How Do I Stop Being Friends With A Member of My Bestie Group? Dear Betch…

Dear Betch,

I have a chronic case of Nice Girl Syndrome and I have learned to live with this illness. However, one side effect is that I don't know how to tell people I'm mad at them or don't want to be friends with them anymore. I hate confrontation and I hate when people fight so I tend to just keep my feelings to myself and deal with it later (never). This quick-fix works really well because even though I'm a nice girl, I don't tend to care about many things and it really takes a lot to make me mad. I have a friend that every little thing she does gets on my last nerve and it's just something I don't want to be around. So my question is, how do I break up with a friend who has never done anything flat out mean to me without looking like a total bitch?

Please help,

Nice Girl

P.S. She's in my friend group and would be hard to just ignore her.

Dear Nice Girl,

Pro tip: Next time, lead with the most crucial info. That being said, just because you're in the same friend group doesn't make dumping her impossible. 

You don't need to ignore this girl completely and act like she doesn't exist, but you also don't need to tell her your deepest darkest secrets. If you don't want to be around her…don't? Like, conveniently have a conflict the same night of her birthday dinner and “forget” to invite her to your housewarming. Whatever. You don't need to have a sit-down “it's not me, it's you” talk with her. Unless she like, killed your puppy, that's super unnecessary. Friends drift apart all the time and nobody bats an eye. Do it subtly enough and she'll never even realize she's been “pushed.”

Why can't we be friends?

The Betches

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