card and simply ignore.

Mindy Kaling Texting

3. One of you is sarcastic and the other one has no concept of sarcasm

You: Good thing I always wake up early on Sundays after drinking
Him: Haha really? Usually I sleep forever!

At this point you’re not sure if you should just go with it and double down with an even more sarcastic response, or do the even more awkward thing and clarify what you’re talking about. Really, though, you shouldn’t date the stupid because you’re not running a charity. If he can’t get your snarky, mean-spirited texts he’ll never get you.


4. The drifter who “never checks his apps”

This guy has been up your ass asking about how your day is going and your schedule for the next three weeks like he’s your personal assistant intern. He’s sent you messages on Insta, Snapchat, Twitter and GroupMe, which you didn’t even know you had. Then, when you finally reply asking about his plans for Blackout Wednesday, he drops off the face of the fucking earth. You’ve just about written this guy off as dead to you when out of nowhere you get a fire emoji in response to an Instagram selfie you posted two days before. Where the fuck have you been, bro? He’ll inevitably tell you something like “Oh I never check my DMs,” but it’s like, if that’s true then why are you all over my feed rn? You’re telling me you can ignore the little icon telling you you have one unread message? That’s only okay when we do it.


5. The Bad Speller

hey whatr u up 2 latr?”

Ugh, while some people can be desperate enough to write this one off as the guy being simply too cool to care that his spelling and grammar is as good as as a first semester ESL student’s, most betches will write this laziness off as a deal breaker. With spell check and autocorrect, sounding like a moderately intelligent human has never been easier, so any man with multiple typos in his dating profile is clearly either stupid AF or making a statement, neither of which anybody wants to deal with. It’s not 2006 anymore. If you can’t be bothered to write all the letters contained in the word “later” there’s no shot you’re going to meet me later.


6. The Overly Friendly / Maybe Gay Bro

You: How’s your Saturday going? Still hungover?
Him: Nope! Just walking my dog around the park! He loves playing with the other puppies! So excited for brunch later!!!!! 🙂 😉

This guy tells you about his upcoming Saturday dentist appointment with more enthusiasm than a Make-A-Wish kid at Disney World. His over-enthusiasm to see you is nothing short of uncomfortable. Chill the fuck out bro, I can guarantee your fucking dog taking a shit is not that exciting. If I wanted to hang out with an overeager 12-year-old girl I’d go to a Justin Bieber concert. You may think that this bro reserves his enthusiasm for you, but just a casual look at his social media profiles will show you that this guy is excited about everything. He Instagrams every lunch and tweets out every moment of his life with #squadgoals. Honestly, he kind of sounds a lot like you, and there’s only room for one you in a relationship. Don’t be surprised if you meet up with this bro and he has extremely effeminate mannerisms and you spend the whole time questioning his sexuality.


7. The busy/potentially huge asshole bro

On the other end of the spectrum lies the bro who’s too cool for school. On the one hand you’re impressed that this bro has cooler things to do than try to see you at your earliest possible convenience, but on the other hand, you can’t be sure if he’s too fucking lazy to be worth your time. This is the guy that asks you to hang out with two hours notice and who makes his plans with you seem about as casual as brushing his teeth. Like, put some effort in if you want to see me, asshole. This is a date with ME you’re planning, not lunch at the Cheesecake Factory; one more cancellation and you’re fucking blacklisted. Also like, location services say that you’re at Buffalo Wild Wings, so unless your grandma is a spicy wing, I know you’re not last minute visiting her at the nursing home rn.

Kim Kardashian

So remember, communicating via your phone’s keyboard is an art and if a bro sucks at it, it will be a sign of huge frustrations for months to come. Hugh Hefner has 15 girlfriends for a reason and that reason is probably is that he’s too old to use a fucking iPhone.

The Betches
The Betches
Aleen, Sami, and Jordana are the three co-founders of Betches. Aleen serves as Chief Executive Officer, Sami as Chief Creative Officer, and Jordana as Chief Innovation Officer.