I started hooking up with this guy, but I’m being kind of shady about it. He’s pretty okay looking and he’s amazing in bed, but I haven’t told any of my friends because I’m low key embarrassed by him.
He’s in the lowest tier frat on campus, not even just bottom tier but the actual lowest house that everyone makes fun of, and he’s kind of awkward/weird. I don’t mean to sound like status means everything to me, but I feel like it definitely matters a little bit. The problem is that he really likes me, like wants me to meet his friends, hang out all of the time, study together, eat out, etc. and I don’t. He’s a really nice guy and treats me well, but I’m kind of embarrassed to hang out with him in public/I don’t feel like hanging out with his weird ass brothers.
I don’t want to stop hooking up with him because the sex is really great, but I also don’t feel like telling my friends about him, or hanging out in public with him. Should I stop being shady/embarrassed and tell my friends? Am I just being a super shallow bitch??
I mean, yeah, there’s no nice way to say it: you are kind of being a superficial asshole. It doesn’t mean you’re Hitler or anything, everybody is superficial at some point in their lives, but don’t lie to yourself.
If this was your bootycall who never made an appearance in your life during daylight hours—and if you both wanted it to stay that way—then I would say your being shallow is like, not really a big deal or even necessarily a bad thing.
This isn’t what’s going on here though. The way I see it, some nerdy Pike bro (or whatever) hit the jackpot (or didn’t, idk you but I’m giving you the benefit of the doubt here, you’re welcome), and he like, actually likes you. Dare I say, he wants to even take things to the next level? Meanwhile, as far as you’re concerned he may as well be a leper or some shit. If you don’t want to tell your friends about this bro or like, be seen with him at all, it’s probably best that you cut ties with him now, ’cause pretty soon he’s going to start wondering why you awkwardly avoid eye contact when passing each other on the quad.
Or, you could, you know, get the chip off your shoulder re: Greek Life popularity. If you genuinely hate hanging out with his brothers because they pick their nose and eat it, OK, fine. But I can guarantee you nobody who has a life outside of College ACB (does that still exist? Yik Yak, then?) gives any type of shit about what tier somebody’s frat is considered.
Also as a side note I’m really curious as to, if this guy is as big a loser as you claim, a) how you even met this guy and let him get into your pants in the first place b) how strong his dick game is.
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