My on again off again boyfriend and I have recently decided to really try to make things work. Everything was going great. We had a lot of issues in the past, involving dishonesty (on my part) and disrespect (on his). I’m a model in LA. While we were on our last break, I shot with a photographer who contacted me on Instagram. He does a lot of implied nudity, but the photos are in good taste. Anyway I ended up doing some nude photos with this guy, and told my boyfriend about it.
The photographer posted a pic on me on Instagram for about 4 minutes, then deleted it. My boyfriend totally freaked out, said I’m not girlfriend material, that I’m worse than a whore because they at least get paid (the shoot was a “test” for my portfolio, I didn’t pay him and he didn’t pay me) and that I’m disgusting and ruined our relationship. He said I showed my body to the world and nothing is sacred anymore. He can’t get turned on by me because everyone’s seen me. I feel really really badly about the pictures. I didn’t feel bad when I took them, but his reaction to them has made me feel really cheap and dirty. What can I do? How can I get my boyfriend to see me as a good person again?
Less Than A Whore
Fuck that guy, and I don’t mean that literally, because you should literally stay far, far away from him. Wow, I’m legit angry right now. There are plenty of legitimate reasons to feel uncomfortable with your gf posing nude, and there are plenty of ways to go about expressing those feelings in a mature and respectful way. Obviously, your bf did none of these things, and chose to be literally the biggest asshole imaginable about it.
Honestly, he did you a favor. He’s an immature, misogynistic man-child. Also, a huge dick. Better you learn it now than further down the line. Like…holy shit. What can you do? RUN. Like, the fact that he called you worse than a whore and you feel like the bad person? Nope. All the nope. This is verbal abuse. Drop this guy like your clothes at a photo shoot (too soon?) and do not look back. I think it was our betch Maya Angelou who said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.” This is who this guy is. Don’t waste any more of your time or energy on him.
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