How Should I feel That My Boyfriend Has an Ugly Ex? Dear Betch…

Dear Betch,

How should I feel about the fact that my boyfriend has the UGLIEST ex girlfriend of life. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and half. He has no social media so I wasn’t able to stalk his exes when we got together like I normally would. However a few months ago his mother added me as a friend on Facebook and I was able to figure out from her photos who his ex was. She is/was gross. When I asked him about it he said “I couldn’t fucking stand her” and that’s all we have ever really said. It’s always really bothered me and they were together for 5 years. I don’t know if I’m crazy to let it bother me. I don’t know if I should try to talk to him about it again. I am so confused.

Please help!!!

Dear Betch who’s clearly bored af with her life,

Why would you feel any type of way about this? Like…are you mad at the fact that your boyfriend may have dated someone because he was attracted to her personality? I’m struggling to find the issue here. If anything, you should be happy you totally blow her out of the water. If that answer’s not good enough for you, think of it this way: you’re probably in like your mid-to-late-20’s if you read this site. You’ve dated your boyfriend for a year and a half. He started dating this girl at least five years before that. That’s putting him potentially at teenaged when they got together. Just think about what teenage boys, or even guys in their early 20’s (or even all men in general if you really want to get nitpicky), are known for. I’ll give you a hint: it’s not their sky-high standards when faced with the option of getting it in. Let’s take it a step further: think about your first boyfriend. Was he a male model? Quit lying.

This is not a real problem. What is, is that you added your boyfriend’s mom on Facebook. Rookie mistake.

Better adjust your privacy settings,

The Betches

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