Dear Betch, Should I Tell My Boyfriend That I Hate His Sister

Dear Betches,

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now and everything is fine with us. The only thing not fine is that I really, really don’t like his sister. She’s slightly older than us but in maturity she’s about 12. She’s never been in a relationship, constantly whines about everything, plays victim like its her job, and is overly emotional. Even her parents ignore her most of the time because they can’t deal.

Let me give you an example of her personality for reference. A couple of weeks ago I was hosting a holiday party for friends and of course she came because we are obligated to invite her. She was fine most of the night – not really mingling with people and staying out of my way for the most part. Anyway, I have a pet peeve about people changing the music at my parties and I expressed this to her when she asked if she could change the song. An hour later she just went up and changed the music without asking. At MY party. So of course I snapped at her because, come on. Then about half an hour later she changed the music AGAIN, after I had told her twice, pretty nicely, not to. So of course I flipped. I told her to stop touching the music or else. And she freaked out and ran out of the party onto the street, drunk, without her cell phone. Mind you this is not the first time she has “run away”.

So at this point, I’m the hostess of a party and having this internal conflict – do I run after the cry baby or do I hostess my party that I didn’t even want her at in the first place? I didn’t go after her. She eventually came back. Clearly it was just a show for the attention. So now that you know her, let me get to the dilemma. How do I tell my boyfriend that if she weren’t related to him, I would literally never talk to her and I don’t like her, she annoys the sh*t out of me. It will break his heart, because she’s his fave sibling (not that he doesn’t see how truly annoying she is). But I feel like I can’t keep something this big to myself considering she may eventually be my sister in law. I need to tell him. Help?


The Intolerant Girlfriend

Dear Sister-Hater,

Your bf’s sister sounds immature and annoying, but I just don’t see why you need to tell your bf that you hate her. It’s not like he’s holding a gun to your head and asking you your opinion on her. Odds are he probably senses that she isn’t your fave person, and you don’t need to be a dick about it by rubbing his face in it. This is one of the few times where “if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all” applies. You’re just creating unnecessary drama where there doesn’t need to be any. Also, a bonus two cents: you should probably take a xanax next time you host a party…you way overreacted with the music thing. There’s no need to flip out on anyone. It’s just music.

Unnecessarily dramatic kisses,

The Betches

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