As a recently single British-betch (that’s a thing), life has obvi just taken a dramatic uphill turn. After the obligatory period of not fucking bros/pretending I give a shit so as not to look like a bitch, I started hooking up with a 4th year guy ('senior' in the US…?). It started as a one-night stand but now we’re hanging out during the day and like…going to brunch.
Problem is I am definitely not looking for a relationship, and I’ve gone on dates with other guys since. I’ve been seeing the first bro for upwards of a month now but haven’t exactly clarified that I don’t want to be exclusive, so I’m starting to feel like this is crossing the line between winning and being a whore…
Is it ok to be dating one guy and hooking up with others?
PS: hooking up doesn’t mean 'sleeping with' in the UK (don’t need any more ambiguity)
Dear Morally Ambiguous,
As far as I can see you’re not doing anything wrong. As long as you’re being safe and are happy, you don’t owe anyone anything.
If you haven’t established exclusivity with the first guy, you don’t owe him anything and for all you know he could be doing the same thing and seeing other girls as well. If he brings up the exclusive thing you can simply tell him what you just told us, that you’re just looking to have fun at this point. This is the 21st century, girls can make out with multiple guys without a ring on their finger without feeling like a slut. Bros have been doing that for several millenia.
It’s only whorey if you’re having sex with multiple people while being in an explicitly exclusive relationship with one person. Until you feel ready to get into something serious, it’s always best to keep your options open. Guys may be the ones to spread their seed but that doesn’t mean betches shouldn’t sample a bunch of different cars before they settle on their BMWs.